help me get into a girl's head

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  1. GlassUser

    GlassUser send an email not a pm OT Supporter

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    So say there's this girl I'm crazy about. I want to see her all the time I'll blow off anything but guy's night out to see her (and I'd even consider skipping out on that - but the answer is still no). She seems a tad cooler. She's said she's interested and likes me and all, but she's not expressive and I do almost all the calling and emailing and soliciting of dates. Now I know she's shy (she's told me as much, basically "i'm shy so don't read too much into me being reserved") and has that "proper" mindset where the guy is supposed to court the girl. But meh, I'm sensing a distinct imbalance of affections here.

    What do I do? Blah! I want her to think about me as much as I think about her.
     
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    Say, "Hi, do you want to go out to lunch/dinner sometime?" :dunno:
     
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    be yourself, do your thing, and quit overthinking the situation

    You will never fully understand what is going on in someone elses head. Its not worth the headache trying.
     
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    She wants to know what time. She's either legitimately busy, or she goes. But I'm always asking.
     
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    GlassUser send an email not a pm OT Supporter

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    Okay, so I want to understand a little.
     
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    are you sure you are ready for that? The female mind is the scarriest place in existense :rofl:

    She was upfront with you about her shyness and how she perceives relationships it seems. If she didnt care, i dont think she would do that. My guess is it was a step for her to tell you that much about herself, reaching out for you to take the reigns of the relationship.

    In situations with women like this, all you can really do is take control and see where it leads. If she doesnt want to be with you, or if you move to fast, I have a feeling she will let you know.
     
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    even shy and proper girls show interest if they are interested.
     
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    Good point. I might need to reconsider . . .

    Hmm I see. Here I am worried about respecting boundaries and preference. I need to just be an ass and grab her.
     
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    Well she did flat out say "I am interested"
     
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    my wife was incredibly shy. She never showed any interest until I stepped up and told her how I felt. Then the feelings came pooring out.

    Some people, male and female, have a past that makes showing any affection or interest hard until they get really comfortable with someone :dunno:

    Hell, I had a crush on my wife for the longest time before I told her anything. It was hilarious when we finally did though, but stepping up and telling her certainly wasnt easy because at the time we were good friends and she really didnt hint around or anything :dunno:

    Actually, most girls ive been with have been exactly like that. Unwilling to show any interest untill they are POSITIVE it is reciprocated.
     
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    but she doesnt take any initiative? just seems odd.
     
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    Yeah..
     
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    Well that's definite encouragement.
     
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    Take the knife to the throat. :x:
     
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    sk0rcher The universe is watching

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    Maybe you should stop calling her for a few days and she may call you...and don't act so desperate.
     
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    Id back off. We all want what we cant have. She knows she can have you. You seem to be at her beck and call. Back off, let her miss you, want you, think about you. If she doesnt come around, beautiful, move on to the next, its not meant to be. If she does come around, beautiful, have your fun.
     
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    If you want to keep her, stop putting out so much effort.

    Generally you should only reply to her e-mails, and end conversations on the phone first.

    I don't know this girl, but generally, the way you're acting is going to get you put in the friend zone, fast.

    Also, you're setting yourself up for a hard fall. You're not even with this girl yet, and you already want to spend all of your time with her. That's normal, but if she rejects you (which if she is like most girls, she is going to if you keep being too interested) it is going to hurt when you hear the words "I want to just be friends."
     
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    Then she just doesn't call.
     
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    I'm definitely not in the friend zone. I'm doing just enough to talk with her once or twice a week and nothing more.
     
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    Then she's just not that into you. If she was, she'd call.
     
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    Well THAT isn't what I want to hear!
     
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    :sadwavey:
     
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    yeah, well at least I'm not getting lied to
     
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    The Art Of Seduction....go cop it, find what you need, apply, thank me later.
     
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    already read it, not interested in a girl so shallow that it works
     

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