Help a man out here

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  1. TheEspionage

    TheEspionage New Member

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    Hey, I've currently been going out with my current GF for over half a year now, and things are pretty awesome and I enjoy the sex but there is one outstanding issue.

    My girl does not orgasm or finish/cum in any way shape or form.

    During a nice session of sex, she enjoys herself but claims it gets very sensitive as it goes on. She says it feels likes she needs to pee during sex at times as it gets more immense. During this period she clenches her her vaginal muscles as it gets sensitive and it forces me out quite often.

    She claims she enjoys the sex and there is nothing to worry about, but it sucks knowing I can't finish her.

    Can anybody shed any light on this? Any personal experience with such drama?

    Without sounding like a big head, I have a big penis and have never had such an issue in the past.
     
  2. CorpseStreet

    CorpseStreet New Member

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    Maybe she's a squirter. Some women who squirt say it feels like they are about to pee right before they squirt. Have her pee before every session and tell her to just relax and let go.

    Does she orgasm during masturbation?
     
  3. fray

    fray New Member

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    Please just let it go. If you love her and there is no other issue, don't dwell on it. I can assure you it is frustrating for her as well, but it does not mean she is not enjoying herself.

    Don't let your ego get in the way if the relationship.
     
  4. djshotglass

    djshotglass New Member

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    It's most likely all in her head. She needs to be able to let go and just enjoy it. Is she anxious?

    Like the poster above me said have her pee beforehand so she's not worried about peeing.
     
  5. djshotglass

    djshotglass New Member

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    I wouldn't say let it go just yet. It's entirely possible that she can orgasm but there's something he or she is doing wrong.
     
  6. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    sounds like she is purposefully holding back
     
  7. fray

    fray New Member

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    Well, I'm not saying don't work on things, but don't harp on it. They should discuss it and keep doing the things that get her close, but he should quit overanalyzing things and feeling bad. Doing so likely makes her feel like something is wrong with her or she isn't able to satisfy him due to something she is unable to control, and that sucks.
     
  8. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    do you :lick: until completation ?
     
  9. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    focking .
     
  10. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :werd: This sounds like your issue more than hers, bro. Some girls go most or even all their life without experiencing an orgasm. You can't take that shit personally.
     
  11. djshotglass

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    I disagree. I think that all girls are capable of it, just not all of them will let it happen.
     
  12. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Well I've heard doctors say otherwise. And even if were the case of a mental block, that doesn't make what I said any less true. Let's say hypothetically she has a mental block to it, what would trying to force the issue accomplish? The TS's best bet is to back the fuck off and let her take control of her own sexuality. If she asks for help or wants to work on things, fine, but otherwise, he'll only make her feel worse by pursuing the issue.
     
  13. djshotglass

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    well yeah if after trying a little bit it still doesn't work don't worry about it

    just don't not ever try
     
  14. fray

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    I'm not saying she can't, I'm saying his approach for the situation is wrong and he needs to chill out about it.
     
  15. dmcgill

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    Put her back on the floor, legs up over the end of the bed and insert yourself vertically.

    Should work, easier way to stimulate her clitoris.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Sounds like she is insecure about "letting go" and is a squirter.

    Has she ever had an orgasm before-whether manually or with someone else?
     
  17. chlywly

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    Classic case of insecurity with her body and mental issues. She will probably squirt if she learns to let go.
     
  18. TheEspionage

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    Thanks for the replies people.

    Its hard to let this issue simply go when I think she is capable of orgasming and she simply is not. I just want her to relax, all these ''things'' she claims happens when she gets sensitive like tightening her muscles I think are all self controlled.

    I don't know what to believe.

    I go down on her all the time, but what is completion when you've never seen the end with her? I guess I could just keep going but my tongue would die first I think.

    How would one best suggest going about teaching her to let go?
     
  19. XxvODvxX

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    The best part about this is after learning this fun fact, i was fooling around with my ex who would constnatly stop herself because she felt like she was "loosing control". After i had her pee before and then relax during and not care what happens, i got her to not so much squirt, but gush a little... at that point we were able to work further...
     
  20. TheEspionage

    TheEspionage New Member

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    Sweet, I'll try this approach. Not going to see her now till the weekend, but I'll let you guys know how I get on.
     
  21. mr cheese

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    I feel your "pain" lol

    I was with someone like that once.....

    I went down on her, no lie, for over 2 hours....
    she shook and writhed....

    but still no actual orgasm.....after 2 hours....
     
  22. Monsturr

    Monsturr New Member

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    I'm a girl, and I can't finish/orgasm either..and me and my SO have sex pretty much everyday..
     
  23. TheEspionage

    TheEspionage New Member

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    Can you orgasm with a vibrator?

    When you're having sex, do you get sensitive, tense up 'down there' when you're enjoying yourself?
     
  24. DawnsKayBug

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    Buy a vibe and a bullet..
     
  25. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I love how everyone assumes there is something wrong with the woman if the man can't make her cum. :ugh: Dr. Drew says some girls can't cum and Dr. Drew is the fucking man. Are you saying Dr. Drew isn't the man? Because I'll kill you.
     

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