Help a guy with confidence

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  1. shantz

    shantz New Member

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    Hey guys (and gals) - a little help here.

    First off - I dated this girl for over 3 years - I totally thought she was it for me, Out of the blue, it's over; for reasons I still don't know:ugh: . So in the meantime, I've been casually just seeing people off and on, nothing serious, nothing i'd consider girlfriend material. But now I've met this awesome girl through work, (we're both snowboard instructors) She's cute, considerate, and funny. So I don't really know how to approach her. We've gone out a few times, jsut casually with mutual friends, and we talk on the phone or email a few times a week. I really like this girl, but im a total pussy. We both lead very busy lives, and we live about 45 min. apart. We flirt all the time, and she's out-right told me she thinks I'm hot :naughty: Just looking for some ideas or opinions on how to approach this
     
  2. Deal with her case on time
     
  3. chairmanmao

    chairmanmao OT Supporter

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    just ask her casually if she'd like to go out sometime, like grab some coffee after work or something
     
  4. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    yea just say hi theres this <insert event here> i was wondering if you woudl like to join me.
     
  5. foad

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    Well......

    Tell you what.. Why not be honest with her.

    <you> I am a total pussy when it comes to asking women out, so do you want to go do something

    <her> HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Sure that sounds great.

    <you> Great i will get my camera and post pics on OT

    PROFIT WOOT!!! :bowdown:
     
  6. Britney Spears

    Britney Spears New Member

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    I've had it up to here with these posts. :mad:

    Read a book, use the search function, go to google or just kill yourself. Because there's no substitute for confidence. Don't try to cheat around it.
     
  7. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Wow thats pittyful!

    You are hating on people for asking questions you think are stupid, however you are getting upset about posts on an internet message forum. Sounds like you are greatly in need of a life. Before posting again maybe you should realize its the internet!
     
  8. Sybill

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    She answers your emails; she talks to you on the phone; she told you she thinks you're hot; I think it's pretty safe to assume that if you asked her out she'd say yes. Why not simply ask her to go snowboarding or something?
     
  9. brujito

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    Wow. That's some inconsiderate(sp?) shit right there.

    She thinks you're hot so you have onbe foot in the door. Then do what foad said:

     
  10. brujito

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    And pics would be good too :x:
     
  11. Britney Spears

    Britney Spears New Member

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    sum1 plz help me, lolzie! i'm g3tting tar flamez0rz bi teh n00bies!11
     
  12. BlMMERGUY

    BlMMERGUY New Member

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    get over your ex first of all. youre not a complete puss cuz youve been scanning your options. since she works at the lifts with you, go riding with her!!! be a positive person at work of course. after work, ask her if she wants to grab some hot chocolate. it makes you seem harmless. you need to establish yourself before the seasons over cuz you'll both go ur separate ways after. most important when dating dont compare your ex to the new girl. from what ive found, long distance relationships dont work well. 45 minutes qualifies as just that. start talking to her over the phone and get comfortable that way cuz ur gonna do a lot of it. good luck, ride on
     
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    Sounds like she's into you so that should work. Good luck!
     

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