SRS Heck of a way to start the new year.. Ex

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  1. Matt2000ss

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    Heck of a way to start the new year.. Ex *update*

    We were together a little over 2 years. Lived together towards the end. We've been broken up for a few months, but only out of complete contact for about 2 months. It wasnt pretty. Well, she started calling me 3 weeks ago saying that she was no longer seeing anyone and missed me and wanted to see how i was doing. She called me often and we just BSed. She wanted to go get coffee a few times but i never went. I was still very unsure about the situation. This was the one girl that i was the most serious with.. in the back of my mind I was wondering if maybe things would work out with us again. I was admittedly open to the idea. Well the last I heard from her was last tuesday, she was just saying Hi..

    Well she just called, said she had something to tell me. She's pregnant and getting married. She wanted to tell me before i found out from anyone else. She wanted to tell me bc we had been talking recently and she didnt want me to wonder why i hadnt heard from her.
    She said we wouldnt be talking again and that she wished me the best and said bye. I just said "okay" and hung up.

    I'm having a difficult time with this and I know i shouldnt. This is probably a blessing in disguise bc i've never truly gotten over it, I thought i had. There were so many things i wanted to say to her and ask her, but i didnt.. there is no point, nothings gonna change. I cant kid myself like i have been, i have no choice but to move on for real now.

    There's no going back. It'll never happen for us. I have to start the new year with a clean slate and totally forget about her.

    I dunno what kind of reponses i'm looking for here, its just a way for myself to my thoughts in order since i dont really have anyone to talk to. Thanks.


    **UPDATE**
    Been about a month and I'm doing good. I would say great, except that at times I do feel kinda lonely. No biggie though, i hardly ever think about what went down anymore, and when i do I think "Man, that chick really went nutz towards the end."

    Well funny thing happened a couple of days ago, I was on a mass email from her asking for birthday dates. Whatever, still on her list i guess, *delete*.

    Then today she IMs me, "hey" .. I just ignored it. After awhile she says "well, ok, I just wanted to say hi, and I hope ur doing well. bye".

    I just laughed it off. What nerve she has, or just no sense. Anyway, just thought i'd give u guys an update. Thanks.
     
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  2. PuppyCat

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    NBothing like getting your hopes up and then having them dashed on the rocks. It must be just a wee bit painful for you. Realizing that you can never go back is the first step to moving on, regardless of how painful it is. Being with someone for a fairly long time, breaking up....the connection is broken...connections, good solid ones are rare and leave a void and so many things unsaid/unasked.
     
  3. GRocks10

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    The way I see it.. in the few months that you two broke up - she was seeing other people and had her fun.. while in the process, she got preggo without realizing it just yet and things didn't work out with the other dude she must have been with.. so she decided to go ahead and get in touch with you and see if she could rekindle a relationship because her hopes in HER MIND was to see if someone out there was BETTER than you but I guess she realized that wasn't the case and came back "crawling".. just so you didn't go ahead and meet up with her for that coffee because in your heart you didn't feel right about getting with her because you were confused.

    I BELIEVE this was the best choice you made because now you find out she just magically became pregnant and NOW shes going to get married? And TO WHO? The guy that made her pregnant.. basically going into a marriage so that the child wouldn't become a bastard ( thats why they call them these days, right? a chick who has a child without marrying the father.. correct me if I'm wrong ) and she most likely will not be happy in the long term of the relationship with the guy.

    You know, I find whats interesting.. if she wasn't seeing anyone when she started getting in touch with you - it clearly shows that she went out and had some good ol fun with this other guy and ended up getting screwed by getting pregnant.. what makes me wonder is thinking if she possibly KNEW already that she was preggo when she got in touch with you and hoped that you would start a relationship again and then evetually she'd tell you she was pregnant.. but the crazy part and I hope she this wouldn't be an intentions of her but imagine SHE said that YOU got her pregnant or made you believe that you were probably the father if you guys would have sex.

    I do honestly feel this was a good way to end things and something above put this situation in place so you wouldn't go back to her and your own life ruined possibly.
     
  4. Mugwump

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    I love women and their timing.

    I had a female roommate kick me out of her apartment during a very stressful two weeks of finals at college and three weeks before I was going to Australia for a month (I was prepared to pay rent).
     
  5. teo

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    At every end is a new beginning.

    Interesting that she wants to cut off all contact - either she's still got feelings for you and wants to give her current relationship the best possible chance by getting you out of the picture, or her current beau is one jealous/controlling SOB. Either way, doesn't sound like it's a match made in heaven... it sort of sucks for you as far as emotional attachment goes but consider yourself lucky and move on.
     
  6. Darketernal

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    Rather a curse in disguise ' hi ,im just calling to say to you, im going to happily married,am pregnant and have a future, bye' :uh:


    Naturally this upsets you, because you had an idea 'of being with her'.

    Now you are feeling empty, but i tell you to fill your life with hope for the future, life is still what you make of it, therefore try to make the best of it for your life, as she might get divorced,miscarriages or god knows what. That whole idea of her being fortunate is based on nothing.

    Don't let these things get to you and 'snap out of it'. What you want is to live your live to the fullest. Sobbing over her leads to nothing, its actually a good thing that she said this, because now you know you can move on with your life. Just cherish the love that you had with her but sand over it, as we say here think about the past, dream about tomorrow, but LIVE today!.
     
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    wow. that pregnant thing kinda came outta the blue.
     

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