having troubble keeping it erect :(

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  1. chan815

    chan815 Skol Drunk

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    well i have troubble keeping an erection at various times of messing around with my gf. for instance, yesterday we were having sex and we finished, but 10 min later we wanted to do it once more, and i had erection and i had a little troubble getting it in, and right when i got in her i got slightly limp, not totally flacid, but not hard enough to have sex, and i was pissed, is there any way i can stop this problem? thanks :hs:
     
  2. RockChick

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    hhmmm, not really but i dunno cos im a girl.

    it happens, especially when you are tired... also when you smoke... do you smoke?
    thats all i can think of atm.
     
  3. chan815

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    yeah, i smoke bud occasionally, but i wasnt high at the time, thanks
     
  4. Ractoon

    Ractoon Shibumi in progress...

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    You may have just caught it on your refractory period. Usually there's a period after sex where it's just not possible to get/maintain an erection. This time varies per person. May try kegel exercises to strengthen, if you can get a partial hardon that's a good start.
     
  5. SquiGee

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    viagra is your friend
     
  6. chan815

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    haha i highly doubt i need viagra (im 18)
     
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    Ok, so is this the only time(s) that you have a problem maintaining an erection, 10 minutes after just having finished sex?

    There's nothing wrong, that's quite normal. Give yourself a little longer.
     
  8. chan815

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    yeah it mainly happens after i orgasmed, but i do recal it happening a few times when i havent, i take it that its diffrent when i havent :hs:
     
  9. Phreaxer

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    there is a timeframe after ejaculation (refractionary period i believe is the name) where is it hard, if not impossible to get another erection... just wait a little bit after you blow, and go again...
     
  10. SquiGee

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    Like I said, try viagra :o
     
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    he doesn't need Viagra... geez... :rofl:

    like others have said, just give yourself more time - really concentrate on her during that time (massage her back or run your fingers lightly over her body - just keep contact with her in some way so that she doesn't lose interest in a second go at it)

    also - in the other cases you mentioned, you might've been under a lot of stress - just relax a bit, try spending a bit more time teasing her, and whatever you do DON'T think about not getting hard - most of the time it's just a mind over matter problem caused by stress or negative thoughts...
     
  12. RedVsBlue

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    So you are a natural guy having natural problems that naturally...have been talked about here on average atleast 1 thread per day. But instead you needed to start a new topic on it?

    How about ya read whats already on here...there is some good info and you wont have to worry about getting stupid replys.

    How are there so many people out there trying to be sexually active that dont have a clue how thier own bodies work? Thats fucked up.

    /THREAD
     
  13. chan815

    chan815 Skol Drunk

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    oh ok im sorry :rollseyes: i dont visit this fourm or website everyday wich you obvously do, so just take the stick out of your ass and shut the fuck up
     
  14. Phreaxer

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    take it easy there limp dick. no need to get pissy. :rofl:
     
  15. RedVsBlue

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    Aww, is someone a little sad cause his dick wont work when he is with a woman? :mamoru:
     
  16. chan815

    chan815 Skol Drunk

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    it works...3/4ths of the time :hs:
     
  17. Mugwump

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    It's not that easy to search for and almost all the threads have no good or simple answers, hence why we make new threads.
     
  18. cfordhere

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    the seratonin released in your brain is a natural relaxation fluid, at the point of climax every muscle in your body contracts in some slight way so to expect the one muscle that has been erect for however long to keep getting the blood it needs to perform well you have to be blessed. some people are some arent. could look into like (forgive my age) yellow jackets before sex to keep the heart going or something like that but really no way to stop it.
     
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    ok, so not to start a new thread (bc that pisses people off) let's keep this one up for a few more. hypothetically, a young guy can't get it up, or goes limp during oral or intercourse. he claims stress isnt a factor, and that technique on the female's part is good. he's not a virgin, and didn't have this problem with the ex or while masturbating. any helpfull suggestions?

    (yes, i went back a year on various keyword searches pretaining to this problem, and information was sportatic, if any.)
     
  20. danromboj

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    There is nothing more annoying than being betrayed by your own body. Performance anxiety, can cause it. You're so worried about keeping it hard that you stop focusing on being with her and you lose it. If you focus on keeping it hard, it'll be more difficult to maintain the erection. If you stop thinking about your dick and start thinking about her, it'll help. Her reaction to your temporary (hopefully) difficulty is also important.

    Girls, pay attention
    If she is openly disappointed, mocking, or negative in any fashion, and only interested in the cock and why it's not at 100%, that will end the evenings festivities pretty much guaranteed.

    If she is more interested in being intimate (not just fucking), well get yourselves into each other and it'll respond when you stop focusing on "getting it up"

    Not everyone is aware when they're stressed out.
     
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    any suggestions for how the female can react in a more positive manner? what can we do to help? like, if in the middle of sex, it just isnt working, what do you suggest? taking some time out to just chill? keep going? masturbate on top of him? take a step back and just make out?

    its easy to say be interested in being intimate instead of just cock, but how exectly do you recomend showing that?
     
  22. danromboj

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    A lot of that depends on the relationship, and your partner.

    My ex (I still love her) was really into contested encounters. When I first met her she didn't want to use a safe word, she just wanted me to be able to tell when it got too intense. I have a deep respect for women and I had a lot of difficulty with that. I finally got her to agree to use a safe word, and those encounters became much more enjoyable. There were still times when she was so convincing that it just turned me off. Sorry, I ramble, back to the point.

    I'm betting that there are stress factors. It may be an underlying stress not an immediate worry.

    You can't really keep going if it's limp. Taking a step back and making out is good, try to take his mind off what's not working as he (sorry, both of you) would like it to work.

    *Masturbating on top of him sounds like a good idea

    *Ask for a back rub, have him sit just below your ass with his cock resting on it.

    *Offer to give him a back rub, when you're done with his back have him roll over. Then work on his chest, then go to his thighs, while sitting on it. He should react.

    *Try a different method of stimulation. Light touches vs hard hard vs light switch it up.

    My ex had no clue about using her hands when we started. At least her method didn't really do anything for me, but just before we broke up, she must've learned something because the last time was incredible.
     

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