Having a hard time fighting "temptation"....

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  1. Coco Monkey

    Coco Monkey OT Supporter

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    I'm with this girl. I love her to death. Really truely, i know she's the one im going to spend the rest of my life with.


    But still, as much as i try to fight it, i get tempted by the seduction of other women. This isnt the first time. I've faultered and gave in everytime prior to my current gf.

    Im fighting it now. Its pretty easy, considering im in Iraq. But i talk to girls on the internet and they're mostly ex's or just friends with benifits. And they all have the common answer of "i cant wait till you come back and i get your dick again" type conversations. :noes:

    Im tempted, and knowing my past, i know i will fuck up and cheat on my gf. i dont WANT TO!


    BOTTOM LINE: How do i control my dick and fight the temptation???
     
  2. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    Haha, you really love her...:rofl:

    The thought of being with another girl hasnt crossed my mind during any relationship. When you truly love, then you truly commit, and there is no temptation to say. Yea there are oppertunities to ruin my life and hers by cheating, but thats not really temptation because I never even think to actually do it at all.

    See your just an idiot by talking to those other girls. Why put yourself in that postion? Doing that you are playing with fire, and if you continue to do so your gonna fuck up. Happens to tons of people all the time.

    Bottom line: If you really love someone, temptation isnt an issue.
     
  3. MrEous

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    Temptation just means you aren't ready for a non-open relationship.
    Temptation is the way life is though...if you are truly happy with said girl and she isn't 'open' to new ideas then consider each temptation a test of your love.



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    Alternatively...stop reading if you are the type of person that gets emotionally involved from the act of sex. If you can't grasp what I'm about to say then that is your own opinion and I am not going to argue about it.

    Something that my fiance and I believe in is sex is just that. Sex. The mutual bond we have with each other goes further than just sex. She wants to see me with another girl...while I wouldn't want to do the same I wouldn't mind if she had sex with someone else as long as it wasn't behind my back. I trust her and she trusts me.

    We all have our temptations...do what you will with them.
     
  4. Nsx9red

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    :sadwavey: if you were my boyfriend, i would tell you maybe you need to go look up the definition of love and then get back to me when u have figured it all out
     
  5. Nsx9red

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    exactly!
     
  6. lauren

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  7. Cerridwen

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    :ugh::ugh: wow. Somehow I don't really think you love her, or you wouldn't be thinking of doing something that would (more than likely) hurt her terrible and your relationship!
    Here's a hint though, STOP TALKING TO YOUR EX's AND "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS". You don't need them anymore, it's disrespectful to your woman!
    Honestly, I feel sorry for your girlfriend.
     
  8. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Stop talking to the others that tempt you ;) Temptation is natural and human nature. But cutting yourself off from being a victim to temptation is a thing you must do if you are "in love" and in a serious relationship. It is a decision that you make, that is followed by an action :)
     
  9. [HRT]Squirrel Master

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    funny.... you still talk to me :naughty:
     
  10. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    :mamoru: Funny, I do not talk to you "like that" though.
     
  11. JordanClarkson

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    I'm having that problem right now. It's got more to do with than simply being in love. You can love something and be tempted at the same time. Temptation doesn't test your love. Temptation tests what you're willing to do to keep this love alive. If you really want to marry her eventually, the bottom line is that you cannot cheat. Once you do, you've fucked it up forever.

    Now it sounds to me like these girls you talk to don't even know that you have a girlfriend. The first thing you need to do is to tell them straight up and tell them that you're in love, that you're not interested in being with them anymore.

    It's probably best to not talk to these girls at all if they truly tempt you. It's one thing to get off on the possibilities--we all love attention--but it's another thing to actually go through with it.

    So if you really want a future with this girl, you have to keep your dick in your pants. And if you continue to talk to these girls, they are going to make you question your love for her. No relationship can survive when people close to you are hoping for its doom.
     
  12. Technik

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    It's true, you can totally love someone and still want to fuck every other girl in site. Its called being a male.
     
  13. islanderman7

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    well said.

    if thats to hard, cut your wang off
     
  14. Every time you think of cheating on your girl, keep in mind that if you do, you WILL get caught, and she WILL dump your ass. If that doesn’t keep your dick in your pants, then you probably don’t love her as much as you think you do. Next time you start talking to these ex's and friends with benefits, and they start flirting with you, simply tell them that you can be their friend, but you are not going to jeopardize your relationship over something as stupid as cheating, because cheating is stupid. That should take away some of the temptation. Cut it off at the knees. It will be easier to turn it down now rather than when you are face to face with one of these girls that wants your dick.
     
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    I think it's absolutely possible to love someone, yet do the deed, or be tempted to do the deed with someone else. Matter of fact, I've been there before, and yes I did love her cause when we broke up I was messed up for months. I loved her with all my heart, but she couldn't suck a dick to save her life, so I ended up bangin' my ex for the first 3 months of our relationship. She had oral skills I haven't been able to find again to this date, and some big ass titties. But anyways, this is my motto "It's only wrong if you get caught"
     
  16. SeaMack99

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    Sounds like you love the girl your just not "In Love" with her. My advice is to cut bait and get out before feelings get hurt and you loose a good friend.
     
  17. shit mang you got it bad mang
     
  18. kai-li

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    two words. "Salt Peter"

    And you should really think about if you truly love this girl or not, you can be tempted, but you keep putting yourself back in the path of temptation and thats what is BAD...
     
  19. dfekt

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    porn for teh win!!!11
     
  20. Coco Monkey

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    after reading all your posts, i really truely feel like a piece of shit. i think me thinking about these other girls is seriously just the LACK of contact with the outside world. i blame Iraq.

    As suggested, i've cut ties with any of those girls who just wanted the dick, including flings and ex's.

    Thank you...
     

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