SRS Have you ever fought for someone that was taken?(anonymous thread)

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  1. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Have you ever fought for someone? I don't mean physically.

    I mean continuously pursued them. In a good way, not like a creepy stalker way. Always were your true self around them, kept telling them how you feel about them, asking them to hang out. ect. Where they eventually wanted to be with you.

    Now I don't mean where this person wanted anything to do with you. As an example, say you date someone that has a significant other. Have you ever fought for them like mentioned above so they would leave the other person and be with you?

    If something like the above has happened to you, I'd like to hear the story and outcome.
     
  2. Deadhead9150

    Deadhead9150 Banned

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    Yes I have, and it didn't end well. It ended in me being the person she always complained to about everything and I was the one who was her support. It went on for 2 years with me trying to show her how much I cared about her compared to the douchebag trash that she kept dating. I finally couldn't handle it anymore and I stopped talking to her altogether. I still long to be with her. :hs:

    I assume you're looking for someone to post a story with a positive outcome to give you some hope that it will happen for you. Don't. For every story where there is a positive outcome there are dozens like mine that just end in misery for you.

    It's also probable that people you know have already told you that you are on a fools errand and their advice has gone unheeded. You want to believe that it can work for you, that small chance and cling to it. I suggest you don't. This, I'm sure, sounds pessimistic but it is reality.

    Unfortunately, love isn't reasonable, it isn't logical, and, as a result, it causes people to do crazy things and ignore the counsel of others. You will probably continue to pursue it regardless and will most likely end crushed. I hope that I am wrong for your sake, and that you can either let it go, or she(he?) comes to appreciate you in the way in which you seek. Best of luck.
     
  3. Swerve

    Swerve OT Supporter

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    I would never let the person know you like them like that, but try to be so cool that they want you instead of trashy significant other.

    But overall, I agree with deadhead the most.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Go into the Vag. Underneath the "Most Common Threads" sticky you'll find a section of threads filled with people who went after others with boyfriends/girlfriends. I'd be safe to say 99% of the time those relationships never work out if they even begin.
     
  5. Pwen

    Pwen Guest

    No, there have been times where I wanted a girl and she was taken, so I backed off. I always back off in those situations.

    The closest I can come to this is porn stars. I keep looking up the same porn stars. I don't try and make contact with them or anything but I keep looking up the same girls and watch them get basted by other dudes..and I don't feel jealous at all.

    I guess I can't relate to this.
     
  6. verbal

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    I'm sorry, but I lol'd.
     
  7. Pwen

    Pwen Guest

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    Come on girl, you don't need those homo's in the pron industry, come live with me at my parents house, you'll be happy. I'll cook you Chef Boyardee. Forget the fame, money, good sex and happiness.

    So what if I live with my moms and don't have a job right now and am unemployed? Where are you goin?

    :p
     
  8. Deadhead9150

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    :wtf: but aside from that her face is busted.
     
  9. Pwen

    Pwen Guest

    Then get behind and:





    :buttsex:
     
  10. kiri

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    wtf tranny out of nowhere
     
  11. Pwen

    Pwen Guest

    Wait.

    I spanked it to a tranny?

    ...

    oh well

    :wackit:
     
  12. Pwen

    Pwen Guest

    Cereal, she's damn filthy but not a tranny.
     
  13. no lol today

    no lol today Soy la bailarina de la muerta. OT Supporter

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    My friend has given in to guys who do this. I do not understand it.

    I call it being a pushover, but different strokes for different folks.
     
  14. Midnightrose

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    I had some one fight for me........and it worked but then he got all paranoid because if I did that for him, would I do it for someone else?

    I was totally honest to him but ya I wish things coulda happened naturally.

    It's a lot more fun that way.
     
  15. MattThom01

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    I did once...but it didn't work out.

    Usually one of three things happens:

    A) Person gets sick of you chasing them, tells you to fuck off.
    B) You get sick of person not responding, and begin to resent them and hate them.
    C) Person leads you on, plays you for the sucker.

    Mst of the time, it's not worth chasing after someone who is taken.
     
  16. Darketernal

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    It's already known that she wants me and I believe her. She's currently in a ten year relationship and she is not happy. She's just going through the motions and pretending everything is fine, when in reality it isn't. She's expressed this to him but he's the type to just let it go in one ear and out the other.

    Of course, this is what she's told me. I believe her. She's backed off from me so she can figure out what she needs to do with that part of her life. Part of me wants to leave her be and let her figure it out but the other part of me wants to stay in her head. Make her always see what she has with me.

    The way we came together was completely unexpected and totally from left field. We both agree it was a God thing.

    You're both right-- this will probably end badly for me. But right now I can't help but do what my heart is telling me I should do. If I just left her alone and didn't "fight" for her, I'd regret it later. I don't want any more regrets in my life.

    Thanks for your replies.
     
  17. Ricky

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    id never go after a girl if shes taken :o no matter how much i like her.
     
  18. sp4rkle

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    Years ago, I was part of one of these 'triangles'. Didn't end well, they never do, at least one, and probably three, folk end up in pain.

    You know it won't end happily, or you wouldn't be asking, I think.

    But, yeah, it's hard when your heart rules your emotions.

    Good luck
     
  19. MattThom01

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    If the guy is really so terrible, why would she not leave him, or start getting a divorce, or whatever the case may be?

    Don't believe words, look at actions. She may say he's terrible, but she's still with him, so he can't be 100% bad...she's getting something out of it.

    Most likely, since she knows you like her, she'll continue to play the sympathy card to get additional attention/money/time from you.

    Tell her "if you want to be with me, you need to end your current relationship".

    I would bet money she'll come up with some excuse as to why she can't do it.

    Cliffs: You're probably going to be used.
     
  20. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    My ex had a girlfriend when I met him and entered a relationship with him.
    BBAAAAAAD move.
    Although I did get a beautiful daughter out of the relationship so it had it's use :)
     
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  22. Pioneer

    Pioneer Are you annoyed? You will be.

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    Not for 2 years but she moved away 4 years ago and is now married to him.

    That's all I've got to say ..... that's how hard it is.
     
  23. quzer

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    Negative, I know this is very hard to do but you should try to fall in love with your head first, then let your heart follow.

    Also one thing I don't get is why the taken person complains about their significant other behind their back instead of taking issues directly to them and trying to resolve them. I've been in that situation before where a girl that has a BF wants to trash talk him, I refuse it and tell her that if she has issues with him she should resolve them with him, talking shit about him to me is not going to fix anything for her or make her feel any better in the long run. Plus it's distasteful to talk shit about the person you're supposedly in love with.
     
  24. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    I hate people who pursue people in relationships. Whatever happened to respecting your fellow man. If you do manage to steal someone from a relationship, all you do is prove that they will leave you for someone else in a heart beat.
     
  25. METALLlC BLUE

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    I'm going to go against the grain here. They say "If you love them, let them go" -- but I don't think it applies in this context. Relationships are messy, and often things happen at the seemingly most inappropriate times. Sometimes we're confused, and sometimes we don't know what we really want or who we really belong with. I think most of us are trying to just do what we know is right in our hearts and not just in our minds, but that in our minds we want to be safe.

    I don't believe we should always follow the mind -- often, but not always, because a lot is missed in life -- including love -- if we play it safe and try to control everything and assume we have everything figured out.

    Do you love her?
     
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