Have you ever cheated?

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Have you ever cheated?

  1. I've cheated with someone.

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  2. I've cheated on someone.

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  3. I've done both.

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  4. I've done neither.

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Hopefully this will be anonymous so that we get actual votes.
    Read the definitions just to be sure we're all on the same page here.

    "Cheated with" means you hooked up with someone who was already in a monogomous relationship with someone else.

    "Cheated on" means you hooked up with someone when you were already in a monogomous relationship with someone else.

    "Hooking up" means anything from kissing to sex.
     
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    127.0.0.1 New Member

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    cheated with....
     
  3. Buttons

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    cheated on someone. 3yr relationship, 1yr engagement. she ended it when she found out i cheated. i have never and will never cheat again, it ruined everything i had. :wtc:
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    why'd u do it, if i may ask
     
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    Many people have asked and they've all gotten the same answer: i really really don't know. My SO at the time was everything i had ever wanted in a gf/wife, we rarely argued/fought.:hs:
     
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    single occurrence at a party? or a repeat thing
     
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    It was a one time thing at a friends place. She wouldn't have found out but I felt guilty and told her a few days later.
     
  8. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    did u have sex with the girl?
     
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    Everything except sex
     
  10. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    was there emotional attraction or just physical
     
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    It was strictly physical. I had only met the girl that night, sitting around talking with friends, they fell asleep and one thing led to another.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    how long has it been since this happened
     
  13. RedVsBlue

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    since you are in the spotlight right now...:)

    Do you think this could have been avoided if you thought ahead and werent in this situation at all? Or was it just another normal night, and things just went to far?

    I guess in my mind all cheating can be avoided by not putting yourself somewhere where the oppertunity may arise. I forget what its called, but I knew I was always told to avoid the possibility that things may even look wrong. If you would have followed this, would things have turned out different?

    May be a stupid question...sorry bout that. :hs:
     
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    Ive done neither by the way. I mean there was elementary school where you have like 3 girlfriends and you may kiss them all if you are lucky :rofl: , but in all seriousness i have never cheated. I dont think I could, just because I am an insanely analytical person. I think through everything time and time again before I do it, and I would fear the reprocussions and pain that would come as a result. It was just never worth it. If I wanted someone else, I would just end the relationship I was in first :dunno:
     
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    Have not, likely will not...
     
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    why the hell did you do that?:eek3:
     
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    :rofl:

    Sometimes you just feel guilty.. In my case.. I didn't.. I wonder if it has anything to do with the fact she cheated to be with me..
     
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    high prob she will cheat on you in that case
     
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    i've hooked up with 2 girls who had boyfriends at the time.

    do i feel guilty, no. one girlw as on the off and on with her boyfriend, they broke up a few days later.

    the other one i really cared/care for and wanted to make things work, i guess i thought maybe she'd leave him. he lived in new york. he just moved out here and im gonna stop seeing her, i jsut cant deal with her not being with me, her talking about him, her being with him, it makes me sick.

    meh.
     
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    Ive done both back in my highschool years. I wouldnt do either again and regret the anguish that I might have caused anyone. Back then I was thinking me me me, that logic has since matured to 'do unto others as you would like done to yourself.'
     
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    i fingered a chick when i had a gf once...we were goin out for like 4 years, she was away at school, things were really really bad, we were holding on for no reason, i was a litle tipsy, fingered a girl for like 1 minute...never felt guilty about it because we were so far gone by then...i think we broke up like 2 days later or something, but i never told her and she doesnt know...i guess it still counts as cheating tho...
     
  23. Dan-blackline

    Dan-blackline Registered Sex Offender

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    Some girl asked to see me in my underwear on webcam, and after her hassling me for a while, I obliged.

    My girlfriends says thats cheating, but I personally don't.
     
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    I've never cheated on a girl... i HAVE had a girl cheat on her bf with me, i was single though (not that that rationalizes it, it was an asshole move).
     
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    If you thought that ur gf would be ok with it, then it wasn't cheating. If you thought she would get upset, and you guys had never talked about such a situation before, then I guess it was cheating.
     

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