FRK have any of you had 2 b/f 's that new of each other?

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  1. djnarush

    djnarush Pick Up Truck Drifter

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    have any of you had 2 boy/girl friends that new of each other?

    ok, has anyone ever been with two people, who both knew about one an other?
    ok, i have a fiancee, and well, a GF. the GF knows about the fiancee, hell, all three of us has been going out together pretty often. for a few months now. but the fiancee doesnt know about the GF.
    now they get along great.
    both r bi curions, but the age dif of the two are to great. to condider each otehr. im thinking/wondering about telling my fiancee about the GF.
    the fiancee has joked about me "messing" with the other gurl, and really doesnt get jeleous of when i hang out with the GF. i have a feeling she might know anyways, but who knows
    i dunno, if i could pull this off, i would be the happiest mother fucker out there :p.

    any of you ever pulled something off like this?


    thoughts? ideas?
     
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  2. Triple-C

    Triple-C New Member

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    This thread should just said D I S A S T E R because thats what your situation spells.....

    and im not trying to hate or anything, but I think its gonna be trouble since your fiance doesnt know yet...

    good luck i guess
     
  3. djnarush

    djnarush Pick Up Truck Drifter

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    well, i dont have to tell the fiancee what i HAVE been doing, i can just throw out there that i WANT to..
     
  4. Improvolone

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    Sounds like you coudln't care less about her...
    I fucking hate when people hide shit in relationships. Makes my skin crawl.
     
  5. djnarush

    djnarush Pick Up Truck Drifter

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    oh, i also forgot to mention the fact that my fiancee actually wants to join a few swingers clubs.
    we havnt tired swinging yet, but we both want to.
    so me with an other woman is not the worst thing for her
     
  6. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    i was once engaged to a guy who had a gf, then i wised up.


    now, for the past year ive had a fwb, who for a good portion of the time actually lived with me. he dated two other girls while with me, and i dated a few guys, but it was causual. we had an understanding of no sex with others (oral anal or vaginal), just dates...our fwb was monogomous in that regard.

    i know you think this isnt possible, but somehow it worked. we are less fwb and more just friends now... really trying to keep it just friends. so far so good. but we kept it open from the start, no lies or decieving. and it was never with a goal of a 3some or swinging...

    however, what you are doing is cheeting....
     
  7. Improvolone

    Improvolone New Member

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    But you not telling her that you are sexually active with other people is, from a health concern if nothing more
     
  8. djnarush

    djnarush Pick Up Truck Drifter

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    i always use condoms when im with other people
     
  9. Improvolone

    Improvolone New Member

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    Those don't stop everything
     
  10. dumb_end_user

    dumb_end_user Sad Gus

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    I am married and have had a girlfriend. Yes, they both knew about each other.

    I can't understand what the fuck you are asking though.
     
  11. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    doesn't matter if she's up for it, you're deceiving her by keeping it a secret. even if i was in a relationship where i was cool with seeing my g/f fuck another guy, i'd be uber pissed if i found out she was doing it behind my back for the last 6 months.

    it's a trust/honesty thing, and a health concern as well.
     
  12. xela

    xela So say we all!

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    I could barely understand what he was asking too. :hsugh:

    The only thing I have to contribute is your fiance may be into the thought of swinging, but when you're a swinger, you chose your partners together and don't keep secrets from each other when it comes to being with other people. You are cheating and well...that's not cool.
     
  13. CBurgerjr

    CBurgerjr League leading 49 HR in 1986.

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    Dude...Your cheating.

    Want you try asking the girlfriend to make a move on your fiancee 1
     
  14. Ninjarider

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    So why not tell her about it? Obviously you're worried she won't be totally cool with it. My whole family got screwed by infidelities and you should be man enough to fess up to your fiance if she's so open and cool! Just my $0.02
     
  15. BrokenHalo

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    i've said it before and i'll say it again for posterity...

    cheaters should be left with only their loneliness, solitude, and about a dozen different STD's.
    cheaters NEVER prosper.
     
  16. BaneBoi

    BaneBoi ƒł٤şħ Ąđđίçŧ

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    I have several gfs and a bf atm. They all know about each other (and sometimes play together). Honesty is the only way to go.

    qft
     
  17. naughtie

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    :werd:

    Oh, well then I guess that makes it ok. :rolleyes:
     
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  18. naughtie

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    So if she says yes, and you are all in bed together, inevitably she is going to find out that you and the third have already experienced each other's genitals. What will you say to her when she is walking out the door? Just a thought. :)
     
  19. Improvolone

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    As a note, I only consider someone a cheater if they cheated, and didn't come clean about it. People can make mistakes, no matter how horrible. Just... fucking man up to them.
     
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    Nah, not for me. Its still not acceptable. I've known plenty of guys who were honest about it after getting caught... and then they just went back and did it again because they were forgiven. Its bullshit. No mercy... NO MERCY! :mamoru:
     
  21. xela

    xela So say we all!

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  22. naughtie

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    I agree. If a person commits murder, and confesses, they are still a murderer. Extreme example, but still. There is no damn excuse, IMO. If the husband or wife or g/f is being abusive or boring or stupid or whatever, get out of the relationship FIRST. Then you can fuck around all you want.
     
  23. Improvolone

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    They got caught, and then they were honest. Not my point.
    If I cheated on any SO (which I've never done and of course never want to do), I would let them know... damn near ASAP. Before getting caught. Let them know what happend.
    Being honest when you get caught, is not being honest in the first place.
     
  24. Milin

    Milin It's Terminal.

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    this shows a total misunderstanding of what swinging and the morality within the subculture is about.

    even swingers would think what you are doing is low and scummy. Cheating, to the swinging community, is about honesty and hiding things. Sure they may swap partners, but they are always honest about it. They are more about keeping their internal natural desires and attractions (physical) to other people open in the relationship.

    What you are doing is pretty shitty according to anyone's standards. It won't bother your fiancee that you are with another woman. What is going to piss her off and hurt her beyond anything else you could ever do is that you hid it from her isntead of sharing it with her.

    Basically, you really fucked up and are heading straight for a huge disaster. Should have come to this forum and asked about it BEFORE you got the girlfriend.
     
  25. MIK3

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    these kinds of secrets just lead to trouble
     

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