Has porn ruined sex for you?

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  1. PitScar

    PitScar Yeah, that's my realtor's name

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    I see a lot of threads in here that relate back to unrealistic expectations, or virgins who get grossed out by stuff that's "not normal" (when normal is defined by the video's on their computer most likely). I think that the way porn goes, it doesnt do anything but ruin sex for people. Take that how you will.

    I realize some couples use it together, but I think that the majority of people who watch it just end up using it as a measuring stick thats very hard to live up to.
     
  2. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    I like porn. I think that is may give some girls/ guys unrealistic expectations about what they are supposed to be doing, and unrealistic expectations about how sex is supposed to "look". But I think in general it gives you something to work for, and new ideas about positions/ etc.

    You just have to take it for what it is I guess.
     
  3. Eris

    Eris Yes please

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    I've never been into porn, but I don't let it sway my views of sex. I do agree that people tend to get unrealistic expectations from it. Unrealistic views are also brought on by love scenes in TV, flim, and print. I think people see these things and assume that - that is the way sex is supposed to be (obviously these are people with little or no experience). Sex doesn't always have to be raw and dirty nor does it always have to sweet and sensual.

    It's a matter of being open minded (in general and sexually). One also must be able to seperate sex and love.

    The more experience we get the more we learn.

    So, no porn hasn't ruined sex for me! :)
     
  4. David02

    David02 Guest

    I can't think of anything that could ever RUIN sex for me. If anything porn has made sex better for me. It has given me some great ideas, and even taught me some good techniques.
     
  5. MovieMan84

    MovieMan84 Here we go

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    I don't find it at all detrimental, but I have a very well-defined sense of fantasy vs. reality. I think the problem comes from those who view porn and assume that real life models it closely.
     
  6. lauren

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    i didnt watch porn until recently (im 22 now) so much of my sexual ubringing was unscathed by pornography.

    i can see how it could create unreasonable expectations, but what bothers me more are those whod rather watch it than be with somoen real.
     
  7. StopDrop&LOL

    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    the only thing pr0n has done for me was elevate my standard for women. whenever i met a girl the first thing i usually did =was measure them up to the ones i seen on the internet...nice body, big tits, perfect ass...than i wouldwake up and realize thats only a fantasy.

    I have passed up on a few girls because of this. i relaized later that any girl who is good looking, some in their own way, are alot better than masturbation, so ive come to my senses.
     
  8. dfekt

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    without pr0n, i wouldnt know what to do with a girl for my first time. its taught me too much and gave me so many awesome ideas for love-making that i think it really is a great gift to life! i dont really see what is so "unrealistic" about porn..? it IS possible to last as long as the pornstars do, it IS possible to have dicks as big as them, it IS possible to have a massive load of cum like them, it IS possible to suck dick as good as the pornstars, it IS possible to fuck her hard as they do! nuff said...the only drawback is the obvious fake orgasms, but if you think about it...thats also quite realistic for some women !
     
  9. Eris

    Eris Yes please

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    True, but NOT everyone IS built that way, or last that long etc. There are certain persceptions that come from porn - no one person is alike. Where some excel others lack.

    Porn can be fun when watched with your partner and it can broaded your horizon as for as learning and technique.

    There are plenty of people who enjoy and benefit from it, there are also those who see it was REAL sex.

    Most pornstars don't even have sex like that in their personal lives. They are tame at home. While yes they do enjoy it, it's work nothing more nothing less. They are actors - and some people just don't get that.

    (edit: whoa, talk about dejavu)
     
  10. dfekt

    dfekt New Member

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    my god it must be terribly difficult to maintain a relationship if youre a pornstar
     
  11. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    I like porn and I still like sex :dunno:
     
  12. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    ive never watched porn in a serious fashion. Hell I really didnt even use porn to much for jacking off...i have a better imagination than any porn anyways. I always thought of porn being more for comedy purposes. If I ever watch it, even with my girl, I dont think we could have sex while watching it...we would both be laughing to hard. Its just so unrealistic :rofl:
     
  13. Wolf

    Wolf No one plans to take the path that brings you lowe

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    :werd: Shit's so fake. Just makes me :rolleyes: most of the time.
     
  14. Darrin

    Darrin Eat. Sleep. Arrest People.

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    when i was young i'd watch it, and as i got older i started to realise that porn != real life. The over exaggerated groaning (some girls dont groan at all), the unrealistic sizes.. i dont watch it at all now. infact the only porn i have downloaded in the past year was Paris Hiltons, and that was out of curiosity :p
     
  15. Tornado6

    Tornado6 When the wind set down in funnel form and pulled y

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    I think a lot of people my age and upwards have an entirely different view of porn. Yes, I grew up and became sexually aware, and even sexually active before the internet was a household item. I did find a porn tape and try to watch it when I was about twelve years old, but it was bad eighties porn, so I didn't feel terribly corrupted by it. If I did see any pornographic images, they were in print, either magazine pictorals, or a raunchy book. Nobody in my town even carried movies for rent until I was a junior in High School.

    I learned about sex the old fashioned way - experience. I was lucky enough to have a more experienced, and very patient boyfriend at the time. I owe a whole lot of my sexual personality to him.

    Anyway, I still tend to prefer written pornography. I've got a big stack of Penthouse Letters magazine in my bedstand. However, I've gotten more serious about watching porn lately. I don't really care for the short clips you can download, and I don't like watching it on the computer. I like to see the entire scene on my TV, so I prefer renting DVDs. My s/o says I'm very picky, but that's because I don't buy the super fake, super stupid porn. It has to be good sex (or at least look like good sex) before I'll be even remotely interested in it. It hasn't done a thing to harm my sex life. If anything it has been enhanced. :naughty:
     
  16. Inthemidstofinsanity

    Inthemidstofinsanity New Member

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    I feel like it's ruined it for me because my boyfriend looks at some stuff online that he doesn't tell me about and I feel like I am not all he wants sometimes. But believe me I am more than willing to try almost anything, but he just won't let me into his porn jerking off world.
     
  17. THT

    THT The easy way is always mined

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    So let him catch you browsing cumonherface.com or something and he'll get the idea.
     
  18. Guitar_fool

    Guitar_fool Guest

    squirting 101 has helped me alot and hopefully when my SO gets back i can try it on her.
     
  19. themacstallion

    themacstallion The electric sheep are dreaming up your fate

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    :werd: good thread. i try to stay away from porn because i know it will ruin my sex life.
     
  20. wrapster

    wrapster Guest

    i like porn too
     
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    my boyfriend and I's love for porn enhances our relationship in and out of the bedroom.. but perhaps, thats just us:)
     
  22. D

    D A guiltless state of self awareness.. The process

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    I worked at an adult bookstore for quite some time. *shrug*
    After awhile you barely notice the racks of porn, & fake body parts surrounding you.
    Nothing compares to real life.
     
  23. Inthemidstofinsanity

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    now see I would like to introduce porn into the bedroom but we talked about it and he feels like it would be taking away from the focus (making love to me) I kind of feel that way but also know that bringing it into the bedroom would help to alleviate any apprehension of his porn watching on my part
     
  24. audrey

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    Hell yeh!


    When I get fast internet I might play in teh landfill, do they have home movies? :rofl: :noes: :rofl: :naughty:


    I want to see girls having orgasms! Now! :mamoru:
     
  25. audrey

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    WTF! Maybe she is scared to pee on you. Tell her she wont pee if she is close to climax :hsd:
     

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