SRS Has anyone gotten the "friends" speech and later on things turned around?

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  1. dukedevil0

    dukedevil0 Stop looking at me, swan.

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    Just curious if anyone has gotten the friends speech from someone they were interested in and then later on down the road things turned around.

    Stories?
     
  2. alexs001

    alexs001 Mawk! Mawk!

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    Not yet here...and it's happened at least 4 times in my life so far. I wish I could learn how to move on. It's happening right now. :hs:
     
  3. Spiritus

    Spiritus Active Member

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    has anyone actually stayed friends... lol
     
  4. dukedevil0

    dukedevil0 Stop looking at me, swan.

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    very good point
     
  5. Bleed

    Bleed New Member

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    yes turned it around twice

    no on the second question
     
  6. veonake

    veonake OnT poster, OT lurker

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    Yes, about 2 years down the road I guess. Don't really feel like telling the story, but I do have a couple things to say. I think it "turned around" because we saw each other less for a while and grew separately as individuals and then as we once again grew closer, we found common ground in a sense. Secondly, at least in my case, if you do break up, it will probably ruin your friendship, and it's up to you and her whether or not that is worth risking.
     
  7. bait

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    Yup. With the girl im actually with right now, she broke up with me last summer, citing just wanting to be friends etc. I just kept talking to her on a friendly basis and she kind of realized there was still something there. I of course always knew. ;)
     
  8. dukedevil0

    dukedevil0 Stop looking at me, swan.

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    so you're sayin there's a chance :o
     
  9. JordanClarkson

    JordanClarkson OT Supporter

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    I've only gotten the speech a couple times when I was 15 and 18. Things didn't change and our friendships did not continue. I liked them before we became friends though. I don't normally fall for girls that I'm already friends with as I see them more like sisters. The best advice I can give you is to not act, think, or feel desperate around them. You have to make your move and do it boldly. You gotta understand that girls will pretty much never make the first move
     
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  10. B_RowL

    B_RowL OT Supporter

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    I took good friendships with girls for granite, until a ruined a couple by trying to get with them. You don't realize what you have until its gone.
     
  11. alexs001

    alexs001 Mawk! Mawk!

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    this made me feel better :)
     
  12. slims

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    It did for me I was a friend for 2 years and we beated around the bush for a while, she liked me but I didn't like her, I liked her but she didn't like me. We finally dated for a month and it ended. Girls don't know what they want, they can see a TV show and realize they love you. It's crazy.
     
  13. chips

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    That happen to me with my best firend, she had a history that i wasent happy about and after we started dating/fell in love history did repeat its self. and she did the same thing to me that she had done to people in the past.
    If she is a good firend keep it that way its not worth it in the long run.
     
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    Happened with me and my best friend :) Back in december, i asked her out on a date...and she declined. Said she didnt feel the same way, and etc. So i kept at it, being a friend, hanging out, etc.

    ...eventually, in February, i won her heart over :love:
     
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    Happen to me.... Friends do make the best lover's
     
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    never



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  17. the slowness

    the slowness OT Supporter

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    It has only turned around for me once,I was 16.Hey man, move on.If you keep wasting your life on these kind of women,your going to get shafted for being nice.The only reason your "friends" with this girl is b/c you like her(looks problay caught your eye).She is "friends" with you b/c you would most likely do anything she asked for.Take this from a guy that has been thru this crap more than a few times:o:hsd:.You can either dick a girl or be dicked;)
     
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  18. BoypussY

    BoypussY game over.

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    sometimes the best gf's start out as friends. this gives you a chance to really learn about her and know what you're getting yourself into.

    in most cases i start out as friends only and the girls usually get closer to me.
     
  19. Repost

    Repost PENCIL DICK

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    I'm with 'The One' now, and she once told me 'we're just the friends type..'

    :)
     
  20. SeaMack99

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    I had a buddy that hung around for during the whole friends thing then later moved on cause she wouldnt give it up. Needless to say she didnt care....so where they really friends?
     
  21. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Yes. My current partner and I both said that we were over the opposite sex and just wanted a friendship. We hung out all the time and spoke, just like best friends.

    Then one night we kissed and never looked back. Four years on...:big grin:
     

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