Hard time making her cum..

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  1. vizyn

    vizyn New Member

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    So we've been seeing each other for a few months now and have sex quite frequently. I've learned what she likes and what gets her off but I have a bit of an issue pulling it off.. When she gets close she tightens her muscles and its like someone flips a switch for me.. suddenly I'm about to finish. We'd basically cum at the same time only there's a problem.. she wont' let me wear a condom and doesn't want me to bust inside.. so I have to pull out and it happens to be right before she's about to cum. Every damn time she gets close it happens. I don't even feel like I'm close at all right until she starts tensing up when she gets close. It doesn't matter if its 2 minutes in or 10, every damn time.

    She tells me she hates the way condoms feel and would rather keep trying without.. so I have no idea what to do. Advice?
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    It's the excitement/sensation of her reaching climax/orgasm which is making you cum. Its an instant turn on, believe me, happened to me when I first started dating a paticular girl :o. No matter what, its all mental. First 5-6 times we had sex, EVERY time she'd get ready to cum (and she always had multi's) I'd get the feeling of, 'oh shit, not now', :rofl:, but its about working past that.

    For me, I get off when KNOWING my partner is getting off. So me seeing her reaching climax is WHY I always came. I realized that and worked on it. Theres no greater pleasure than seeing/feeling your SO orgasm. Biggest turn on ever.

    I learned that you just gotta keep working at it. Its a 100% mental stimulation thats causing you to 'react' the way you do when she starts 'tightening' up.

    Just a reason for more sex bro :dunno:
     
  3. Cobra Commander

    Cobra Commander OT Supporter

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    I know the feeling.

    Here's what you do.

    When you feel her start to tense up hard on your dick, PULL OUT

    Give it about 10-15 seconds, switch positions, talk dirty (i love the way your pussy feels..etc) then toss it back in..go slow and make it feel sensual

    However it is that you were about to get her off before, do it again. When she tenses up..PULL OUT

    Keep doing this for 3-5 or however many times that you want and after a few times she will get so turned on that you are holding out for her (knowing that you are doing this for her) and the next time take it home..

    Give her all that you've got and don't pull out until you are on the brink of a nuclear explosion..

    Works for me everytime.

    Good luck mate
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    ^^^

    Sound advice :bigthumb:
     
  5. vizyn

    vizyn New Member

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    I figured it was mental.. just have no idea how to get past it. I will give the above advice a go and hopefully have some success - thanks.
     
  6. Deepsouthwrx

    Deepsouthwrx If in doubt, flat out!

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    my ex was the same way, soon as I was about to pull out she'd be RIGHT there, so I got into the habit of a soon as I'd pull out I'd instantly go to town on her clit with my hand and have her jack me off to finish, I never had a problem finishing her but when she was that close it took a bit of practice for her to be clearheaded enough to remember to finish me. Then again she'd come 3-4 times before I was rdy to bust so I guess I am just a giver.
     
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    get her on the pill ASAP
     
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    she is on chemical birth control right?
     
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    I dunno about this.... for me if you are going to stop for 10 secs, I will have to start from square one.
     
  10. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    Can't believe everyone overlooked this.
     
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    yeah, and you are not going to like it, but for the guy its not like starting from square one, it will get easier to last the more he does it. So if its he can last longer then the first time and the girl is back at square one, then you are ahead of where you started.

    explain to her what you are doing so she knows its going to be a few false starts before you try to finish her.
     
  12. Deepsouthwrx

    Deepsouthwrx If in doubt, flat out!

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    There may be a reasons shes not on it already. My ex couldnt' take the pill because of a clotting disorder :dunno:
     
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    I still wouldn't like it, its SO annoying for me to be so close, then get it taken away. It get's really frustrating.

    So if you are all fine and can finish together, I would say either she gets on bc, or you had better start wearing condoms.
     
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    i still cant believe people talk about fucking a girl not on birth control bareback like its something sane people do....

    fucking insaaaaaaaaaaaaaane.
     
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    umm your really doing this without protection? God damn we need sex ed back in school.

    No shit she will have a hard time cumming when you pull out everytime shes about to orgasm what do you expect?

    Stimulate her with your fingers and save a child.
     
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    she's on bc, just doesn't want me to bust inside. doesn't trust it i guess?
     
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    Or lying to you about being on bc :mamoru:
     
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    vizyn New Member

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    That'd be pretty fucked up.
     
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    I'd much rather have faith in a condom than in a woman remembering to take her BC
     
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    then tell her you want to wear a condom, and finish inside of her.
     
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    freckleface expose the raw nerve and get on with our lives...

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    Perfect...this is what my hubby does and i am pulling on him to give it to me :)
     
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    freckleface expose the raw nerve and get on with our lives...

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    no condom .....NO PLAY !!!!!!! n


    WTF >>>>R U KIDDING ME
     
  23. vizyn

    vizyn New Member

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    Suggested it many-a-time but she refuses.
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    then refuse to have sex with her. why should she be the only one who gets sex the way she wants it? you want to cum inside, so you need to wear a condom to be protected. she can suck it up and use a condom so you are happy too

    not to mention, better protection from pregnancy, and that is always a plus
     
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