My ex and I just broke up about a few weeks ago. We went out for 3 years on and off because of distance and problems I kind of caused. The break up wasn't bad. In fact it was the hardest break up I had to endure because it's just we are too young and to commit now would be to early. No real problems in the relationship while we were together. Some personality issues but all and all things I think could have been worked through. Both around 21 btw. Anyways fast forward to now. I was comtemplating not hanging out and we didn't for a couple days, but I want things to be cool. I want to become friends. I guess a little more background. Long distance for 3 years and finally i moved up to where she lives for school and now we are broken up. Sorry the story is so broken up and kind of incoherent. Just trying to finish it asap. The other day while watching tv there was a lot of sexual tension. Things got a little heated. Didn't kiss but was damned close and there was a lot of physical activity. Just too horny and the sexual past is gettign in the way She says she can't hang out with me and it will be hard to become friends. I see her point, but I feel so bad that we can't just hang out as friends. That's what I want, but the urge is too strong. will it take us getting into relationships for this to diminish? can exes be friends with all that sexual tension? I would like to hope so, but i dunno if it's possible. It's hard for me to be the good guy. I'm so tempted. We both need to move on. This will hinder the process i suppose. Friends with benefits doesn't ever work out right? damn so sad that such a beautiful friendship will go to waste thoughts? I figure i should try to hang out with her only in public places and not alone at my place or hers.