Had to vent so I wrote The Message

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  1. egxflash

    egxflash Riding on the Midship Express

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    Everyone's got "that" friend. You know, that one girl who only calls when she needs something; the one that will cry and complain about every little misstep in her life but is all too apathetic when your own hasn't exactly been peaches and cream.

    It's that friend that is more interested in sharing what's on her mind and waits only for her turn to talk. That one that seemingly has absolutely nothing to contribute to a conversation unless it concerns her.

    To those people, this message is for you...

    Please...ladies, I am not your boyfriend. I do not exist to be your personal companion in life, pickin you up when you need consolation and helping you through all the world's troubles and heartaches. I have neither the obligation, nor the desire to do so.

    Besides, I don't wanna hear you yammer about your bullshit if you don't even have the decency to listen to mine. And I mean really LISTEN...as in look at me with some intent and comprehend the words that are coming out of my mouth so you can digest it and offer your opinion, comments, etc., etc.

    ....shit, sometimes I feel like I've had more meaningful exchanges with one night stands. I mean, come on...It's not like I'm a boring guy. As a matter of fact, popular opinion suggests otherwise.

    So don't treat me like your emotional cushion. Please...puuuhleeaase DO NOT call me when shit's not all roses and daisies with your significant other/ex-boyfriend you still have feelings for/love interest/last fuck. Know that, whenever you do, you take away a little bit of the youthful complacence that I enjoy.

    Cuz really, when it comes down to it, I'm a fuckin nice guy; I'll listen to you and try to reassure you that despite life's little attempts to bring you down, things are gonna be alright.

    I'll bare myself and empathize with your aches and pains, even though that essentially and consequently brings ME down. Somehow, feeling for you pulls me down from my air of optimism; you take away that precious real estate of mine that is my "happy place" as I try to absorb some of your torments.

    Not to say that the women in my life are all like that. On the contrary, there are only a select few...though it's still more than I'd want (which would be a resounding ZERO).

    On that note, I thought I'd thank the ones whose calls and meetings I actually looked forward to. You, ladies, are my assurance that there's better out there. I really enjoy having a drink with you while you talk about anything and everything whether it be Roe v. Wade, or California vs. Texas; I like it when you try to convince me to have an opinion on the war (which I don't), or when you tell me what Colorado is like over the phone.

    I'd much rather have that than dead silence on the phone, realizing that you didn't learn anything about the other person the entire time you were "talking" to her. I mean, I'm not an expert on the sociology of personal interaction, but isn't that what a conversation's about?

    To those for whom this message is intended, do me a favor and just think before you call. If you wouldn't wanna put up with the same tired bullshit that you're about to tell me, maybe you'd better save your breath and call me when you're finally ready to TALK.






    Some commentary (or at least some shit I thought was relevant)

    I'm sure some of you guys out there are with me on this...well, at least the ones that aren't total assholes. I know you've been there before. Hell, everybody has. I just chose not to be ignorant and believe that nice guys DO finish last. Every single girl you know will tell you otherwise but I guarantee that most girls our age are lying and they don't even know it.

    They don't wanna settle with the nice guy...not now when they can go out, live life, make mistakes, and be with the jerkoffs that'll use and abuse them. Shit, especially thinking that "you'll always be there" for them, waiting to piece their hearts back together.

    Gents, do NOT be that idiot.
     
  2. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    I knew someone like that. Girl would IM me whenever she had problems or needed advice, but whenever I tried talking to her, the responses ranged from indifferent to nothing. So, I just stopped talking to her, and stopped responding to her "poor me" act whenever she IMed me.
     
  3. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    They keep coming back to you because you keep indicating to them that it's okay. :dunno:
     
  4. DTR rex

    DTR rex New Member

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    Been there.... and I feel the same way.

    Just like a relationship, a friendship is a two-way street. Only way to fix it is to cut them off.
     
  5. Two toys

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    wow, all that you wrote felt like it could have came from my brain word for word.

    I had what I thought was a "best-friend" for 5 years, but looking back it was exactly as you said, a lot of me listening to her and helping, and a lot of her not really giving a shit about what I had to say when it came time for her to listen. In the end she stopped being friends with me after I asked her to stop talking to my ex-fling that fucked me over who she had only met once prior to it ending.
    I was her daughters god-father and the only real male role model in her daughters life. I love that little girl so much, she's about to turn 2 and it hurts me everyday that I cant be a part of her life. It really showed me how little she cared when she was able to turn her back on 5 years.

    sorry, the post stirred all that up and I had to vent it out.

    there really is a serenity in having a great conversation with zero sexual tension with someone of the opposite sex, and really connecting with them. Unfortunately I've only found that with a girl I know who is a lesbian and now I'd say my best female friend.
     
  6. Two toys

    Two toys New Member

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    why? what would it accomplish?
     
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    There's nothing to tell her; she isn't doing anything wrong. He needs to sack up and stop being her emotional tampon.
     
  8. Two toys

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    in her eyes she isnt doing anything wrong, so telling her that will only make things awkward. the only real option is to stop talking to her or keep talking to her knowing that it wont change.
     
  9. egxflash

    egxflash Riding on the Midship Express

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    maybe "venting" is the wrong word to use. I've already gotten this message across to her and she seems to be trying to change things but who knows? i havent been like this to any girl anymore except for that one girl...maybe that's what happens when you find someone you find interesting enough (at the time anyway) to actually have a relationship with...and ive found it especially difficult to find a girl worth the time and effort (maybe im too picky........naah

    anyway things are real peachy in life right now and its nice to know that im not the only one who's been up this shit creek before. ive come to realize that she isn't any more special than the next girl and i shouldnt give her any extra attention (especially when the relationship's already ended)

    one thing though, i actually hung out with her last weekend and i realized something. I just simply am not attracted to her the same way anymore..maybe that's what's changed...regardless, nobody should be "that guy" to any girl.
     
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    quit being a pussy, pussy
     
  11. egxflash

    egxflash Riding on the Midship Express

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    :wtc:






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  12. DarkAngel19

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    I wonder, is there a correlation to these girls being attractive? Or are you guys just really nice?

    I actually have a guy friend like this and he always INTERRUPTS me when he's tired of waiting for me to shut up. Eventually I just stop saying anything until he's uncomfortable and he shapes up. I think, in some ways, they really don't know they're doing it. At least not in the same ways that we see it.

    But really, do tell her you feel that way. Maybe she doesn't know. Either way win-win.

    DA
     
  13. 1BadZ

    1BadZ Uber :Aug2000: GM Nazi

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    I love blind-siding women like that. It happened not too long ago and she played the whole scenario like a pro. She gave me enough to keep me interested, then slowly withdrew the fun and added more complaining. I quickly grew wise to this and after some particularity teary-eyed story I told her the following: "I'd be interested in this, if I were fucking you. But I'm not fucking you, so I'm not interested in all your bullshit." I hung up, deleted her number, and I hope I ruined her whole week. There are tons of women out there, lots of them play the same "nice guy game," and they should all be dealt with like that.
     
  14. egxflash

    egxflash Riding on the Midship Express

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    haha thats pretty harsh.
     
  15. Guardfather

    Guardfather The Paradox

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    I hear ya.
     
  16. RockDaBoat

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    My ex tried to do this to me last month... "Oh my God, it's my birthday this Saturday... my boyfriend can't take me out because he doesn't get paid til Monday (even though he's taking me away the following weekend), my parents haven't picked my new car yet and my friends can't do anything blah blah blah."

    I told her "I don't care anymore" and she hasn't contacted me since.
    Perfect!
     
  17. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    so... so you were a prick to a woman because you lacked the ability to make her attracted to you? And you tried to ruin her week? NICE DUDE! HIGH FIVE BROOOOOOO. FUCK WOMENZZZZ
     
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    1BadZ Uber :Aug2000: GM Nazi

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    Oh no, a single woman isn't attracted to me. Its not like there aren't billions more where that came from.

    P.S. I'm a prick to everyone, :2004:.
     
  19. cd7

    cd7 how troublesome

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    lol i know exactly what you are talking about. sometimes i just tune in and out of the conversation, picking up pieces so i can repeat it as a question to seem interested :rofl:
     

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