Guys who get laid a lot... ladies....

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  1. antihero

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    I guess deep down inside im some sort of people pleaser or something :ugh: The amount of sex im not having for just being too much of a nice guy (yes, i said nice guy) to push the close is getting depressing, yet on the other hand I don't have any desire to have a gaggle of girls who hate me and feel like i used them blah blah blah.whats wrong with a little fun?

    I -know- women like sex. I also know that when you have sex with a woman and have no intention of pursuing a relationship the woman often ends up getting hurt.

    Yes yes yes, I know its their responsibility to make sure they get what they need and don't give more then they can... but I still have this sense of guilt like im being incredibly selfish.

    anyone have any suggestions on how to be that guy that girls -know- is just for sex or how to get over the hang up... I mean even girls I barely know I still have this big reservation like I have to look out for them. I mean if i like them enough to want to have sex with them, i should like them enough to care about their feelings right? But on the other hand I havn't found anything remotely close enough to the "whole package" for me to be actually interested in a relationship, or to give up actively pursuing girls who may be the whole package.

    I think I have a lot of guilt issues with women. While I've done some somewhat bad things, and definitely caused some serious pain, very very very very little of it was malicious on my part so I really don't know why it bothers me so much. I've never hurt anyone by deceit, cheating, verbal or physical abuse etc etc...

    hmm.. the women in my life have definitely not pulled any punches when it comes to letting me know how awfully ive hurt them after its over. :mad:
     
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    Tell them before hand that nothing will come out of this but sex.. :dunno:
     
  3. Falconer

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    Talk to sluttier girls?
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Wow, this is nice to hear from a girl's perspective :eek3:

    :h5: for caring about someone other than yourself
     
  5. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    What happens when you make it clear to them what your expectations are?
     
  6. antihero

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    3/4 of the time it just all goes to hell. I just don't have the heartless bastard thing going thats necesary to make that work. They undoubtedly push the boundaries and I just don't have it in me to tell them to stfu when they start talking about personal problems or something.
     
  7. Raskal

    Raskal ºllllllº

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    most girls from POK are bad news..as Im sure you know. I run into the same problems there.
     
  8. antihero

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    lol.. I must admit I LOVE being on vacation/out of town because it solves this issue nicely.
     
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    i think its because youre from poughkeepsie ny, that pk galleria just has hoes that r hurtin for a squrtin.

    i went to arlington a while ago
     
  10. antihero

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    seeing as how against lying for sex, or working for it, those are usually the only ones i even bother with unless they really have something that interest me.
     
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    Find a girl who may be attracted to you sexually, but doesn't want a relationship with you. Then bone her.
     
  12. antihero

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    lol... oh is that all?

    :hs:


    Any hints picking these ones out of the crowd?
     
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    Probably done best with friends or friends of friends. I had a friend like this in college...I called him my fake boyfriend. It was a win-win for sure.
     
  14. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    girls categorize guys anyway.. these girls whose feelings you are afraid of hurting, they HAVE guys in their lives whom they have fucked for fun.

    i can't see what ur doing when u interact so i dunno what is making you give off the romantic / emotional vibe. find guys who have FWB's and see how they interact and be like that.
     
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    where are you meeting girls? club sluts ftw.
     
  16. Yail Bloor

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    Forget about having discussions with her about it.

    Avoid any and all "courtship" behaviors and you will have no problems.

    No dinners.

    No gifts.

    No snuggling on the couch.

    No staying the night.

    After you are finished having sex, immediately get up, get dressed, and leave.

    Its when men who have no intention of entering a relationship with her do these things, that she receives the wrong idea and is hurt.
     
  17. antihero

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    that's where im meeting these girls. :hs:

    Like I said, I must be doing something wrong. Im going to try it yails way.

    You really will kick a girl out at 5:30am and call her a cab? I mean, im not wining and dining these girls but just from a logistics standpoint sleepovers happen.
     
  18. antihero

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    My wingman is a pro at it, but he does it just by being a complete asshole frequently enough that nobody forgets it. I'm just not willing to go that route.

    I think maybe Im mistaking "bold" for cocky. Like I will do whatever, and say whatever, but i don't think im getting the cocky vibe right. hmm.. Im gonna have to work on it this weekend.
     
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    go to her place

    that way you don't have to worry about her showing up at your place uninvited in the future, and you are free to leave when you are done
     
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    I'm a chick, and I've kicked guys out of my place in the wee hours of the morning, as well let myself out. Sleepovers a a big NO in regards to a one night stand.. :dunno:
     
  21. touchofsleep

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    hey if you're single, then go for it. BUT if you are in a relationship and you're being a slut then you're just a pig and will be looked down on by anyone women who really matters =]
     
  22. antihero

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    of course im single. you think i would lie and cheat on my girlfriend but have a moral issue lying to drunk girls in bars?
     
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  23. antihero

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    My house is half a mile away from all the bars...



    :rofl: and trust me, that was no accident
     
  24. JohnJohnJohnson

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    :uh:
     
  25. Falconer

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    Reminds me of college :h5:
     

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