SRS Guys: So, you're making out with a girl

Discussion in 'On Topic' started by Barbie™, May 16, 2007.

  1. Barbie™

    Barbie™ New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2007
    Messages:
    11,958
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    In the back of your closet.
    for the first time and you start to let your hands wander down yonder and she tells you to stop.

    Do you:
    A. get mad because you really want to do more than just kiss her...

    -or-

    B. are you happy because she's not going to just jump into it on the first makeout session / date.


    I just want serious answers. I want to know how people think.

    [[Include your age/sex/MS in your post?]]
     
  2. Chip Chipperson

    Chip Chipperson New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 23, 2005
    Messages:
    26,118
    Likes Received:
    0
    false dichotomy
     
  3. Durka Durka

    Durka Durka Guest

    did you just a/s/l me on a forum
     
  4. Barbie™

    Barbie™ New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2007
    Messages:
    11,958
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    In the back of your closet.
    Elaborate?
     
  5. Barbie™

    Barbie™ New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2007
    Messages:
    11,958
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    In the back of your closet.
    It appears that way, doesn't it? Hmm...

    Well, I just think the validity of answers depends on someones age and marital status [MS] and since it's not indicated in the profiles, I want to know if my answers are coming from males.


    Did I just JUSTIFY asking asl on a forum?
    Yep, sure did.
     
  6. Takitome

    Takitome New Member

    Joined:
    May 12, 2007
    Messages:
    723
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Britain
    It's a pretty obvious choice IMO
     
  7. DiggityDogg

    DiggityDogg Guest

    Respect her feelings and stop. Next date, try again.
     
  8. It honestly depends on the girl. If I was only out to be with her for the sex, I would get up and leave. I'm not there to be in a relationship with her. If I genuinely wanted to have a relationship with her, I would not, even waste my time trying to sleep with her, I would want to prolong sleeping with her as long as possible so I could respect her for waiting, even if I'm the one doing the waiting.

    Edit: If it's not clear I'm a Dude.

    Beast
     
    Last edited by a moderator: May 16, 2007
  9. Smeghead

    Smeghead New Member

    Joined:
    Oct 6, 2006
    Messages:
    7,108
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Klingonlandia
    If I really like the girl and is interested in having a relationship rather than just a one night stand I would be happy that she wouldn't let me go that far on the first date.
     
    Last edited: May 16, 2007
  10. awdboost

    awdboost New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2006
    Messages:
    281
    Likes Received:
    0
    It all really depends how long you guys have been "together". If I was with a girl for a short period of time I wouldn't be mad I would respect her for:
    1. She stands up for herself
    2. She doesn't want to do anything to early in a relationship that will make me think she's a slut/ho
    3. It will make me want her more.

    Now if we were together for a long time and I think we are going to be in a serious relationship I would be a little annoyed, but still respect her decision.
     
  11. SQLee

    SQLee The OTer That Cares™

    Joined:
    Jul 15, 2001
    Messages:
    25,907
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Houston, TX
    First of all, what's your a/s/ms?

    Secondly, neither. I'd keep my hands wherever she feels comfortable with them being. I wouldn't be mad but I damn well wouldn't be happy.

    24/m/single
     
  12. autobahn

    autobahn New Member

    Joined:
    May 5, 2007
    Messages:
    1,208
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Minneapolis, MN
    Uh, you put that as if a.) or b.) are the only answers.

    My answer would be to respect her boundaries, but if you're looking for a girl who's open minded about sex you're probably not going to want a 6-monther (i.e. takes the girl 6 months to think about doing anything beside making out)
     
  13. eu4ia

    eu4ia Active Member

    Joined:
    Jul 15, 2004
    Messages:
    10,883
    Likes Received:
    0
    depends on what i want from her. if im drunk and horny and just wanting to hook up then id be annoyed. if i was interested in actually dating this person i wouldnt mind it the first few times
     
  14. Markus

    Markus New Member

    Joined:
    May 2, 2007
    Messages:
    84
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    New Zealand
    If its the first time then its no problem, and for the first two or three dates or whatever.
    Depends on what you two are into and blabla bla.
    Talk about it, state your boundaries.
     
  15. Barbie™

    Barbie™ New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2007
    Messages:
    11,958
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    In the back of your closet.
    I'm 19 [20 in a month!] / f / single


    I'm just doing this out of curiosity.... kinda. It's complicated.
     
  16. Arclight

    Arclight Hypercube

    Joined:
    Oct 14, 2004
    Messages:
    19,688
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Toronto
    Flawless victory.
     
  17. awdboost

    awdboost New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2006
    Messages:
    281
    Likes Received:
    0
    Oh you are a girl. :eek3:

    You want reactions, because you feel this is going to happen shortly, and don't know how to react?? Seriously don't let anyone put you in an uncomfortable situation. If he doesn't respect you, then you shouldn't be with him.
     
  18. SQLee

    SQLee The OTer That Cares™

    Joined:
    Jul 15, 2001
    Messages:
    25,907
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Houston, TX
    :werd: If he doesn't respect you, then you're just a piece of ass to him.
     
  19. Barbie™

    Barbie™ New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2007
    Messages:
    11,958
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    In the back of your closet.
    Well, it happened to me Sunday night. See, I don't want to sound like a prude or anything but i'm just not the type of girl that gives up her body the first night/date/whatever.
    We we're hanging out as friends [and I had just met him on Friday] and he must be attracted to me [as i am to him] because when we were looking at the stars, he made the first move and was really cute about it. Yadda yadda. We got back to the car and things got heated and I was like "I don't want to sound cliche but i'm just not that type of girl, i'm sorry" I guess a good sign is that we continued to makeout after that. I don't know, but i've heard that guys like it, because it means that the girl isn't easy... which, believe me, i'm not... [obviously, since i'm a virgin, haha.]

    Anyway, I made this thread to see what other guys thought... I mean, I worry too much about these things.
    ARG. Oh well, lol.
     
  20. Barbie™

    Barbie™ New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 27, 2007
    Messages:
    11,958
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    In the back of your closet.
    Well, he respected me... but I don't know how he feels about the whole situation. I don't think he wants a relationship.... but too bad if you want in my pants, you gotta be my boo! [ew, jk on the word usage in that sentence.]

    [[There is one exception, but that's because we're makeoutbuddies[[another guy and myself, which I intend to stop soon]]]]
     
  21. Chip Chipperson

    Chip Chipperson New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 23, 2005
    Messages:
    26,118
    Likes Received:
    0
    I want to flame you so bad lol, but I wil instead repsond to this:

    :h5:
     
  22. Takitome

    Takitome New Member

    Joined:
    May 12, 2007
    Messages:
    723
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Britain
    I doubt he would be pleased. But you're not supposed to do as he pleases, you're supposed to do as you please.
     
  23. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

    Joined:
    Sep 1, 2006
    Messages:
    32,592
    Likes Received:
    5
    Is it bad that I've never said stop? :mamoru:
     
  24. autobahn

    autobahn New Member

    Joined:
    May 5, 2007
    Messages:
    1,208
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Minneapolis, MN
    you're a prude.

    :)

    "I'm not that type of girl" makes it sound like there's something to be ashamed about if you like sex, or something
     
  25. Jay Pheezy

    Jay Pheezy New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 31, 2005
    Messages:
    7,670
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    MA
    Well, I always leave it up to her and convey respect for that (genuine respect.) Although I may be mad, I wouldn't show it, nor would I think highly of her just because she said no. So I guess neither A or B :dunno:
     

Share This Page