Guys: Is this really possible?

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  1. Barbie™

    Barbie™ New Member

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    Okay, so I was having a discussion with my boyfriend and he said something that made me go "What the...?!" in my head. He told me that sometimes when guys are having sex, they just know it's just "not going to happen". He said it's a hard concept for some girls to accept/grasp which leads to some guys faking it.

    I know it's possible to fake it, for guys, that's not what i'm questioning here. I just am wondering, is there just some times where you can't cum during intercourse? If so, how do you tell the girl "yeah, it's just not going to happen this time."
     
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    spankaveli OT Supporter

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    I think that's only happened to me once or twice. I can't really comment because both times were a while back and I don't really remember.

    I think once you get to a certain point and have been going for a certain amount of time and you're not getting "close" it's probably not going to come any time soon. Pun intended. :o

    I can say with relative confidence that I'm sure it's at least mainly psychological.
     
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    Boyfriend was sick for awhile, couldn't pee, had a fever, and had trouble getting off for about a week. I was going down on him, and I think he realized it wasn't going to happen. He just sort of picked me up/flipped me over and started going down on me/fingering me and the like. I asked him what happened later and he just told me 'I wasn't able to get off, I need to go to the doc'

    It was still pretty great for me :o
     
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    i've had whiskey dick a few times, and sometimes a combination of a few factors contribute to me not cumming. generally the girl was more embarassed than me. i'm usually just like "hey, i'm not really feeling it tonight"
     
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    aren't there some times when you cant climax?



    of course.
     
  6. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    of course. But the last time was my fault, :wackit: like 4 times that day.

    Was really horny and that didnt work, so called a chick to come over after that. Didnt really matter, had fun.
     
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    The only time I recall that happening was when we had already had sex like 3 times and we were going for the fourth but I was so goddamn tired I didn't have the energy to keep going until I was going to climax.
     
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    i spit on her back while yelling loud like im cumming when i need to fake it
     
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    I've been having sex for a long time and Its not always so easy for me to cum, unless she sucks me off first for a while
     
  10. Falconer

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    Yes, guys are the same as chicks. Sometimes it's just not going to happen.

    In my experience, this usually only happens if you've already done it multiple times already over the past few hours.
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Of course this is true. It usually happens when my bf is a little tipsy. Once he faked it early on in our relationship and when I found out I was just like "why?" I don't give a shit if you can't finish. I mean, I'd much rather he cum during a sexual session, but there are just times when it's not going to happen, so why bother faking? I don't wan't to fake and I can't orgasm every sexual romp, but it's not the end of the world.
     
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    me and my fiancee have had times where one of us is like yup it's not gonna happen tonight

    we both agree that even if one of us doesn't get off the sex is still amazing though :naughty:
     
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    Yep can definitely happen and has before to me. I normally just make sure she is taken care of and then stop. Not a big deal as I still had fun, she gets off and we are both satisfied and pass out.
     
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    Man, sometimes it could take hours for me to get off. It sucks for her, cause she's starting to get tired. I just say im good but noo she's like "no we're not done until your done"

    2 hours later, finally done.


    Word to the wise, what porn stars do in the movies should stay in the movies, you should never teach yourself how to last like one. I can literally fuck for HOURS. Or sometimes minutes depending on how horny I am, and my gf aint exactly lose if you know what I mean. ;)
     
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    Mulsanne The Man = Funk Fusion Chaos

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    :bowrofl: it so happened to me one time.

    But I was realllly high, it was realllly late, and she wasn't so attractive.


    ONe of the bigger mistakes of my life...sleeping with her I mean
     
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    maskednegator Kosmonaut, best we've got...

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    I make it clear that it's not her fault. I blame the whiskey, the lack of sleep or whatever's going on so that she doesn't get a complex about it.
     
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    I don't cum every time. I thought all guys were like this.

    Sometimes we fuck too much in the same day and I have nothing left.

    Sometimes I stop too much, to calm myself down... and then I just lose the feeling (but I stay hard). Sometimes if I concentrate I'll get it back.

    Sometimes I just don't want to finish for whatever reason. I like to save it for later sometimes :)
     
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    strik9 Verbing weirds language.

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    i just tell her that it isn't gonna happen and stop when im tired/bored
     
  20. Barbie™

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    Okay, now my question is.. why do you fake it?
     
  21. Barbie™

    Barbie™ New Member

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    So, if you know you're going to go within minutes, do you make sure she's satisfied first?

    I'm asking this completely out of curiosity. You don't have to answer :)
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    1. Don't listen to abomb
    2. Guys fake it for the exact same reasons women fake it.

    It's pretty common to assume that men have to orgasms every single time they have sex. So when the day comes where they are just far too tired, or too tipsy, or whatever and they don't see it happening they fear telling the girl "it's not going to happen" because she'll immediately blame herself. Obviously this is silly because in any good relationship with a sensible partner you should be able to admit "this just isn't going to happen tonight. I'm sorry, it has nothing to do with you."But some girls go berserk and blame themselves with ideas of "is he not attracted to me!?" amongst other crazy thoughts.
     
  23. Falconer

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    btw guys can only fake it if they're wearing a condom.
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Or the girl is too drunk to notice and that loose down there...
     
  25. Falconer

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    I guess. But I would assume chicks would be like "uh... where is it?" otherwise.

    edit - you said too drunk to notice. n/m.
     

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