Okay, so a few weeks ago - meet his incredibly hot guy, whos picture below doesn't do him any justice: http://22.214.171.124/~tim/cute.jpg He's 29 (looks 22 in person). Met him at a bar, we kinda click, but he's with his boyfriend, so I back off and stick to friendly occasional chit chat. Next week, he's by himself -- we still chit chat, he just says his bf isn't there. Week after, I walk in, he notices my industrial in my ear and grabs it and is like "ooh, i didn't remember this" (ie, let the groping begin). He proceeds to feel me up for nipple/bellybutton rings (yes i have my nips pierced ) and the forbidden dance of bar-flirtation is officially on... RI is a non-smoking state (and I just quit smoking anyways), but he asks me to join him outside... where I make some comment to the effect of "just give me a drag" or something. He proceeds to give me a shottie/shotty/shotgun depending on where you're from (he inhales, you basically 'kiss' and he exhales into your mouth, you inhale). And that continues, eventually without smoke. So, we go club hopping the rest of the night, go back to his place, hop on the good foot and do the bad thing. Next morning isn't too awkward, I get a kiss good bye and a call that night of the general "what's up/here's how my day was" variety. And then the awkwardness starts the next day... He's almost 30, and I recently turned 21. There obviously was some non-druken interest (since we interacted sober) and there was definatley a physical attraction, a sort of emotional attraction, etc. But, he's getting weird/distant, citing "i can't believe you're 21" things. So, there are 3 options that I can think of 1. He just wanted to fuck me and the awkwardness with the age is his excuse for blowing me off. 2. He wanted to fuck me, has a sort of interest in contiuning subsequent evenings out (sexual or otherwise), but is freaked out about turing 30 and being stuck with a presumably fickle 21 year old (which I'm not) 3. He DIDN'T want to fuck me and the fact that he did makes me aforementioned fickle 21 year old, and he's looking for more. I don't wanna get all drama queeny on him, but the fact that he continued discussion post-hookup and took all the initiation in that evening and in future conversations confuses me (don't you just not talk to someone you hook up with after the fact if that's all it was?) Am I reading too much in to this? Can you think of any options that I missed? Does one of them sound right? Should I just cut off my balls and become asexual? EDIT: Cliffs: Meet a cute guy who's turning 30. Fucked around; but there appears to be a romantic interest, but he's having a "rob the cradle" syndrome. I'm too much of a pussy to just be blunt, so I'm about it here. Thoughts?