SRS Grades

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  1. hatedbyall

    hatedbyall New Member

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    Haven't been on in a while so hey.

    I have been talking to this girl for a while and then I asked her out one day, but she said no because she wanted to focus on her grades. Is it just me or does it just sound like she doesn't want to date me and trying not to hurt my feelings, which as some of you may remember I got rid of a long time ago.

    We get along great, we both like the same stuff and have the same thoughts on totally random people.
     
  2. Xtreme2k2

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    Does she have an upcoming exam to study for? :dunno:

    Theres a bunch of factors that could be in play here, I mean if she has to keep a certain GPA for a scholarship then I can see why she is focusing on her grades.

    Then again, she could be blowing you off, no one knows but her.
     
  3. Darketernal

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    Either way she's asking for space, so you should give it, regardless of wether its a lie or not.
     
  4. Dodger Blue

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    You could look at it this way. She really feels that if she starts dating you both of you may end up spending a lot of time together and it could def be a major distraction. Or she just isn't into you. I'd just wait until the semester is over and see how things are then.
     
  5. Stilgar1973

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    It can be legit. Some people can't do two things at once. I know I can't.
    She may either be able to start a new relationship OR get her grades up.
    I am that way. One or the other, not both. That is me.

    You know... summer vacation is soon. If she is telling the truth she will probably be willing to see you when she has a break from classess.
     
  6. hatedbyall

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    I don't know, I guess I will tell her how I feel and tell her that she doesn't have to worry about me bothering her.
     
  7. JustJeff

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    Don't put her in an unwanted situation. If you put her where she feels that you are trying to talk down to her or making fun of her, she will become very uncomfortable. I would just say give it some space, let things settle and try again in a few months.
     
  8. johan

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    What's the point of declaring? Cause you want to make her "choose".

    If she wants to hang with you, she will. She will find a way. She has to study? So what, many people do.

    Obviously she doesn't study 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

    If she wants to see you she will.
    If she DOESN'T...then what does it matter if it's "because" of studying, or because it's raining, or because because because....

    Put an invitation out there.

    If interest level is high, she will accept, or else she will find a way to accept, or else she will suggest an agreeable compromise.
    In your case.....interest level is low. Quite low. Barely 'friend' level.

    So just put the invitation out there....and leave it at that.
     
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  10. Ameter

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    #1 rule of asking women out.

    Any answer other than yes means 'not interested'

    They can give any excuse they want, it all means the same thing.

    If she was into you, she'd find the time to see you. At the very least, she'd say 'not this week, how about xxxxx'
     
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    That makes me wonder, how does the number one rule apply to guys? If guys give any other answer, does it mean they're not interested either?
     
  12. hatedbyall

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    O well we haven't talked for a while so I guess I will go back to hating everyone.
     
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    :dunno: guys are usually pretty straightforward, if they're not interested, usually they'll tell you

    but yeah, i guess it holds for guys too
     
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    Same deal mostly, but many guys will still go with you, even if they're not interested, provided:

    1) they find you at least a little cute
    2) there's a chance for some action.

    Sometimes #2 will be enough, even without any #1.
     

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