Got an invite to an ex gf's wedding...do I go?

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by woot, Sep 25, 2009.

  1. woot

    woot wo

    Joined:
    Aug 22, 2003
    Messages:
    60,311
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    bat country
    I was actually taken back today when I got the invite. I haven't talked her in a year or so. It's been about 3 years since we broke up. Anyway, seems like she sent me an invite just to be friendly and doesn't expect me to show...I think. Plus I have a feeling I will get drunk and do something I regret. I was her first if that makes any difference. What is a man supposed to do?
     
  2. jonno

    jonno New Member

    Joined:
    Jun 3, 2003
    Messages:
    63,823
    Likes Received:
    2
    Location:
    fort sam
    LOL fuck no
     
  3. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

    Joined:
    Aug 21, 2008
    Messages:
    3,680
    Likes Received:
    0
    Why would you wanna go? Seems like you still have feelings for her.
     
  4. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2004
    Messages:
    23,006
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Manhattan
    if you are very happy for her and excited for her then you should go. :h5:

    if you are viewing this primarily as an opportunity to see her again that just happens to be her wedding day to another guy, then don't go :ugh:
     
  5. Secret Agent Man

    Secret Agent Man New Member

    Joined:
    May 22, 2002
    Messages:
    74,884
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Boston
    Don't listen to this asshole.

    Just don't go, no matter which way you're looking at it. No good will come of it.
     
  6. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2004
    Messages:
    23,006
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Manhattan
    I'm an asshole...

    You're the one assuming the original poster has the emotional maturity of a 13 year old virgin.

    Based on the tone of the first post I'm inclined to agree with you. I'm just, unlike you, giving him the benefit of the doubt.
     
  7. peoplescar

    peoplescar Guest

    if you are totally over it and are happy for her then go, but bring a date. no one wants to go to a wedding alone anyway.
     
  8. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2004
    Messages:
    23,006
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Manhattan
  9. Secret Agent Man

    Secret Agent Man New Member

    Joined:
    May 22, 2002
    Messages:
    74,884
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Boston
    He hasn't talked to her in a year. Clearly they're not friends, they don't keep in touch, there is absolutely no reason to go. What's the upside?
     
  10. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 11, 2007
    Messages:
    30,849
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Rhode Island
    If they werent friends or had mutual contact chances are she wouldnt send him an invite... :hsugh:
     
  11. Secret Agent Man

    Secret Agent Man New Member

    Joined:
    May 22, 2002
    Messages:
    74,884
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Boston
    :hsugh:
     
  12. peoplescar

    peoplescar Guest

    did you have a horrible break up? did she ditch you? or was it something you both decided was best for you?

    most people on OT think women & men can't get along after breaking up.
     
  13. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 9, 2009
    Messages:
    6,540
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Tampa
    one side of me would want to go and the other dark side would just go to start drama.

    :hsugh:

    so in that case, no I wouldn't go.
     
  14. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 11, 2007
    Messages:
    30,849
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Rhode Island
    picard.jpg

    :420:, 8am, 3 hours of sleep


    You win this time montoya :squint:
     
  15. Secret Agent Man

    Secret Agent Man New Member

    Joined:
    May 22, 2002
    Messages:
    74,884
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Boston
    :mamoru:
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

    Joined:
    Sep 1, 2006
    Messages:
    32,592
    Likes Received:
    5
    She doesn't really want you to come. RSVP back no with a note of congratulations and continue moving on with your life.
     
  17. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 9, 2009
    Messages:
    6,540
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Tampa

    :werd:

    beer always has the best advice.

    :love:
     
  18. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

    Joined:
    Apr 24, 2005
    Messages:
    13,722
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    at your mom's house. be back later.
    Agreed.
     
  19. Abomb

    Abomb New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 22, 2005
    Messages:
    20,480
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Houston, TX

    this confuses me. truly. if they have not spoke for over a year and have been broken up for a couple of years... why even send him the invite if she does not want him to go? under what terms does she feel obligated? because he achieved first-time penetration? has she been momentarily struck by a random case of down's syndrome? why even bother with the invitation??
     
  20. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

    Joined:
    Apr 24, 2005
    Messages:
    13,722
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    at your mom's house. be back later.
    I agree. I'm confused by your statement too Beer :confused:

    Why would she invite him if she didn't want him to go? She isn't obligated to invite him for any reason. :dunno:
     
  21. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2003
    Messages:
    18,807
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Ontario
    In my experience the only reason someone who you have little to no contact with invites you to a wedding is because they don't have enough friends to fill their 1/2 of the room.

    I wouldn't go just for the simple fact that I could probably do something better with my time then watch 2 people I don't care enough to be friends with get married.
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

    Joined:
    Sep 1, 2006
    Messages:
    32,592
    Likes Received:
    5
    .


    Why she might have invited him:
    *Wants to seem cordial even with no contact in a year
    *Wants to rub it in his face
    *Needs more random guests that mean nothing to her
    *Wants more money/gifts

    I have known so many women who wanted a big wedding that they invtid people they barely knew and people they hadn't spoken to in years, all in the hopes to fill up space. Either way, there's really no point in him going :dunno:
     
  23. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2004
    Messages:
    23,006
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Manhattan
    There would be a point in going to extend an olive branch of sorts. We broke up and now things are cool and I am glad your happy. That is always a goodness.

    There would be a sharper point in going if the OP felt genuine happiness for her; if he actively wanted to celebrate her new romantic future. That is always a greatness. :)

    Given what the OP recently revealed however I agree that there is no point in him going. Sounds like a terrible idea what with that "dark side" he speaks of.
     
  24. Abomb

    Abomb New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 22, 2005
    Messages:
    20,480
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Houston, TX
    honestly, if she wants you there just to fill up her 1/2 of the room you should...

    1. find hot slutty date
    2. take your two man army and viciously assault the open bar
    3. when you are drunk enough to forget your dates name, initiate sloppy make out
    4. ?????
    5. profit
     
  25. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

    Joined:
    Apr 2, 2008
    Messages:
    1,816
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    CdM, CA
    i wouldnt go. its annoying enough going to weddings of people i like and talk to all the time, let alone going to a wedding of someone i havent spoken to in a year

    do you feel a desire to go at all?
     

Share This Page