Got a question. Never asked for a number on Facebook before.

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  1. Silmatharien

    Silmatharien OT Supporter

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    Story is I met this girl at a party last night that I hadn't seen in about a year and a half. We went out for Hallowe'en as a group and she and I ended up really hitting it off and spending most of our night together. Anyway, come the end of the night for whatever reason I didn't ask her for her number (oops). Just wondering if this would suffice for a Facebook request for it. I figured just keep it brief:

    Hey Rachel,

    Apparently I'm a tool and didn't ask you for your number last night. I thought we really hit it off and wanted to know if I could give you a call so we could hang out again.

    Devin
     
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    kopetzki Banned

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    sounds too formal-ish imo. And you shouldn't write "wanted to know if I could.." sounds kind of insecure and timid. Be forward and say " Hey, awesome time last night! Whats your phone # we should definitely hang out sometime. how about coffee/dinner/blah blah blah"
     
  3. schmitty101

    schmitty101 You might remember me from such films as "Dig your

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    I think it'll work if you do it this way.
     
  4. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Her: "Well if he's a tool, why would I want to go out with him?"

    Her: "Hmm... should I let him? He IS asking for my permission after all...."


    Do what the guy above said. Keep it simple, just "Hey that was fun last night, we should do something again soon! Send me your # so I can call you to make plans..."
     
  5. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    message her but don't sound so gay :ugh:

    telling her you were a tool will just get her thinking that maybe you are a tool

    2nd sentence is cheesy and way too formal

    Keep it simple-"hey it was great seeing you last night. What's your # so we can do this again?" or something
     
  6. BlackIce72

    BlackIce72 New Member

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    don't say that
     
  7. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Be yourself. Ask how YOU would ask her.

    Don't pretend to be someone else
     
  8. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    This, but also have confidence in yourself. You're not a tool for not getting her phone number. Okay well maybe you are. Anyway good luck. :mamoru:
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    If you're really thinking about it this much dont even bother asking for her number :rofl:
     
  10. peoplescar

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    making fun of yourself to someone makes you sound stupid.
     
  11. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I don't think he's making fun of himself. I think he's being up front about his being a tool that way if she doesn't want to date him she can know right away. :mamoru:
     
  12. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    What a stupid thing to say.

    Being himself is probably the reason he didn't ask for it originally.

    I can't even really imagine how you could pretend being someone else while asking for a phone number, unless it's done in a cool James Bond accent or something
     
  13. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Her advice is actually perfect. I hate that people think they need to act a certain way to meet the right person. People pretend to be someone else all the time by forcing themselves to act in ways that aren't how they would normally act.
     
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    XaPU!M Active Member

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    ...He's sending a message on facebook for a phone number... Rather hard to be someone else when you don't have to physically open your mouth. Plus there is nothing wrong with learning what NOT to say. Especially since he didn't act last night, which got him no where.
     
  15. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    You can't live your life trying to act a certain way. What he needs is confidence in who he is, not someone telling him he needs to be someone else.
     
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    He's asking for advice on a facebook message...
     
  17. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Yes, and some of the advice given was to say what he wants to say instead of using someone else's words.
     
  18. kiri

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    "last night was fun, we should do it again sometime. what's your number?"
     
  19. Silmatharien

    Silmatharien OT Supporter

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    gee I am getting ripped apart. I'm glad I asked for an opinion. thanks everyone.
     
  20. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Don't over think it. Just do it! :)
     
  21. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    You asked for an opinion and you got several.
     
  22. Lezpch

    Lezpch Neutral Member

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    could this work if you met a girl at school once but she showed interest? Could i facebook message her (not friends on fb) and ask her if she wanted to hang out if I have only talked to her once? i suppose a friend request should accompany the message
     
  23. Ep

    Ep Guest

    how long ago did you see her? no need to friend request her...
     
  24. Socrates

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    Have you ever read an article on "What to say in a job interview"? Do you think that salesmen don't go through tons of classes and read many books on learning exactly what to say to sale their product? Ever read any kind of self-help book?

    Yes, if he was more confident, he wouldn't be asking this question, but some people in this thread have been telling him what to say to "sound" confident, and if he gets good results with it, then it will build confidence in him naturally. After all, that is really how confidence is built anyways, by doing confident things (even if you don't feel confident) and then seeing that the world didn't end.
     
  25. Kev07

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    i usually just tell them im in town or doing xx and tell them to gimme their # lol
     

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