NoAV = no search. So I looked through a few threads tonight, trying to find some information on vibes, since the GF (part of the V crew), had suggested we get one, since to date I have not been able to get her off, orally, fingers, looking at her with deep passion, genital to genital rubbing (obviously no penetration), etc. She tells me she can get herself off, but at times it takes a long time even by herself, ro so I'm told. I think part of the problem is that she is VERY sensitive, I can't even think about touching the clit. She does enjoy me fingering her though, just not enough to get her off. She even thinks part of it is that she has a hard time relaxing. I'm the first person she's been sexual with, so I would surmise that is also an effect. BTW her = late 20s me = early 30s (holy fuck I'm old, that's the first time I've written that since I turned this decade. ) Anyway, that's the background... From what I read in a couple threads the silver bullet may be too strong, as someone had mentioned that even on the lowest of settings it was too much. I definatly want to help this be pleasurable for her, and me. So I need suggestions. We haven't been able to really talk about what she thinks she might like, as far as style yet, since she has been gone to her cottage for the last week, and she gets back Sunday, when we will be going shopping for said vibe, any pointers or suggestions would be great.