My grandfather is on the verge of dying, and my mother arranged for a meeting with a bereavement counselor. I'm 27, and I've been to plenty of funerals, but I've never really experienced the death of someone I was close to. My great-grandmother, my dad's stepdad who we always felt awkward around, a guy I went to high school with that I hadn't seen in 5 years (drunk driving, single car wreck), and most recently my beloved dog were about as close as it gets to dealing with grief. There will be several of us there, aunts and uncles, maybe my brothers, maybe a few cousins, not sure. Anyways, I'm not sure if I should have anything prepared to ask or say. My wife will be going, and wants me to ask things like do they have a gravesite already, and where will the funeral be, but I don't feel comfortable bringing those up, and I'm sure they're already taken care of. My mom and her 5 siblings have had regular meetings regarding their parents' health and such, they all go over the living will (props to Five Wishes) and their will regularly, one of my aunts is a nurse and goes over the medication regularly, one of my uncles is a financial planner so their assets are all in order, and another of my uncles is a lawyer, so I've positive everything is taken care of. As far as feelings and emotions go, I'm not sure how I'll feel after he dies. Right now I just hope he doesn't suffer (digestive system and such shutting down), and I feel he's lived a full and wonderful life as a great man. We have a huge extensive family that always loves and supports each other, so there will be no shortage of expressing feelings and crying on each others' shoulder, I'm sure (picture "my big fat Greek wedding" type of family). I think I have an idea of what's to come, in the way that people (wife and in-laws) offer me advice and their experiences on grieving, and I really just don't want to hear it. I sit and listen, but damn I just want to talk about something else, I'll deal with the emotions as they come.