going limp...scared.

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  1. PostingWorld

    PostingWorld Da Man with da plan

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    ok ive been reading a bunch of threads lately about people going limp right before insertion. well me and my girl have talked about having sex and its pretty much a set thing to happen on prom night. so my question/concern is of course going limp. Ive played around with condoms before and messed around with them and never went limp with them. also when im just jacking off to porn or whatnot i never go limp. i mean as long as im playing with my self in some way where jacking off or just rubbing it i can keep it up for a while. but im still worried that ill freak or something and go limp.

    some background is im still a virgin (16 years old) and she is not a virgin anymore and she is 17 almost 18. when we were talking about it she said she loved having sex and was like a nymuph. so im kinda frightned that she might be mad or sad because/if i go limp. she knows im a virgin...

    please help prom is may 13th
     
  2. PostingWorld

    PostingWorld Da Man with da plan

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    also another thing im not exactly sure what all to do to her that night. we are renting a hotel room after prom and im just wondering what all i should do to her so she doesnt think im a complete dumbass. please dont respond saying whatever feels right, i really am clueless on how to start etc.

    ive wathched plenty of porn movies but still not sure where to begin. if needed, just say how you and your mate start out and what all you do.
     
  3. BedBunny

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    tell her since she has said she is a "nympho" you will follow her lead.
     
  4. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    planning to lose your virginity is a surefire way for it to go poorly. too much pressure.
     
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    vitamin dew New Member

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    qft
    Don't plan it. Just know that you both want to do it, and take advantage if the opportunity arrises.
     
  6. Kirbys Autumn

    Kirbys Autumn Mrs. Kirby McSpic

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    . It shouldn't be a PLANNED thing. It should just happen when it does. When it just feels right and the time is right. Just make sure you always have a condom around. :naughty:
     
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    he wants to lose his virginity on his prom night, it's too late to not 'plan' it
     
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    jack off like 30 minutes before you have sex so you will las tlonger
     
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    word. you know what, if its prom night you guys could throw in a little alcohol, it will make things so much easier/less awkward.
     
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    zanyspy_dude King of teh n00bz

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    if he's worried about going limp, that's not a good idea. She knows he's a virgin so she ought to be expecting 2 mins only. Just bring a few condoms so you can go a few times.

    Don't worry about it, it's not that big a deal. She'll take over if you really don't know what to do, but once you get started you SERIOUSLY will figure it out.
     
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    this is the number one reason people go limp. put it out of your mind. you are a 16 year old virgin, it will not happen to you. i promise. Get a good nights sleep the night before, and drink only in moderation. you will be able to cut glass with it.


    have fun. keep the mood light. smile, laugh, talk to her playfully.

    dont rush into it, but dont try to "act normal" either.

    as soon as you get into the hotel room, think sexy. Watch chick flicks for pointers, not pornos. Porn is all about what guys want to see, chick flicks have what girls want to do.

    do-
    kiss her mouth and neck (dont slobber, just light kisses) at least, feel free to get creative.
    play with her hair
    do not rush for the goal.. enjoy the process.
    a back rub is an awesome way to get started or spend the time between rounds.
    tell her something nice, brush the side of her face and hair with your hand, then kiss her. "you are beautiful" or something else simple, true, and sweet.
    dont be so worried about the technical details of sex as making her feel good about the whole thing. cuddle and kiss her afterwards. even if you are thinking "man, i dont know if i did it right" there will be time for worrying later, just hold her, be happy and enjoy the moment.

    dont
    put it in unless she is already soaking wet. she might be nervous too. if shes not drenched, see above about kissing neck and backrubs, etc etc.
    go as hard as fast as you can... dont think porno. enjoy it, make eye contact, have fun.


    bah.. enough. you will be fine.


    seriously, either chick flicks or pornos for women (cinemax maybe) trust me, girls are not at all looking for what you see in porn made for guys.
     
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    PostingWorld Da Man with da plan

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    :) thanks for the tips antihero! i might not go limp but dam she makes me so horny and i bet you ill cum before she even touches me. I know last night we went to a concert and on the way home we sat in the back of the van (there was another couple with us our friends and they were driving), i had my arm around her and we were cuddling and just looking at each other kissing a few times and she was rubbing my leg getting very close to my penis and when i got out and went inside my house i realized i cummed a little because my boxers were a bit wet.
     
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    That's precum and it's completely natural.
     
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    Nice work.. should be in the hall of fame y0 :rofl:
     
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    My advice: Ignore all advice in this thread and just go with the flow as it happens. Talk with your girl if something needs to be talked about.
     
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    lol.. you think he should pick up his sexual advice from porns? :coolugh:
     
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    Guardfather The Paradox

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    No, I just think he should let things flow naturally. So many people get caught up in doing it right (in regard to first sexor) according to some unwritten standard society imposes on people. They are two unique people with a unique relationship, and they should do things on their terms.
     

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