going limp during sex

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  1. bobbarker70

    bobbarker70 New Member

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    ive been recently dating this girl and we regularly have sex. at first it was good, lasted atelast 30 minutes a go, very good, obviously we both enjoyed it. one nite we were having sex i finished, and i look down and the condom is completely broken. i freak out.

    oddly enough she had her period a week later and shes not preagnant. ever since then tho, i have ahd a hard time staying aroused during sex. like well be doing it, well switch positions, and ill check the condom and ill worry so much that it just goes limp and then i have no urge to jhave sex. my gf says she understands but it frustrates me. i feel so hroribly embaressed cause a 19 yr old male should have more control than that. and since the condom incident, when i do stay up, i go real fast, way faster than usual. im very frustrated. any advice or words of wisdom? thanks.
     
  2. JaxFlJon

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    Its all in your head. Talk to a councellor?
     
  3. RockChick

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    get her on the pill?
     
  4. almostnormal

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    I'd bet that if she was on the pill as well as using a condom, you'd be worried less about things.

    At the very least use a spermacide to go along with it.

    I'm only happy when I'm protected twice.
     
  5. JaxFlJon

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    Exactly
     
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    my guess is you just need to feel safe in order for you to enjoy it again, due to the fact that you had a scare (and a broken condom is no small scare). once you feel secure that there wont be any surprises (pill/patch/shot are all advisable ways) you shouldnt have a problem with psyching yourself out during a hump session anymore
     
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    MovieMan84 Here we go

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    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    It is all mental. Maybe make some changes to ease your worries. Get her on birth control, use spermicide, and a condom? How about a diaphragm for her? I understand the problem after my best friend got pregnant my SO at the time and I didn't have sex for like a month, we just couldn't get in the mood because we were so petrified of getting pregnant too.
     
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    NERVES=LIMP PENIS!!!

    Number one rule! Quit worrying about it, and you'll be able to perform once again. Get her on the pill/shot, and you'll be set.
     
  10. Technik

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    relax fool
     
  11. bobbarker70

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    my girl tried that........shes like "ill fix this" and would give me head for about 20 minutes, im hard as a flagpole, wed go at it again, and then boomm it happens.

    i know its in my head. my gf is reluctant to go on birth control tho. ill have to talk to her about it.
     
  12. CrxRacer619

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    maybe her poon is all fucking loosened up. she's tapped out..
     
  13. AlexC927

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    my girl is on the pill (Cyclessa) and let me tell ya it is quite liberating for the man....albeit a bit annoying for the woman (who has to remember to take the pill on a daily basis)

    but damn it feels good....
     
  14. giapia

    giapia Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you re

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    meh, if my bf so much as thinks too much other [[other than things sex related]] his pen0r will go limp too
     

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