Going into a relationship that you know will end.

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  1. dazed

    dazed New Member

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    Here's the basic idea, I'm going to college in September. I really really like this girl. She's going to NYU , I'm going to Va Tech. I want to start dating her, but I know that it'll end at the end of the summer. Any suggestions? Is it better to just not do anything and let it pass?
     
  2. BTA

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    Just get with her while you can and see where it goes?
     
  3. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    yeah. long distance isnt easy, but sometimes its worth it. atleast you can say you gave it a try...

    UNLESS, this she is a good female friend of yours already and you value the friendship. then id say stay away.
     
  4. audrey

    audrey New Member

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    You don't always have to try and see the bigger picture. Sit back and enjoy the ride.
     
  5. Go for it, may go somewhere, may not. If it dose great if it dosnt have fun while your involved.
     
  6. Amanda Renee

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    well bc im selfish and i would be affraid of being sad in september.. i would not even get into anything.. but thats me
     
  7. Carpet Liquor

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    Anybody ever seen Grease? ;)

    But seriously...

    Based on the limited info I have of yoru situation, I would, if I were in your shoes, probably casually date her, and see where it goes, if something more developes, then great, if not, no harm in cheering up another person, especially the women. ;) :naughty: Most women just simply enjoy the company of a man, even in a platonic or special friend (not FWB) situation. Yeah I know you're probably hoping to hit it, which could happen, just be prepared for a deeper relationship then, one that you will most likely need to nurture while you're apart, unless she's open to the idea of "getting it on" without any deeper needs.

    In closing, go out on a few dates with her, enjoy yourself and her company, see where it leads.
     
  8. Original

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    I always wondered why my friends entered relationships they knew would end, while getting no poon in the process. Waste of time and money unless you can actually see a valuable, long lasting relationship happening.
     
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  9. chlywly

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    Go ahead, if you are both aware that it will end........
     
  10. Miss Red

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    Hey I know how you feel. I say just enjoy the ride.
     
  11. who?

    who? Guest

    gain some experience from it
     
  12. Zander

    Zander New Member

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    That is very true and I have never thought of it like that. :)
     
  13. Marla

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    If you really really like her, and she enjoys being around you, then I think you two should go one step further. If your feelings grow stronger, then perhaps long distance would work. I know it's hard, but if you really like her, why not give it a shot?

    I really hope you aren't saying you really like her JUST so you can "get it on" with her. That shouldn't be the case if it is.
     
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    I am probably about to enter into a relationship that will end at the end of the summer. We are going to be going to schools in different states. I don't think we should miss out on a relationship, albeit a short one, because of worrying about the end.
     
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    It's a waste of money
     
  16. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    when trying to pursue any type of relationship there are always risks involved. it is up to you to see if the risks outweighs the possible gains from such a relationship. If you are certain that it will end in the summer, then save yourself the trouble and the emotional drama.

    just my 2 cents.

    but who knows, she might be the "one"

    better to see what's up then to be left wondering.
     
  17. naughtie

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    Geez, 1200mk... your av just bothers me...

    gun to the head=suicidal
    gun to the head + crazy smile on the face = disturbing
     
  18. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    thank you.

    hahha
     
  19. naughtie

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    :mamoru:
     

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