Going... insane!

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  1. [HRT]Squirrel Master

    [HRT]Squirrel Master New Member

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    So my girlfriend and I met in college. I was a junior and she was a freshman. We spent almost every day and night together for 2 years until I graduated and went to get a job. She trains horses and during the summer months, has to go to north cali to apprentice. This isn’t one of those are we going to stay together questions.... its much more odd than that ha ha.



    She left about a month ago and I would have only a little phone contact with her if any. We both love each other very much and I am trying to be very supportive of her while she is away. This last weekend I got the chance to see her at one of her shows up here by me. Man was it a good feeling to see her and be able to sleep next to her again.... It was an adjustment just to get over that!



    The only real time she had to see me was on the last night. we had a good time and I finally got to "fiddle" around with her seeing as it had been a month and I’m a guy.... I think I did pretty well :)



    Anyway... she left this morning back for cali and I for my job. Its going to be somewhere around 1.5 to 2 months before I get to see her again. As I said before, we have done this last summer but as most of you know, feelings grow all the time. These days things that were fun to me just aren’t the same anymore. This morning for example was the hardest morning I have had in about a month. Knowing that she is gone and that I can’t touch her messes me up. She is 100% balls to the wall with work so she has little time to worry about me. Some times I get selfish and want her back but I understand that this is her passion, and who am I to take that or ask to take that away from her.



    I guess I should get to the point and in doing so brings me to my question. Is there anything you guys do when your SO or GF is gone for long periods of time, to not feel like complete shit without them? I know she wont be gone forever but holy crap. Its like that feeling when you have broken up with someone. I LOVE getting to talk with her a little bit every night, but it feels like a truck hits me every time I look at her picture.



    I have dated many women, I am 23 and she is 21. I have been in love before, but nothing... nothing like this! Is it normal to miss someone so damn much? I don’t want to sound like I’m clinging to her because we are good in our relationship.... I guess I just miss her.



    What do you guys do to keep your mind off of things like this? I’m getting back into martial arts, which should help a bit. And she is going to try to take a weekend off or two to come see me if she can. But holy hell this is tough... and I’m not an emotional guy ha ha. Maybe i just needed to vent? Well, thanks for listening.... and any advice would be wonderful!
     
  2. opie

    opie hi. OT Supporter

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  3. [HRT]Squirrel Master

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    thank you...

    I have tried that.... I mean the feelings of missing her... not the "feeling" of missing her :squint:

    I know its prolly stupid and the flames are a comin, but its tough!
    Just wanted to know if there were any special tricks to keep busy or to take my mind off of her. Its almost to the point where i have to lay her pics down in my office.
     
  4. devilishparty

    devilishparty Don't sleep walk, it's bad for you.

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    get a hobby. Seriously, whatever it is you like; cars, painting, sewing lol. Whatever your little heart desires, just not HER. Like you said she wont be gone forever. Find a hobby and do it....alot.
     
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    yea, im getting back into martial arts right now.... infact im off from work and going there now!

    thanks... anything else? Or is a hobby my best bet?
     
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    If you have some guy friends go hang out with them. Go to a bar or something have some fun talk about stuff. Sometimes your other friends have hobbies they enjoy and Im sur you could hang out and take part with them, Sounds like you havent been spending much time with anyone other than her, so it might make a nice change to hang out with some other people.
     
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    Im thinkin you are right.
     
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    devilishparty Don't sleep walk, it's bad for you.

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    Yeah hobbies, and friends your best bets there. Sorry you are missing her, i know it must be tough. You will make it through though.
     
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    thanks :)
     
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    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    I know exactly what you are talking about. Well first off I was a marine corps wife for two years (long story) but shit when my husband would leave for anywhere from 3-6 months at a time it was like I was lost in the world. Now I am dating a guy that lives in Utah (I am in CA) YIKES!! It sucks, every time I have to drop him off at the airport it is like.. shit can I climb into your suitcase??

    Some of these people are on to something though. I just spend a lot of time doing the things that make me, well... me. I work out like crazy, I work full time, I go to school full time, I hang out with my friends a LOT. And when I am bored I read, usually school books but sometimes I just go to the bookstore and get lost. I run on the beach, go hiking, take random different types of yoga classes. Hell if anything it gives me something to talk about with him, while he is working full time and studying for the bar. Ya know? Just keep busy. Think of it in terms as the rest of your life, this is only a blink of an eye!
     
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    maybe you should get into horses too lol but seriously, hobbies most likely are your best bet..anything to keep your mind off of her so you dont miss her as much. have a night with the boys or something
     
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    YES! Last night I went to a Tea Kwon Do school close by to get back into martial arts... I miss it :( and now with her gone I have a chance to get a good foundation for when she comes back. I miss her like crazy but this is a way for me to work out, have fun and YES! it gives us something to talk about now. I never realized how much we would just talk about HER day... now mine is in there and it makes the conversations so much better. I agree with you all the way! Good luck with your guy :) sounds cool. staying busy with friends helps too.

    I am gonna get into horses with her when she comes back. She loves that I show an interest in them, and I do like them, but up until recently I resented them for taking her away... how lame is that ha ha. But I really want to get started in those with her as a hoppy for me and a job for her when she comes back.
     
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    no sex for 1 month...... after getting it every day...... this my friends... is insanity.....

    :noes: :noes: :noes:

    it is sooooo much harder this year.... YIKES!
     
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    it always helps to set a date of when you will see eachothe rnext. me and my gf were on opposie coasts for 4-5 months. we visited almost once a month acutally, thats just how it worked out, but as soon as i knew the date when i was going there or when she was coming here, it made time go by a lot faster. make a little countdown or something for yourself. knowing exactly how many days left til u see her. sounds stupid and pointless but it actually helps. only other thing u can do is hang out with yuor friends as much as possible and find some hobbies to keep your mind off things and make the most of the time u have on the phone.
     
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    thats a great idea! nothing stupid about that! Ill try to work on it with her. Its the sexual stuff that is starting to drive me insane though!
     

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