SRS going after a friend's ex...

Discussion in 'On Topic' started by Seraph, Aug 3, 2003.

  1. Seraph

    Seraph Guest

    ive been friends with this guy for about a year now. not best friends or anything. occassionally we'll hang if we're in a group of people but hes cool as shit. earlier in the year he went out with this girl jamey but broke up with her sometime in jan-feb.

    jameys awesome. ive always liked her, but never wanted to try anything cuz of my friend. well, last night a few of us got a little drunk and me and jamey ended up having sex a few times. everyone knows, but i havent heard a reaction from my friend because i havent talked to him.

    but i really do like this girl. would it be wrong to go out with her? even if he does get mad, should i go with what i wanna do, or back off because of the friend?

    TIA
     
  2. Gilly

    Gilly Fruit Loop outta my mind like Godzilla OT Supporter

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    friends X= stay the fuck away

    she fucked while drunk= stay the fuck away

    you banged her what else do you want to accomplsh??
     
  3. 420am

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    uhmm if you you already fucked her and everyone knows, how much madder could he be if you went out.. haha
     
  4. Seraph

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    true. and i thought that too. but as of now i can use the "man im sorry i was so drunk" if hes pissed...if i go out with her i cant use that excuse
     
  5. Xin

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    Hit it like a donkey

    Start thread in "offtopic" section

    Post pics or BAN
     
  6. KGB

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    Wait and see how he reacts then you can make up your mind. Good Luck.
     
  7. Ichabod Crane

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  8. k1ko

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    do you really want a relationship with a girl that fucks when shes drunk like that on a one night stand kinda thing?

    You hit it, now move on!
     
  9. Tex

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    Do yourself a favour, grow some balls, and scratch that one off your list of excuses. "I was drunk" is the excuse for cowards who either have no self-control, or do not have the ability to think about the consequences of their actions prior to undertaking them.

    You've done the deed, face up to whatever's coming. You might find he doesn't give a toss, and you'll be sweet. If not, deal with it as it comes.

    As for what some of the others are saying, I would have some misgivings about a girl who fucks under the circumstances you described, but seeing as you've not asked for any people's thoughts in this area, I'll spare you mine.
     
  10. GreyRS

    GreyRS Your ignorance cramps my conversation.

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    Pursue the relationship. Your disription of your "friendship" with the guy is more like that of an aquaintence(sp?). I.e. you know who he is, you think he is cool, but you do not hang with him one on one. Not a friend really, just someone you know. If you have liked this girl for a while, I am sure that there was some convo prior to and in between you two hitting it. See where things go with her, if that is what you want. When a girl is an "ex" she is free game unless, you are the reason they broke up or you know that your friend is not over her and may be trying to get her back. Live your life, no one else can do it for you.
     
  11. cdk-rod

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    she's your friends EX. they're not going out. if you guys want to date then go for it. he has no say in it now.
     
  12. as birthday massacre said, he cant say anything. if friends couldnt date a friends ex, the dating pool would be muuuuucch smaller...
     
  13. skifreek

    skifreek Diamond Status

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    Honestly, sit back and asses this situation:


    YOU FUCKED A GIRL THE FIRST TIME YOU HUNG OUT

    You = instant winnar for the week


    YOU DO NOT go out with a slut that does that....

    just think... since january feb that your 'friend' dated her... how many DRUNK FUCK NIGHTS you think shes had ? shell prolly admit to none or one.... but shes prolly carrying every crab and lobster south of the border. girls that fuck on the first date are MOST LIKELY dirty whorebags.

    *disclaimer

    there are some decent girls that bang on the first night... :hs:
     
  14. Hayes

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    Go tell the guy that you dig her and you're hoping he doesn't mind.

    Most of us aren't so amazing that we are the only ones a chick will bang on in a drunken stupor, so you're probably not alone.

    Having nailed alot of girls on the first date, I'm not gonna be a hypocrite and say avoid her, but do investigate a little, esp with all those crazy bugs out there.
     
  15. Gradey

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    go buy her a shirt that says "I fuck on the 1st date", but in all seriousness I would no pursue this one. unless you are just trying to get laid.
     
  16. BaZ

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    not relationship material
     
  17. HotBuns

    HotBuns I am God, prove me wrong

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    depends on how good of friends you are with the guy
     
  18. Tills

    Tills Lets Go Flyers

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    First you broke the unwritten rule. You don't bang one of your friends girls. you must now ask for forgiveness and you have to ask his permission to date her.

    Ask First
    Bang Second
     
  19. guchiew

    guchiew Increase your killing power.

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    how bout you get banned.
     
  20. iLLt3ck

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    if its a friend's ex, stay away.

    No matter what you say,

    worthless piece of shit comes to mind.
     
  21. SCRanger

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    Yeah, good thing I'm dating yours!
     
  22. SickOfItAll

    SickOfItAll The Bartender

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  23. Xin

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    stfu n00b
     
  24. prynce

    prynce Best baseball team in Texas

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    Pretty simple, if you care enough about the guy then go have a talk with him about it, if not then there's really nothing you can do since you've already fucked her a few tims and he knows about it.
     
  25. Canucker

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    My best friend dated a girl I had had a crush on for ages, and when they broke up, I asked my friend if it would upset him if I went after the girl. He said no prob, and now that girl and I are inseparable. She is the love of my life.
     

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