My girlfriend, (18) who I love dearly, lives at home and is finishing up high school. We talk every night pretty late and we both have to get up early every morning. She pays her own cell phone bill but her dad called me yesterday and was very pissed about how high the bill was and he was also upset that I keep her up so late on the phone when she has to get up early for school the next day, he told me that he took her cell phone and she no longer has one (even though she does pay all of her bills herself, he doesn't want her to waste her money on that) she is also grounded and isn't allowed to talk on any phone anymore. I apolagized to him and he hung up on me. She called me shortly after for what was probably a 5 minute conversation and I told her that I would gladly pay for her phone bill because it was my fault and I want to show her father that I'm going to be a man about it, but she refused and absolutely would not let me pay her phone bill. It drives me crazy that I can't talk to her, so I'm considering buying her a pre-paid cell phone so we can stay connected and if we need to talk we can call eachother, and in case of an emergency she can call for help. I think it would be a nice gift for her but I don't want her to feel like I just want to keep tabs on her and I definately don't want her to think it would be a way of controlling her, because I am not a controlling boyfriend, I'm fine with her doing whatever she wants to do. I also wouldn't talk to her late all the time anymore because obviously, pre-paid minutes are very pricey. Another point is, I don't want to disrespect her parents and completely disregard their authority but I kind of feel like its necessary because they completely disregarded our relationship which is more important to us than anything. Relationships are based around communication, how the hell can we maintain a relationship if I'm not even allowed to fucking talk to her? Should I buy her a phone? Should I just wait it out (when she gets grounded its usually for several months)? How would you react if you were me? How would you react if you were her and your boyfriend bought you a cell phone when your own parents took yours? I know the reason her parents are so strict is because her sister dropped out of school and got hooked on heroin, and when she got put in jail for possesion, she couldn't get her fix so she ended up hanging herself. This obviously hurt the family so much and now her parents are very strict with her about everything because they don't want her to follow in her sister's footsteps. They are set on my girlfriend finishing high school and college, which I respect and support but they are convinced that I am going to tear her away from an education and just want her all to myself. Am I being selfish by wanting to get her a phone to keep our relationship going? Cliffs: Girlfriend's parents are very strict, took cell phone, grounded her, shes not allowed to talk to me for a while. I am considering buying her a cell phone but don't want her to think its only a method of keeping tabs on her and controlling her.