Girlfriend's parents got divorced today.

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  1. Loomster

    Loomster New Member

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    How do i approach this situation? I never experienced anything like this, hell i don't even have any friends whos parents are divorced.
     
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    She will be going through alot over the next few weeks........ She has a good chance of questioning your relationship so just let her come to you/bring the subject up when she is ready.
     
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    update

    well, she broke up with me last night :hs:
     
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    like mother like daughter.
     
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    Xtreme2k2 GTI Crew ಠ_ಠ OT Supporter

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    didnt see that coming :hsugh:
     
  6. TomBrady

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    lol why?
     
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    How old is she?
     
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    it could have been the father that wanted to divorce not mother..
     
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    She is probably going through a horrible array of emotions right now...she will most likely come around
     
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    it's a hard time for anyone, especially kids.. :o be there for her, even if everyone on OT says she's just using you. she's fucked up emotionally, and if you care enough about her, you'll stick by her side.

    just be ready to be a shoulder to cry on.
     
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    This will eventually make your relationship much stronger
     
  12. Loomster

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    All she said when she broke up with my was that it wasnt the same anymore, she loves me, but shes not in love with me, and its her not me.

    this confuses the hell outta me.

    i havnt spoken to her since last night. should i try to call her or what
     
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    No, give her space. I'm guessing you guys are in high school and see each other everyday. You will undoubtedly see each other again, and undoubtedly talk. The next time you do just tell you can't imagine what she's going through, that you're there for her if she needs it, that you love her, blah blah blah, you get the picture.

    It undoubtedly isn't you, she just doesn't have a f'n clue on how to deal with this.
     
  14. TomBrady

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    no
    the best adice is going to be from me
    first hand exerience..
    leave her thee fuck alone..dont talk to her at all..unless she becomes suicidal
     
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    both in college, both 19. I guess i gotta just not contact her at all. Been together almost two years, my first real long relationship, so this sucks.
     
  16. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Like a couple of people said...Be there for her..be the shoulder she can cry on.

    It will only make things stonger between you two and help things out in the long run.
     
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    how can i be there for her if she wont communicate with me at all. I havn't tried to yet, but its only been a day :sad2:
     
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    Think of it like this she has seen her parents together for 19 years. I can imagine that she thought "They will always be together bla bla" When she sees them apart now she starts to think "If they can't do it why do I think I can do it?" and thus she broke up with you and is an emotional basketcase. Let her talk to you if you try to make her talk she will only get mad at you. At this point I do not think she has any problems with you she is just confused........ This is the time for her girlfriends and guyfriends(that have no physical connection to her) to step in and be what they are friends.
     
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    thank you, I guess i just have to wait it out :hs:
     
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    just an update if anyone cares, we got back together last night :bigthumb:, she basically said word for word what you all said, and everything played out rather nicely. Now i'm happy again :big grin:
     
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    congrats, i'm glad you're happy and doing well
     
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    Good to hear!:bigthumb:
     
  23. enfiniti

    enfiniti How firm thy friendship ... OHIO!

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    move the fuck on pussy and toss her to the curb for the asshole's. Don't let her bring you down
     

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