Girlfriend's Opinion on Facial Hair?

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  1. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    Just wanted to get a little input on this. I'm 20 she's 19.

    I decided to grow my facial hair out into a little goatee. I've only been growing it for a week, not much yet, but its getting there.

    Tonight was the first night the girlfriend has seen it, and before I started she told me that she didnt think it would look good, and that I shouldn't do it.

    Tonight, she refused to kiss me, because when we kissed it felt "itchy". Basically she wants me to shave it. I don't really want to, I'd like to see what it looks like grown out, and I finally have a job where I can so I want to.

    I think she's being a bit immature about it, but when I said something she said I was being immature by not backing down about it.

    What should I do? We've been going out 7 months, and I don't want something this retarded to be the end of the relationship. I also don't want to back down on it.. because I've wanted to grow it since before we went out, and if I do it because she said so, I'm just gonna feel whipped. How do I make her understand?
     
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    Tough call. Personally, I do not like hairy faces. But, men who don't shave their faces close enough can really do a number on a woman's skin.
    I say, you talk to this girl, make her understand your predilection for a goatee and ask her to be patient and wait till it gows in more and see if she really likes it (and you will have the opportunity of having one).
    Compromise sometimes works wonders.
    A minor thing like growing a goatee should not make any difference in your relationship.
    It's your face.
     
  3. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    Thats exactly how I feel. I don't think it should make a difference. How exactly do I compromise on this?
     
  4. WeRdToYoMoThA

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    my gf said the same thing. eventually i shaved it off because she would always get red spots on her face from when i kissed her and the hair rubbed her face.

    edit: exgf :rant:
     
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    If you didnt have one when you first began going out with her, she may just be having issues with you attemping to change the way you look, (trying to get a new girls attention, ect) I have had the opposite problem. My ex didnt like it when I shaved my goatee off, she said I looked better with it and said it felt funny to kiss me without it.
     
  6. Scott7

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    I'd have a talk with her...

    I got the goatee and the chin strap....it owns lol
     
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    in this situation, compromise with her. grow it out to your desired length, if she hasn't gotten used to it and still doesn't like it. shave it. you then know what your goatee can look like, and you dont feel whipped.

    think about it this way, purely hypotheticly, what if your girl decided not to shave her legs? what if she really wanted to see what it looks like grown out. and you hate it because it's so prickly. do you think you'd be immature to ask her to shave it?


    it's not being whipped, it's called making compromises.
     
  8. laracroft

    laracroft teh croft

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    I normally prefer clean cut guys, but if the goatee looks good and is well kept then it's cool.
     
  9. Improvolone

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    Unless I had this huge attachment to it, if it was annoying her I would see no problem in getting rid of it.
    Shaving my face is no skin off my back.
     
  10. IslanderOffRoad

    IslanderOffRoad Do you even lift kit? OT Supporter

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    That's the example she gave. I don't think I'd like it, but I wouldnt hold out on sex or anything because of it.

    What I don't understand is how is it compromising if I'm basically conceding to her? Where is her give in the situation?
     
  11. BTA

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    My GF likes my facial hair. Doesnt want me to shave it actually.

    I'd grow it out some more and see what she thinks. If you have the right hair type it isnt as itchy when it's longer. Mine is actually pretty soft when it's long enough.

    Oh and make her let you kiss on her back and neck and stuff with the goatee, she might like it ;)
     
  12. Half-Pint

    Half-Pint will you give in to me?

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    Something small like this shouldn't be allowed to interfere with your relationship. Try persuade her to let you grow it, just to see how it goes. She'll most probably get used to it. I hope she lets you at least try
     
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    i like my boyfriends goatee and he said he's shaving it off tonight :(

    *he'll grow it back though ;)
     
  14. Bella

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    I like facial hair like that, but thats me. anyways if she's making a big deal out of a little facial hair think of what she can hate in the future
     
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    tell her to wait it out, if you dont like it after it grows out you'll get rid of it

    but for now, lets wait till the final results




    (i thought this thread was going to be about facial hair on women. )
     
  16. Improvolone

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    It doesn't sound like shes making that big of a deal out of it. If she is honestly uncomfortable kissing him with it... you can't blame her.
     
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    True, but If I didn't like my guy's facial I'd tell him but I would never avoid a kiss.
     
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    tell her that now she understands what its like to go down on her.. :dunno:
     
  19. Improvolone

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    I'm curious is she said no to a makeout session, or just a kiss.
     
  20. IslanderOffRoad

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    just a kiss, and a kiss goodnight at that :wtc:
     
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    Hahahaha....
     
  22. PuppyCat

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    Excellent Point.
    I like the way you put that.
     
  23. Incog91

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    She won't kiss you because she doesn't like how it feels and you call her immature.

    I don't like the way it feels when I burn my hand on a stove, so I don't stick my hand on a stove, does that make me immature?

    fucking children.
     
  24. Bella

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    Yea but your not in a relationship with a fucking stove. She should accept no matter what, she can make her point, and it should be HIS choice to take it off. IT's just like those people who are like do this or no sex! I cant stand people like that
     
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    you know what hurts? going down on a girl with hard stubble. i'll do it, cause i love it. but god do i hate that fucking stubble. thankfully my girl does an excellent job of shaving and i love it.

    in this case, in the end if you refuse to shave it and go for the goatee. she'll still kiss you yes, but she'll still hate that fucking prickly stubble (or whatever u wanna call the in between stubble/long hair that makes up a goatee).


    your compromise is this, you grow it out till your desired length. she lives with it for a few weeks. you get to see what it looks like, she decides at the end if she likes it or not. you shouldn't feel whipped cause you say "no, i'm not going to shave it until it's completely grown in. i really want to see what it looks like. if after i grow it out, and you still dont like it.. i'll shave it" (hell, you might not even like it...)
     

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