The girl i'm dating now we used to date about a year and half ago and just got back together about a month ago, we have only had sex 2 or 3 times in the past month and only when she has drank. Any other time that i even remotely attempt to initiate, she will all of a sudden be 'tired' or say something like 'you're not getting any' even in the daytime, and will also say this even if I just simply give her a kiss and not trying to get her going. So after so many times of her showing absolutely no interest in me unless she drinks, I decided to turn the tables on her last night and turned her down when she was ready. Of course she didn't like that and made the comment "what boyfriend turns down his girlfriend?" which i of course replied with 'what girlfriend can only have sex when she drinks?' which she then tried to turn it around on me saying she don't have as much of a drive as me, but then later on slips and tells me she thinks about sex a lot but doesn't know how to initiate and isn't confident. I know the initiate part is BS because any time i so much as kiss her i get the not gettin any shit. What is her real issue and what can i do to try to get her to loosen up and be more confident and show some interest when she's sober?