Girlfriend won't have sex unless she drinks?

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  1. kgkern01

    kgkern01 New Member

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    The girl i'm dating now we used to date about a year and half ago and just got back together about a month ago, we have only had sex 2 or 3 times in the past month and only when she has drank. Any other time that i even remotely attempt to initiate, she will all of a sudden be 'tired' or say something like 'you're not getting any' even in the daytime, and will also say this even if I just simply give her a kiss and not trying to get her going.
    So after so many times of her showing absolutely no interest in me unless she drinks, I decided to turn the tables on her last night and turned her down when she was ready. Of course she didn't like that and made the comment "what boyfriend turns down his girlfriend?" which i of course replied with 'what girlfriend can only have sex when she drinks?' which she then tried to turn it around on me saying she don't have as much of a drive as me, but then later on slips and tells me she thinks about sex a lot but doesn't know how to initiate and isn't confident. I know the initiate part is BS because any time i so much as kiss her i get the not gettin any shit. What is her real issue and what can i do to try to get her to loosen up and be more confident and show some interest when she's sober?
     
  2. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    She sounds like a waste of time. You will have to spend most of your interactions with this girl educating her about life. I did that once ... never again.
     
  3. mandarin orange

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    dump the bitch
     
  4. deathbystereo

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    Start drinking while you get things started. Then make everything busy later on in your lovemakin session, so there is no time to drink. Her buzz will wear off during the middle and then you can tell her, "See, you were sober for the last half and it was amazing." maybe that will help her loosen up.
     
  5. Clean Baldy

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    I wasted 18 months in a relationship like that. I bet she doesnt even kiss with her mouth open most of the time, has no passion, and is very selfish or maybe even an only child with just a mom...

    I don't care how much you THINK you love her, you just love the idea... find someone better suitable for you, and let her cheat on her next boyfriend who she thinks shes bored with because she just doesn't quite get the point yet.

    Sex in a relationship should be "I want sex" and the other person should be "He wants sex... that sounds good" not excuses, and pushing you away so you want it even more, and you feel like shit...

    Ugh, I'm sorry you're going through it. It sucks. Get out, before she puts you out on your ass and it'll hurt... trust me.
     
  6. bandwagon

    bandwagon Copy/Paste

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    Read:

    David Shade Manual
    The Way of the Superior Man

    But I would next her because she feels that she can use sex as a bargaining chit. That is a deal breaker for me.
     
  7. digitime

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    show her some porn... or if she's not confident then you should make her feel good.... tell her she looks hot, she turns you on..etc.
     
  8. Sweetness

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    And if all else fails... Hey just open a bottle of Jack Daniels! :mamoru:
     
  9. Thspoq

    Thspoq New Member

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    Drunk sex is always the best
     
  10. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    dump her ass quick
     
  11. Azn_azzho

    Azn_azzho New Member

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    waste of time and full of excuses
     
  12. The Mafia

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    maybe learn how to arouse her when she's sober? its not a hard thing to do..
     

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