girlfriend wont give head

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  1. Rellik

    Rellik New Member

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    ive been seeing this girl for 1-2 months and although shes fine with fucking and handjobs she wont give me head any time i ask.... she says she just doesn't do it and wont give me a meaningful answer when i ask if she ever will, this is despite the fact that i love going down on her and getting her off... i dont know if its her personality (shes Polish catholic if it means anything) or if its me (maybe cause i precum a lot, could that be turning her off? the guys in the pornos usually have pretty dry cocks)... what should I do? (other than the obvious of getting a new gf)

    thanks
     
  2. fray

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    She's already told you her stance, so can you tolerate that you have a gf who may never blow you? Because that's really the choice you're looking at. Not only that, but you lack communication about why she won't. Bad start.
     
  3. Rellik

    Rellik New Member

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    threaten her? with what? with ending the relationship? but if she was worried about that, then she woudln't be having these types of convictions in the first place, right? and then it would just go to shit if I didn't follow through on my threat
     
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    upparoom OT Supporter

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    you mean EX -gf right?
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    then why is she your gf ?
     
  6. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    If it means enough to you to make a thread about, then move on now. Even if you convince yourself that you're an understanding guy, eventually it will eat away at you because you want it and you truly don't understand why you can't have it.
     
  7. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    Just never eat her out?
     
  8. wolfskymoon

    wolfskymoon Guest

    Never eat her out, some ppl don't like the idea of sucking on a penis where urine comes from lol.
     
  9. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    It's either a dealbreaker for you or it's not.
     
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    Bacardi 151 New Member

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  11. victimizati0n

    victimizati0n New Member

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    if you dump a chick because she wont give you head, you fail.. seriously

    you just have to understand that some people dont like doing shit

    what if she wants you to take a dump on her chest, then lick it off, are you going to do that?

    if you say no, should she break up with you because of it?
     
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    :ugh: that is completely different :rofl:
     
  13. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    If she considers that to be an important part of her sex life, then yes, she should. Besides you're looking at it as though they're perfectly suited for each other, but he's freaking out over one sexual act that she won't perform. I would bet that if she has an issue with something as normal (yes, I consider this normal) as giving head, then she probably has other sexual inhibitions. Now if the topic starter is an inexperienced guy or just liked normal fare when it comes to sex, then that's all right, but if he wants a sex life with more experimentation, then he probably won't get it with her- or at least not to the extent that would satisfy him.

    But maybe I'm projecting. Anyway the point is, sex is one of the main issues that couples fight about. So acting like a sexual incompatibility- no matter what it is- doesn't matter, is foolish.
     
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    victimizati0n New Member

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    i know a girl that doesnt/wont give head, and even if i did date her, and have a sexual relationship, i wouldnt fucking care.. she chooses not to give head, i dont understand what the big deal is

    if i didnt want to do something sexual.. like lets say eat out my girl, and she dumped me for it., then :ugh2: fuck her, she wasnt worth my time anyways if she would dump someone because they dont feel comfortable, or dont like doing a specific sexual thing

    and anyways, most chicks that i have seen talking about bj's online have said that they will not give one unless the dude just took a shower

    and sorry if im being an asshole, i had yet another horrible weekend and im crabby because i just woke up :o :hs:
     
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    vodkacollins New Member

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    TS, if it bothers you and she doesnt care, then you need to re-think you relationship. if she is so set in her ways of never giving you head, you need to decide if you are ok with never getting it, or if you require it.

    if she doesnt want to give you head, thats her choice, but the fact that she wont even be open or honest with you about why she wont is a bad sign.
     
  16. Abomb

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    dump and find a girl who enjoys pleasuring her man
     
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    At least you're getting sex. Some guys their SOs wont even sex them...
     
  18. fray

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    See, I think this is a problem with society in general. If you think this way (and this is directed more at ts than you vysion), you're basically settling. Settling for 'good enough' even though it's not quite what you want. It's the whole "they're perfect except..." mentality. And then people wonder why they're in marriages that make them unhappy with people they don't really like. Now is the time to be picky! Sex is a big deal thing if it's important to you and you are not compatible. It has the potential to build a great deal of resentment.
     
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    bowrofl New Member

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    People in this thread have it right so far. A relationship isn't about compromising your happiness. It's finding someone who will make you happy, and you make happy, without changing much of your core personality.

    Sex, and being sexually satisfied, is a big part of any relationship. If your SO won't satisfy you, it's likely that you'll look somewhere else for it. Avoid the trouble. Have a real talk with her, try to be rational. If she still doesn't give a good answer, I'd drop her.
     
  20. Vysion

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    Every person will have something you don't like. It's not "settling", it's compromising. No one is perfect so we shouldn't expect to find that "perfect" partner.
     
  21. Abomb

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    yes and you shouldnt "compromise" on sex thats retarded when you can find someone with the same sexual interests
     
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    Even if the TS dumps his current girlfriend because she wont give head and finds a new SO that does give head, there will be something else that the new gf wont do. Sometimes being happy with what you have isn't a bad thing.
     
  23. Abomb

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    its not that hard to find a girl that swallows and does anal :ugh:

    it may be ok for you to settle but its not ok for some of us.
     
  24. vodkacollins

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    so you find someone where your "compromise" is about how she leaves the toothpaste cap messy and it drives you crazy, not the fact that you want head and she wont give it to you

    you are right, every relation ship requires compromise, but its perfectly fine that "no head" is not something people want to compromise about. everyone will be different.
     
  25. Abomb

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    <3
     

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