Girlfriend wants a break....Now have No Contact with her....is it really over?

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  1. Lucky_721

    Lucky_721 Active Member

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    been going out for 2 and half years now. its always been long distance...we are seperated by distance, 150 miles. Everything is going fine I thought and then all of a sudden on last Thursday she drops this on me. She says "I need a break, I cant do this anymore" "I need time to figure out who I am" "I need time to grow up" "I need time to be single and do single things with out anyone holding me back" We both love eachother and thats not even in question but what can I do. I havent talked to her since she left my house on Thursday. Its now Day 4 with No Contact. I love her too much to do anything she doesnt want. Any thoughts on my situation?
     
  2. skitcy

    skitcy uhm title! ok

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    The distance finally got to here :( move on sadly.
     
  3. Guardfather

    Guardfather The Paradox

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    Age of both of you?

    Long distance relationships are extremely difficult to maintain. Especially if both are young.
     
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    AllProAfro New Member

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    Theres nothing you can do to change her mind.....shes already made it up, and trust me.....after what shes said there isnt a big chance you will get back together. Ive been in your position on more than one occasion
     
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    Yep. She's gone. Sorry bro.

    Oh, and how is the phi delt chapter in Oregon?
     
  6. Lucky_721

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    well it sucks to think she is gone. im still trying to deal with that. and yes we are both young and i know that.

    phi delt chapter of oregon gamma is going good. are you a phi?
     
  7. z31maniac

    z31maniac *insert witty remark*

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    Yeah I hate to join in with these guys, but sounds like she is gone. I too have been in this situation, on both sides.

    Best thing you can do is not try to call/email/text/IM her. She may realize what she is missing, but most likely not.
     
  8. KuntryFresh

    KuntryFresh Midwest

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    :sadwavey: kinda in the same spot
     
  9. maybeitsyou

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    me too....gf is mad at me but wont tell me and all this other crap..:hsd:
     
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    KuntryFresh Midwest

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    mine just had lead me on and jerked me around alot

    broke up with me 2 weeks before break
    break begins she likes me, wants to have sex, calls saying she misses me

    after xmas acts weird n says no physical attraction to me n doesent wanna talk

    :hs: :wtf:
     
  11. incubimmer

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    if this was a long distance internet dating relationship, you never had a gf to begin with so no loss.
     
  12. Mugwump

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    "I need a break, I cant do this anymore"

    "I need time to figure out who I am"

    "I need time to grow up"

    "I need time to be single and do single things with out anyone holding me back"

    She's basically fishing for excuses to break up with you.

    She's really strapped for time. :mamoru:
     
  13. Lucky_721

    Lucky_721 Active Member

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    this wasnt internet bro...but thanks for the comments. we saw eachother every 2 to 3 weeks during school and i got to see her all during summer. Im going to keep the no contact thing going untill maybe she relizes she misses me and wants me back. i know she isnt going to find anyone as good as me but she can try all she wants.
     
  14. z31maniac

    z31maniac *insert witty remark*

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    Now why your doing that. Go out drinking with your buddies, whatever hobbies/pastimes you may have. Keep yourself busy, it will help you to not think about it.

    Oh and nothing helps you get over the last one like the next one.
     
  15. Lucky_721

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    well the sad thing is...right now im home for break...and non of my freinds are here. so i just have alot of time to myself. im happy though, i am learning to be me
     
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    this blows....my gf and i just went on a break...her decision
     
  17. Mugwump

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    If she does come back, she'll do so when she's "ready," which I think is insensitive and selfish.
     
  18. Transporter

    Transporter A Bathing Ape

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    Exactly. Thats why u move on.
     
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    Atleast she told you this before going out "Exploring" on her own.. have to give her Props on that.

    150 Miles is a pretty big gap, but let fate take its course, if its meant to be, it WILL be.
     
  20. MP525i

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    not to sound like an a-hole or anything but you have to assume that she's banging other guys. if i were you, i would go out and snag some girls and just live this up.

    let's look at the facts:
    -she throwing all these excuses at you.
    -she instigated this.
    -she hasn't contacted you.

    sorry to hear this man, but i would say move on. :( i wouldn't wait for her to "realize," what she missed out on.

    good luck bro.
     
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    Ah no, I got balled two weeks before initiation. I even finished the final and everything. :rofl:
     
  22. Epiphany

    Epiphany 78% of all statistics are made up on the spot

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    :bigthumb: Awesome! Thats healthy. :)
     
  23. Lucky_721

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    sucks man....we start rush as soon as winter break is over and i dont know how much i am looking forward to it.

    I think a huge problem i had in my relationship is that we didnt give each other space to grow individually. ill know for next time...
     
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    Odds are she has someone else in mind she'd like to "do single things" with... if she isn't/hasn't already.

    I heard the same thing a few months ago, and I found out the hard way what it means.

    Sorry. Best cut your losses now and not hope for anything more.
     
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  25. sexhaver420

    sexhaver420 Buying stuff I don't need, with money I don't have OT Supporter

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    fuck that shit, from my experience once it you start taking breaks things never go back to the same. Start finding a new girl right now, but keep fucking your current. Do not stay attached. Repeat: DO NOT STAY ATTACHED.
     

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