Girlfriend told me about 2 previous partners...

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  1. han

    han Guest

    She's 18 and told me about the guys she had sex with (not in graphic detail) but after hearing this, I just feel sick for some odd reason. I was a virgin when I met her, but when she told me about this -- I just can't imagine her doing it with anyone else but me. I don't know why it eats me alive but it does...

    How do I get through this? I feel like me, being 22 (lost my virginity at 20) should have had more experiences before her. Yet I don't, and I feel really insecure because of that. No matter how hard I try to forget it, it will be there...
     
  2. caribou

    caribou New Member

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    realize that you are the one fucking this girl and that you will probably have sex with her (as her boyfriend) many many more times than they ever did.

    or,you could spend your time worrying, being anxiety-ridden, looking for deep meaning about why you are insecure about it.
     
  3. Nev

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    Who fucking cares. Every girl you fuck for the rest of your life is going to have slept with someone else. Get over it now, or live with your strange feeling forever.
     
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    unless she got std's from them, it's perfectly normal
     
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    Apothis New Member

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    You don't realize how good you have it. A lot of us have SO's with MUCH more significant histories than that. A lot of us don't care about that stuff, many of us do (such as myself). If her two partners by 18 bother you so much, you'd probably kill yourself if you were in my shoes with my gf's past. Trust me, things could be worse. In any case, all you can really do is accept it put it behind you.
     
  6. SteveNC

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    You need to let it go. I married my love at 26. Shes had a good 9 years of fucking before we tied the knot. It's just the way it is.
     
  7. RedVsBlue

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    Her past makes her who she is for you today. Why do you care? You need to grow up and get over your insecurities.

    The sad thing is, because she had more before you, you now think you should have had more before her. You are wishing she wasnt your first...if she knew this, how do you think that would make her feel.

    You sound really immature. You need to get over it and move on, or find someone else. Of course, now you are used goods too, so what are you going to do, stay single until you find a virigin? Good luck with that.

    Just because someone has a sexual past doesnt mean it has any bearing on their current relationship. The only person her past is going to effect is you, and if you really care about her, you wont let it bother you one bit.
     
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    Just wait till she really trusts you and starts telling you about the gang bangs she was in when she was 16 :rofl:
     
  9. scent of a wookie

    scent of a wookie OT Supporter

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    speaking from personal experience?
     
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    I would never want a virgin....but still its a little weird hearing about your womans past....I feel you...

    Though I am not insecure about it....its something you wanna know, but you dont really wanna know....

    Dont sweat the small stuff....everything is small stuff
     
  12. [DWI]

    [DWI] Master of Nothing

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    how do you get over it

    simple

    you honestly ask yourself do I want to loose her over this?

    then you use that answer to keep guide you

    beyond that . . . to each his own.

    I know where you are coming from and I know it nagged the hell out of me for years.
     
  13. BATMANs

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    to make it more interesting ask her how large their were......
     
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    lol

    It's lucky to find a girl round here who's 18 and only slept with 2 people.

    Count yourself lucky.
     
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    I think the only thing about a person's past you need to know about are diseases they've caught or have. Maybe really risky things they did. Like a gangbang at 16 with Motley Crue.

    I'll be the first to admit I have less experience than most people, but I have a don't ask, don't tell policy with the girlfriend's I've had. Just helps me keep my sanity. It allows me to enjoy the things they do without having to imagine all the time they spent practicing their art on other guys.

    Of course, I'm also at an age that virgins don't attain.
     
  16. RedVsBlue

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    not myself...my best friend went through this with his woman. Found out ALOT of stuff about her sexual past that NOONE would have thought. She was the most innocent looking girl...she apparently just liked alot of dick.

    I knew all about my wifes past shortly after we dated and became close. Just one of those things we are both upfront about since it doesnt really bother us :dunno:
     
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    and then ask her what's the most times a guy has got her off :rofl:

    You think your insecure now...:mamoru:
     
  18. MikeTheVike1

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    werd, be happy it was only 2. I remember the night my first love told me how many guys she had fucked...18!!! that was in like a 2 year time span! I felt sick to my stomach at that point.
     
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    my gf's been with 4 other guys and shes 17... we are open about our past's but I still don't like knowing there have been 4 other cocks inside her before me.

    and her best friend has been with 21 guys...also 17 lol.
     
  20. OoOlAlA

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    Oh gosh, how ridiculous. It going to happen. What is there to be upset about?
     
  21. Tiberium

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  22. ArthurPewty

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    At once?! Are you dating a porn star?
     
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    :rolleyes:
     
  24. enfiniti

    enfiniti How firm thy friendship ... OHIO!

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    ehh, hell my chick had 9 before me... and shes 22...

    makes for kinky good sex tho. She knows how to have a good time in the sack.

    Practice makes perfect eh?
     
  25. Brigante

    Brigante i'm a lurker without an avatar, deal with it

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    hope this makes you feel better. my 2nd g/f several years ago was with 2 guys before me. EXCEPT she was still gettin with one of them for a 2 month's period when me and her started out, but before we were officially together but by that time we were already intimate. i didn't find out until shortly before we were 'official'. can you imagine what was goin through my head then? she coulda had some other guy's cock inside her, his tongue down her throat and his hands all over her the day before it was my turn for all i knew and still sickens me to think this could have all occurred just hours before me.

    nothing you can do about it if it's in the past. get over it. just be happy it's STILL in the past.
     

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