Girlfriend tells another girl it's OK to hit on me - :wtf:

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  1. sabin8401

    sabin8401 New Member

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    Hey fellow OT'ers. I've been lurking around the vag/FS for a while, and thought you guys & gals may be able to shed some light on my current situation.

    Every Friday, I go out with my GF and several friends (they were initially her friends, since they go to school together, but have since become mutual friends) to a nice little bar - cheap & early happy hour + cheap & delicious pizza = good times.

    Anyway, last Friday, one of the girls that goes out with us was hitting on me, fairly often. I am no relationship/body language expert, but this was pretty obvious. My GF seemed unphased by this. Upon further inquiry, she said that the girl had asked her if she could do it, and she had said yes.

    :wtf:

    So, um...is this normal? What exactly does it mean? I asked my GF about it, and she said that she said yes just to say yes, whatever the hell that means. We have been together for over one and a half years. Does she just trust me and not care what other girls do? Am I looking too much into this?

    Thanks in advance for any help, OT'ers. :wavey:
     
  2. Leaden Grudge

    Leaden Grudge OT Supporter

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    She's probably testing you to see how far you will let it go! Crazy women.
     
  3. THT

    THT The easy way is always mined

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    I'd say she's comfortable with your relationship.
     
  4. audrey

    audrey New Member

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    Maybe she wants a threesome :naughty:
     
  5. Improvolone

    Improvolone New Member

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    I don't see where the problem is
     
  6. sabin8401

    sabin8401 New Member

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    This may be true. Although I don't like the idea of being "tested" in a relationship. Oh well.

    Then does that mean she won't care if I flirt back quite a bit? :x:

    I can only hope! :naughty:
     
  7. Improvolone

    Improvolone New Member

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    So you want to flirt with other girls?
    You need to talk to her about that.
     
  8. sabin8401

    sabin8401 New Member

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    It's not necessarily a problem - I just wanted to get some opinions/viewpoints on the situation.
     
  9. sabin8401

    sabin8401 New Member

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    I said it in a playful manner. I was just joking. :rolleyes:
     
  10. audrey

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    Hopefullly she isn't testing you. That's would be crap.

    Does your girl like girls?
     
  11. sabin8401

    sabin8401 New Member

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    No, she doesn't. Her roommates for the past 2 years (all female) have been either bisexual or homosexual. Go figure. :hs:

    Regardless, we have talked about having threesomes, but she explicitly stated that it would be solely to fulfill my fantasy about it (wait, doesn't every guy have a fantasy about that? :mamoru: ); she also said that she wouldn't want it to be with someone who we both knew because she would feel awkward afterwards. Of course, I am jumping way ahead, because we talked about all of this very hypothetically.
     
  12. audrey

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    hrmmm sounds like she might be testing you. How old are you two if you don't mind me asking?
     
  13. sabin8401

    sabin8401 New Member

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    I'm 21, she's 22.

    If she is, in fact, testing me, I don't know why it would happen now (in addition to not knowing why it would happen at all...). Our relationship is at a relatively stable point. We are both settled down in professional school (albeit in different ones). :dunno:
     
  14. audrey

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    Did you ask her why said it would be ok?
     
  15. sabin8401

    sabin8401 New Member

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    Yes - she said she said yes "just to say yes." I have no idea what that means. Maybe she was just joking and knew I wouldn't flirt back?

    On a sidenote, is it not unusual for a girl to ask another girl if she can hit on her boyfriend? :dunno:
     
  16. yo vanilla

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    she wants either a threesome or just the girl, but she doesnt want to tell you
     
  17. purplebeast

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    Girls are catty as hell. And if you are what she considers a "good catch". You best believe she wont give permission for another girl to hit on you. Like everyone else said. 1) She is testing you. 2) She wants a threesome OR......
    3) She is one of those that enjoys seeing their SO screwing someone else.
     
  18. audrey

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    Well I think you should ask more questions. Her answers are vague and you don't know exactly what she wants.
     
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  19. Dax420

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    Maby she is cheating on you and wants her friend to seduce you to give her an excuse to end the relationship?

    Just a though, prolly not true.
     
  20. purplebeast

    purplebeast The depths of hell and endless torture await all h

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    Nope. And I tought about it. She is not testing him either. His girl wants a 3some or wants to watch him fuck her.

    If she was looking for an excuse to cheat or was testing him. She would have done it in such a way were he would actually consider going home with the other girl. Like if his girl didnt show up that night or something. Because if his girl is there. She knows he aint going home with anyone else.

    Another pausible option Is that she just gets a kick out of it. Kind of like " I have what you want " type of thing. I know that I've watched guys flirt and buy my ex's drinks while laughing my ass off because she is getting drunk for free and coming home to fuck me.
     
  21. Improvolone

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    Is it possible she just couldn't care less if someone flirted with you?
     
  22. Ninjarider

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    My thoughts exactly :bowdown:
     
  23. AlexC927

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    dont flirt back...she may not be testing you but your actions always have rammifications....
     
  24. Heyhey

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    assume the worst, she is testing you.
     
  25. Improvolone

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    Assuming the worst the key to a healthy relationship
     

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