My girlfriend and I have been together 8 years. From about a year ago she started complaining occasionally about me becoming increasingly "self sufficient" these days...too much, in fact. The slightly disturbing thing is, I kind of agree with her and see her point. It's kind of become a central issue recently, as I started wondering whether I have grown into a person who's happiest being left alone. And I am not sure I like the thought of being happier when my girlfriend is away--I do want to be with her. Some evidence: - I used to have more desire and drive to keep in touch with friends, make new friends, but don't anymore. - I don't feel the need to keep in touch with my family/relatives, and haven't actively done so for a couple years now. - We are in a long-distance relationship, and when she's here, we both find that I get annoyed more nowadays about not having complete freedom and control over my schedule. I have one television and one computer, and I am used to doing whatever I want whenever I want since I don't go out with friends much. I live alone, am financially independent, and don't like to go out with very many people, and basically have gotten used to doing whatever I want whenever I want. I feel happy about my lifestyle, but not so happy when thinking about my relationship because I have to deal with the possibility that as much as I love my girlfriend and have been talking about marriage recently, I might have become a person who doesn't need anybody anymore. Is this a big problem?