My girlfriend is amazingly sweet, caring, understanding, etc, which is something I love about her... Except for when she's these things at the expense of her own happiness. When it comes to people she calls her friends, this happens somewhat often. Several of them abuse their friendship, using her as some sort of emotional dumping grounds for all of their problems. In the past, when she's tried to talk to them about even small issues, they flat out ignore her, but don't notice the hypocrisy in their lack of caring while at the same time constantly using her in this manner, and often times even asking her to intervene in the situation! One of them recently needed a place to stay for a handful of days because of some of her problems, and my girlfriend let her. During this ~5 day period, she did seemingly everything possible to make my gf's life a living hell. Constantly bitched, monopolized the phone/computer/tv/etc, whenever they went out to do something to try and get her mind off of her problems, the girl would bitch about being out and about until my gf would say fuck it and head back to the house. She didn't complain to this girl once about her behavior, etc. She didn't have the heart to. Most cases aren't as extreme as that, but her friends do this sort of thing on a smaller scale constantly. She tries to avoid hanging out with the worst offenders, but then they guilt her into going, and she feels bad about avoiding them, so she'll agree to do something with them, and ultimately ends up having no fun at all in the best case scenario, or will leave downright miserable on average. She acts like she deserves the treatment they give her, because she avoids them when she can. I can't get her to see that she avoids them because they treat her like this, and she shouldn't feel guilty about avoiding people that make her unhappy, much less truly count them as friends. I don't see how these people can be so immature past high school. Fuck, I think most of the people I knew were more mature than some of the people she counts as friends DURING high school. She beats herself up about it, and whenever I try to broach the subject with her, she just acts like it's karma, and that there's nothing she can do about it. I tell her to try and make new friends, because there are plenty of decent people out there, but she doesn't make the effort to. She's extremely pretty (Way out of my league ), very fun to be around, smart, etc, so I don't really understand why she's so antisocial in this regard. It's a LDR [Which I'm perfectly happy with], so I can't introduce her to new people myself, and help her find some new friends, so I'm limitted to mostly just having her sit down and have a serious discussion about it. Nothing I've said so far has really had an effect - she is just stuck in the mindset that she deserves the way they treat her because she's avoided them, and feels guilty and bad for them because she doesn't see them. Any advice on how to get through to her? It's killing me to see that the only happiness she takes from her social life his her relationship with me, and that the rest of it, she ends up being unhappy with. She deserves to have nice friends, who care about her as much as she cares about them. Cliffs: Girlfriend is too nice for her own good. Her friends treat her like shit, and she thinks she deserves it because she avoids them when possible [Because they treat her like shit]. Having no luck getting her to realize that she shouldn't feel guilty about avoiding people who get her down.