Girlfriend left me for God...

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  1. NightyNight

    NightyNight OT Supporter

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    More of a vent, was going to just write it all down and throw it away but I can type fast and replies about the situation would be interesting.

    First of all I was a Christian my entire life, but I left the actual established religion and developed my own theories, I don't believe in their God, but I hold a lot of the same values morally.

    Story time...

    Beginning of the summer, everything was going great. We'd go out together every other night, text each day, hug, kiss, makeout etc... No sex though. Two months of that stuff pass..I developed pretty strong feelings for her quickly and I let her know, she said we have a lot to develop but she likes me a lot and wants to work on a relationship. Everything was still going great, we are still going out nearly every night and spending a lot of time together.

    Two weeks then go by and we become more and more attached, she leaves for a Christian School retreat as a volunteer. The first day she's there she's telling me how she misses me and how uncertain she was about going... day two and three I text her to see if it's gotten better for her and she doesn't respond. So she's ignored me for two days...I call to ask why shes ignoring my texts, no answer, I text and then she says that she needed space and wants to discuss over coffee the next day.

    The next day she says at coffee that she feels God is calling her to serve and to do other things, and that she doesn't want a relationship with me... Now she's surrounded herself in friends she's met at the retreat, and mutual friends we have, which makes it awkward to even try and talk to them about any of this. What sucks is that I feel like they know more about what happened with her than I do, she just doesn't talk to me about it other than God is calling her elsewhere...

    I feel like I have no choice but to respect it, but I also feel like it's a huge cop out. I feel like there's no closure since I have no idea what happened between when she stopped texting me till yesterday. I'm not sure what to do now either besides not contact her for awhile, I haven't spoken with her since yesterday at coffee.
     
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  2. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    sucks man.

    you sure she didnt find a guy there.... not "god"?
     
  3. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    Hard to compete with The Man himself...

    Maybe look at it a different way: Your girl left you for an imaginary person... you are probably better off
     
  4. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Are you sure she said God and not Jesus? Because it's entirely possible she met a guy named Jesus who has been calling her and that's where the confusion is coming from.

    Seriously though, I feel for you, man. That sucks. If she really feels like she has a calling that can't afford her a relationship right now, there really isn't much you can do aside from move on. Sorry to hear about your troubles, bro. Just stop talking to her, focus on other things, take care of yourself and you'll be fine.
     
  5. NightyNight

    NightyNight OT Supporter

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    you're the second person that's said that and it could be true, there was no communication so I have no idea, I hope not though I feel like I know her better than that.
     
  6. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :hug: That's tough, especially since she dropped you so quickly :hs: But you're right, there's nothing you can do but move on. You can't force her to stay.

    You may think you need more answers from her but do yourself a favor and don't go digging for them. <3 Just move on.
     
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    :rofl:
     
  8. NightyNight

    NightyNight OT Supporter

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    :rofl: exactly what half of me thinks, the other half cares about her and I want her to have her own journey and find her way through that stuff like I did, but i want to be there =/
     
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  9. Dreams2Reality

    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    :bowrofl: That reply, all of it, was gold.

    :bowrofl::bowrofl:

    :rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
  10. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    Move on.
     
  11. Viper

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    :bowrofl: :bowrofl: :bowrofl:

    That made me laugh really hard. :rofl:

    Gotta agree with the dude upthread who said she probably met another guy.
     
  12. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    WAT?:eek3::mamoru:

    She needs to be alone, and you need to move on.
     
  13. JBunni

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    Sounds like she's just not ready for a relationship. Some people choose God as a more fulfilling relationship, and I think its good that you respect that. She should have handled it better and informed you of why she made the decision.
     
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    and some people are retarded :dunno:
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yeah....you're better off. Trust me, you'll realize this eventually.
     
  16. Dahlia

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    This, and I don't know if you have seen the movie Jesus Camp, but some of those retreats can be CRAZY.
     
  17. NightyNight

    NightyNight OT Supporter

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    I have. I've been on 3, these school retreats aren't quite as bad but pretty close.
     
  18. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Maybe you guys can have a threesome.
     
  19. THoC

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    him, her, and god?

    i dont think id want to try and keep up w. the big guy.
     
  20. tibbar

    tibbar aww fennec foxah aww

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    Jesus...:rofl:

    I'd hate to repeat that you should just forget about her. But if she's too immature to realize she can have both you AND god then you're better off without her. Or she already realized this and just isn't that into you.
     
  21. tibbar

    tibbar aww fennec foxah aww

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    I believe I may share similar beliefs with the TS, and she may just not think you're hardcore enough into jesus.
     
  22. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    unless of course God's a woman
     
  23. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    well-played sir
     
  24. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Jesus freaks..... gotta love 'em! (NOT!!) :ughd:
     
  25. calisteph6

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    this thread is full of win.
     

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