Girlfriend kissed another guy

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  1. famous

    famous OT Supporter

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    she goes to a house party, drinks a bit(not blackout status by any means), and ends up talking to one of her gay male friends. ive met the kid, hes flamboyant, and claims hes been dating guys for 4 years.
    they end up sitting o na couch, talking, and then kissing.
    girlfriend claims it was no touching, no toungue, and about a minute long.

    its the first weekend after i moved out to colorado to go to school, but we've been seperated for 3 months on other occasions with no problems. we also just spend 3 months in europe, got home a month ago

    she called and told me about it the afternoon following it, in tears. and sicne then has continued apologizing and saying how stupid it was.
    she bought a $300 plane ticket to fly out this weekend and apologize and try to fix things

    we've been dating 3 year 9 months

    what do i do?

    is it not a big deal since hes gay?
     
  2. CorpseStreet

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    Whether or not its a big deal is hard for me to say. Personally, I wouldn't be too crazy about it but I wouldn't break up with the person. You really have to decide for yourself what you consider cheating.
     
  3. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    Hummm...on the one hand, if the dude's gay, then it wasn't exactly sexual in nature. She appears to be honest and forthright about it, and most of all, remorseful. I'd consider that an honorable reaction on her part.

    I don't think it's that big of a deal, especially if you have a strong amount of trust between you two.
     
  4. PlutoBHG

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    So a gay dude made out with your girlfriend for a minute and no touching was involved? wtf?


    EDIT: BULLSHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIT
     
  5. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    bang her when shes out to where you are and then when its time for her to leave and you still decided that shes not worth it and that you can't get her kissing anotehr dude out of your mind, dump her.
     
  6. famous

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    the dude is gay, its not like he was trying to get in her pants
    and it wasnt 'making out' cause there wasnt toungue. its almost like the guy didnt know how to react, and thats why it didnt go further
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    The fact that this just so happened to transpire soon after you two started an LDR, the kiss (regardless of no touching or tongue) lasted longer than a second, and she called you crying apologizing....yeah, that doesn't seem right to me at all.

    Also, when my sister was about 20 she had been dating a guy 3 years and they had recently moved in together. One night while drinking she made out with her good "straight" girl friend and said it was nothing. It wasn't nothing. My sister and he were having problems that she was in deep denial over so she started seeking attention wherever she could get it.
     
  8. Infection

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    Damn, tough situation. I'd let this pass but look into your relationship a bit more.
     
  9. PlutoBHG

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    It sounds like the guy isnt gay and its a bunch of bullshit to me...thats all im saying
     
  10. Infection

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    OP said he met the guy before and is gay gay.
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    "Gay gay" guys don't kiss girls for longer than 1 second. Trust me, I know a lot of gay men.
     
  12. Infection

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    Mostly right, I know a gay guy who had sex with a girl. A few girls. But he's fuckign gay as gay can be. He did it for fun with the girls.
     
  13. famous

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    he had girlfriends in hs, turned to men junior year, hes a senior in college now. hes taken it in the butt multiple times.

    hes gay.
     
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    So basically hes Bi...and youre living in a fantasy world where people can lean over and kiss eachother no tongue and no touch for a minute...wake the fuck up dude. Some part of the story if not all of it is bullshit...and its very hard to speculate accurately on a situation like this when you have BS to base it on...
     
  15. CorpseStreet

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    how do you know he's taken it in the butt?
     
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    Regardless of his sexual status your girlfriend kissed another guy.

    Only you can know where it goes from here. :dunno:

    But I dunno, I'd have a hard time trusting her. Getting drunk is just an excuse, she is responsible for herself.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :bowrofl: Oh the close-minded :mamoru:

    You obviously only came here in hopes everyone would tell you the kiss meant nothing, because you won't hear anything else.

    So just stay in denial and move on as if it never happened :bigthumb:
     
  18. Mass0r

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    maybe he's turning bi or back to straight

    looks like you just want someone to confirm that this isn't a big deal

    but doesn't matter if she's making out or just kissing or screwing a gay guy, straight guy, girl, whatever

    if you're fine with it, it shouldn't be a problem
    if you don't like it, tell her
     
  19. Leaden Grudge

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    Think about yourself making out with a lesbian, would you do that? Do you think that would be right?

    Whether HE had any intentions doesn't really matter, she kissed another guy, come on.
     
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    Just cause he acts gay, dosnt mean he IS gay. Yes, it's very rare, but I dealt with one kid who claimed to be gay, always acted as such, yadda yadda. The fucker would keep trying to do weird shit and inappropriatly touch my GF at the time, all the time whenever they were away from me. This guy was a "friend" of her's. I honestly feel that kid had some serious identity/social issues, and was acting gay to just try and get with girls.

    Of course, my GF at the time passed all the weird shit as "ok" cause he was "gay." No gay guy I've ever known/heard/seen has ever kissed a girl for longer than a nano-second. I call bullshit on this guy.
     
  21. Doflamingo

    Doflamingo Freedom is not enough.

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    These type of threads where the TS has a very obvious problem yet he refuses to admit to it are great. :rofl:

    I doubt he'll be posting in here again.
     
  22. Emfuser

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    Fucking idiot :uh:
     
  23. just_another_on

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    A minute long kiss with no tongue? Is that like a super long press of the lips? Do you keep going back in for the peck? I mean wtf goes on for a minute with no tongue?




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  24. iwishyouwerebeer

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    And :rofl: @ the boob obsession. They want them so bad!
     
  25. saosko

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    Would you be upset if he asked your girlfriend to fuck him with a strap on?
     

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