SRS Girlfriend keeping secrets?

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  1. A4Tuurbo

    A4Tuurbo Audi Crew::DSLR Crew::Indie Crew::Mac Crew::Guitar

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    I'm getting kind of scared here. My girlfriend of over a year used to date this guy who was less than ideal. They broke up on bad terms and didn't really talk that much for awhile. About a year ago he starts talking to her again saying that he made a mistake and he had been thinking about her a lot. She wanted nothing to do with it but he continued on with no respect for me. Fast forward to this weekend. She got a myspace message from him asking to see her this week because he was going away to basic training for the marines. There was no mention of this message to me, the only way I found out was by walking in her room while she was talking to her friend online. Tonight I cane to find out that she told him to call her this week on either Monday, Wednesday, or Friday. Those just happen to be the days I have work. Should I wait to see if she mentions it or should I bring it up to her?

    Im definitely not getting any sleep tonight.
     
  2. 04JETTA

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    the thing is you have to trust her you know i understand why you would be scared but she trusts you so you just have to trust her no matter what
     
  3. Durka Durka

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    break up with her
     
  4. A4Tuurbo

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    Theres a reason I didnt post this in the main forum. Keep the shit out of my thread please.
     
  5. A4Tuurbo

    A4Tuurbo Audi Crew::DSLR Crew::Indie Crew::Mac Crew::Guitar

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    See I trust her a lot and if she had said Im going to meet up with him tomorrow night because hes leaving I wouldnt give it a second thought. But its the fact that she hasnt even mentioned it that scares me.
     
  6. 04JETTA

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    yea yea i def see waht u mean if it were my girl id wana know perhaps just ask her gently and tell her that you don't want her keeping secrets from you
     
  7. Durka Durka

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    i'm serious

    if she's sneaking around behind your back, there's no reason to trust her and no reason to stay with her. grow a backbone and kick her to the curb before you get involved in more dodgy actions.
     
  8. A4Tuurbo

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    But she has never done this before. I dont see how breaking up with someone without even trying to talk to them or work it out is the right thing to do.
     
  9. 04JETTA

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    i agree with A4Tuurbo breaking up is not the way to go AT ALL imo
     
  10. Durka Durka

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    it's the safest, cleanest option.

    she's sneaking around, is she worth that bullshit? no, nobody is.
     
  11. 04JETTA

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    sounds a little paranoid to me :dunno:
     
  12. natestl

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    Why the fuck is she lying to you or keeping things from you? Huge red light right there mang.
     
  13. 04JETTA

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    good luck A4 keep us posted or PM me if ur still not sure peace
     
  14. I Pwn Noobs

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    i don't know if you're joking or not bro. His girlfriend is keeping secrets from him that she thinks he doesn't know, How the fuck can you trust a chick like that?

    i bet you get cheated on a lot:rofl:
     
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    I don't know this sits on both sides of the fence for me. I would encourage her to come clean, maybe foster a new level of trust and communication. Though I have to agree, if this persists, or she gets the idea that this behavior is acceptable, you must do something about it.
     
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    I would talk with her about it. Nothing good comes from hiding something like this. Not telling you something as sensitive as this is the same thing as telling a lie IMO.

    BTW, for some reason your av reminds me of a shark.
     
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    You should bring it up to her and talk to her about it. Maybe she thinks you'll get upset about it if she tells you she's going to see him before he leaves for basic. I dont think breaking up with her is the best thing to do at this point but if the sneaking around persists then I'd think about it if I were you.
     
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  19. Stev

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    its all circumstancial.

    Either u can think she is hiding it from you. Or when u are off work so she doesnt wanna waste it talking to this douche... so call him when she is free and it doesnt conflict with both your quality time together.

    Idk, wait for her to bring it up. if she doesnt after a while, bring it up casually like "so anything ever happen with {ex boyfriend} with him tryin to talk to u all teh time?"

    Wait and see her response.
     
  20. arseclown

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    just say "hey guess who i saw today in a car on my way to work" her: "who?" "your crazy ex. you talk to him lately?" her: [response]

    after [response], evaluate and proceed.
     
  21. JohnJohnJohnson

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    actually, controlling people will be betrayed more often than trusting people
     
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  23. The Militant

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    Or is it that you have never found out before? I'm not trying to accuse her of anything but it is a possibility. That seems extremely sketchy and if your relationship has trust coming from your end you should expect it back.

    I would be pretty pissed
     
  24. Omerta6

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    ^ for fucking sure
     
  25. Omerta6

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    Its a touchy ground if you approach her in any other way though.

    Sketchy situation if she never tells you... very dodgy.
     

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