I won't go into details, but I caught her smoking today, I didn't see her do it but I saw a pack of cigs and a lighter, she had smoked 3. While I am distraught at the thought of her doing it, this isn't the first time she has lied to me about it. She lies to me about it to make me happy, but in the end I get hurt. We talked about it after a long fight, and she explained to me that it was more of a social thing. There are 3 other girls in her training class, and one guy. The 3 girls smoke, and my GF does it to fit in -- to get some friends. So we wrote up an agreement that she will STOP smoking completely and stick to her word. The message is as follows; I promise that after my training, I will quit smoking. I will promise my words to him on this day of 7-11-06, that if I have a cigarette, I will tell him. I will not lie to him about smoking anymore, if he promises to keep this between himself and I. Conclusion: She doesn't want her family to know that she still smokes, her grandma has been diagnosed with cancer related to smoking. She came from a workplace where she really didn't interact with co-workers like she does now. I guess some people feel peer pressured to be 'one of the kind' in order to gain acceptance. I think this is shallow, but they are not people I'm trying to gain acceptance from. She is straight out of high school, so there is some naivetivity to her. But I think, that after writing this agreement, she is showing that she is indeed serious about smoking. It's taken a while for her to stop, but I believe now she will quit.