Girlfriend/Friend Question

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  1. firecracker

    firecracker New Member

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    I met this girl in class at the beginning of the year. We hung out a few times, usually with mutual friends and always got along. Around the beginning of August we realized we had mutual feelings for each other and started dating shortly thereafter. Fast forward to a few weeks ago, when she said that I disrespected her (which I felt the complete opposite way about) and she said she couldn't see me anymore. After the conversation we left on okay terms. I've felt like shit since since it was apparently my fault. Anyway exactly a week after we broke up she texted me. I couldn't bring myself to reply to it. It just felt weird and too soon. She just texted me again tonight saying "So are we not on speaking terms now?" I honestly don't know how to respond to her. I still have feelings for her and don't want to lose her as a friend considering that is what we were before starting to date but I don't know if I can act like just a friend again with her. What do you guys think?
     
  2. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    what did you do to "disrespect" her?
    did you two have sex?
    how long did you two date for?
    DO you still want to be "more than friends" with her?
     
  3. MattThom01

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    Has she done stuff like this before?

    My gut feeling says there is some game playing going on here. Look at what she has done...convinced you to feel bad about something you don't think actually happened.

    She dumps you, then texts you, expecting you to take her back?

    Is this relationship all about her terms? What about your terms?
     
  4. CorpseStreet

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    Just tell her you aren't ready to begin speaking again if at all and if she can't accept that move on and don't look back. Ever.
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I can't answer until I hear how you "disrespected her."
     
  6. firecracker

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    I do have part of me that wants to still be more than friends. No we didn't have sex and that is apparently how I diserespected her.

    Backstory... she said from the get go that she wanted to wait on sex until we got to know each other. I was cool with it (reluctantly in my mind but cool none the less). One night we were laying there watching a movie and she asked for a backrub. Afterwards we started making out and I was fingering her and started eating her out (Not the first time and never anything in return). Her panties were off at this point. I physically got out of bed to take my pants off to which she said "backrubs always lead to something more" which to me was queue that everything was okay. Tried having sex with her to which she just shut her legs. Continued fingering her to orgasm and then tried again. Same thing. Made out for a little bit more and then she got up and acted slightly mad. The next day is when she started freaking saying I disrespected her for trying to have sex with her. A week later is whenwe broke up.
     
  7. firecracker

    firecracker New Member

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    I've had the game being played feeling too but can't get past the feelings I have for the girl.

    The text really wasn't about taking her back per se but she texted me originally saying that "I finally got my tattoo" which I was supposed to go with her to get. Then the text tonight about not being on speaking terms is what has me thrown.
     
  8. JKLOLJK

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    She wants to feel missed. She feeds off it.
    Cut her off, hit a gym, and try again with other girls
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: oh, you are better off without her, kid!
     
  10. JBunni

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    A relationship should be give and take, even in 'sexual' matters. 1. she shouldnt tease you if she doesnt want sex 2. if she wants you to get her off, maybe she should at least go down on you. Now shes mad cuz she spread her legs and you wanted sex? She sounds a little selfish and crazy. Also sounds like this 'relationship' would have major issues if you tried to get back together.
     
  11. Viper

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    :bowrofl:

    Yup, you are in the right by not responding to her. You'll get over your feelings for her eventually (so long as you keep doing what you're doing and don't contact her).

    You don't want to get with a girl who considers your natural desire to fuck her as "disrespect."
     
  12. Viper

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    And unfortunately, you're not going to be able to be her friend for a while either. So don't go getting any crazy ideas like contacting her trying to be her friend while you still have unresolved feelings for her.

    Give yourself time to get over your feelings for her (I'd say at least 6 months), and then see if you want to pursue a friendship with her from there.
     
  13. Emfuser

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    Ok, this should be your obvious cue to stay the fuck away from her. You are NOT going to get what you want, so just walk away.
     
  14. Viper

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    A girl who says you disrespected her just by fingering her will claim you raped her when you have sex with her.

    Think about it.
     
  15. MattThom01

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    Hey look, games and manipulation.

    Stay away, you don't need shit like that in your life. I can guarantee she'll just find someone else to play her games with.

    I mean, really man, if you keep pursuing her, you'll just get frustrated.
     
  16. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    what everyone else above me said.
    She's not worth even keeping as a friend, unless you are a sadist and love her games.
     
  17. Franco

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    Listen to this man, Read this twice.


    And stay the hell away.
     
  18. firecracker

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    Thanks for the advice everyone. This is honestly killing me because of the feelings I have still but I realize it's probably for the best. Everyone here has just confirmed what my two best friends as well as my dad have said about the situation. I got another text tonight saying "If you want me to lose you number just let me know and I'll quit wasting my time"

    Damn this is hard because of a. the fact that I was friends with her beforehand and b. I still have those feelings that I want to be more than just her friend.

    Thanks again though.
     
  19. Viper

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    Well, that was a real bitch thing for her to say. Don't grace her with a response.
     
  20. Fiasco

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    Crazy bitch. Not in a good way. Don't talk to her again.
     
  21. Lindsay Loham

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    You're doing the right thing by not even responding to her.

    She sounds like more trouble than it would even be worth.
     
  22. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    just ignore her text. keep it up. STAY STRONG !
     
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    Run. Run and Don't Look Back.
     
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    Sounds like she's got some serious hang ups.. Not sure you would want to be with someone who's obviously uncomfortable with their sexuality.
     

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