Girlfriend argument: what would you do in this case?

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  1. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    One of my roommates just came home cuz he got in a fight with his GF. I told him he did the right thing. I want the Vag's opinion.

    Imagine this scenario:

    You're at your gf's place and she's being a bit, er, I mean, you guys are fighting about something. She starts ignoring you, goes in the other room, sits down on the couch, and turns on the TV. You go into the other room, ask her "so what do you want to do?" She says "I'm gonna watch TV. You can do whatever you want." You say "well if you're going to ignore me, do you even want me here?" She says "you can stay if you want, or you can go if you want. I don't care."

    What do you do?

    a) Stay there.
    b) Leave because she did not say "yes, I want you here," and anything other than a "yes" is a "no." Her saying "I don't care" shows indifference, and is definately not a "yes."
    c) something else?

    So I'm thinking if you do A, you're not having a backbone and showing her that she can disrespect you and you'll put up with it and stay there because you have nothing better to do. If you do B, you're saying "I don't want to be someplace where I'm not wanted," which I think is the correct answer here. C can be anything else, so if you choose that, explain yourself.

    Obviously, my roommate chose B, which is why he's here now.
     
  2. fray

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    I think it depends on the girl, and how you usually know her to act, and on what the fight was over in the first place...
     
  3. huntz0r

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    Correct choice, unless of course he actually was in the wrong.
     
  4. Socrates

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    It's nothing more than a test, and if he stays there, he is losing major points.
     
  5. mattz87

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    Leave. I don't put up with the girly BS, its usually a test to see how far they can push you.
     
  6. Falconer

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    Cool, so my friend did the right thing.

    So is it correct to assume that she did not want him there in the first place?
     
  7. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    He did the right thing. No point in staying if she won't talk to him.
     
  8. Elphaba

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    Yes, your friend did the right thing, but she did in fact, want him there. She was testing him to see if he'd give in and stay (yes, as a girl, I admit, I've played stupid games like this in the past, but they're lame), but he was right not to give in to the dumb shit and actually do it.
     
  9. bandwagon

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    He should have escallated by pretty much laughing at her and calling her a brat, then channel that energy into sex.

    Edit: But if you don't have the know-how to do that, just leave WITH NO EMOTION, ie: pretend nothing happened and just go as if you have better things to do.
     
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  11. lauren

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    do what you really want?
     
  12. Falconer

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    He as he was leaving he said:

    "this is retarded. I'm not going to stay someplace I'm not wanted. Had you said 'yes, I want you here,' then I'd stay, but since you didn't, I'm leaving."

    He said she replied with "well then what are you waiting for?"

    This reminds me of shit with my ex. ytf don't girls just say what they want?
     
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    I woulda lit a joint and got chill.
     
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  15. cls

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    My old gf used to do that... I'd leave her place and she'd call 10 minutes later saying "I can't believe you actually left!!" :rofl:

    Anyways, this girl is obviously trying to communicate something to your roommate, even if it is in a passive aggressive way. I think he should put at least a little effort into finding out what's up rather than walking out. At least he told her he didn't appreciate being treated like that.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Depends on a few main things. What was the fight over? And really how the girl is, because some girls say just go, but really want the guy to stay and try and work it out eventually-or they think by him staying that he really does care and is committed to making the relationship work.

    or

    She really was annoyed at him and gave him the ultimatum to test him. If he left she probably didn't care and knew that it was better he did because what needed to be solved wouldn't get solved that night. But figured time apart would help them both cool down.

    Either way, if this the same couple you always write about fighting? Because if so they suck as a couple.
     
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    Id rather not be in an argument about some stupid bullshit. I never raise my voice, and I ignore people that get pissed and lose controll of themselves or stop thinking rationally. Id sit down, light a joint, and chill out. Id let her hit it so she could chill too. Being pissed and stessed is so not fun, Id rather get high and be chill.
     
  18. Drilldo

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    I would've left as soon as she started acting irrational :rofl:
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Oh I'm not condoning the behavior at all! Hah, I was actually thinking while reading how I would just be like "GAH! Just get out of here and we'll talk tomorrow"


    and actually meaning it.
     
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    Obviously A in this situation. She wanted him to stop ignoring what she was saying and kiss ass. Leaving probably made her feel like he didnt give a shit...I am sure she was even more pissed off.
     
  21. demosnat

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    Depends on the person, subject of the fight and history but I would say
    C. "I understand that you are upset but you are being immature. I would like to work this out but if you can't manage to be civil I am going to leave"

    Thus: you have taken the moral high ground, let her know that you are interested in resolution, and taken a stand against this type of behavior.
     
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    What if u or she don't get high, then what??
     
  23. Falconer

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    Then you're dating a chick who's not a stoner?
     
  24. Falconer

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    Then shouldn't she have said "yes, I want you to stay here?" People should say what they mean, and not get pissed at an outcome that results from them NOT saying what they mean.
     
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