SRS Girlfriend acts like "Mom" sometimes.

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  1. Grizzlyadams

    Grizzlyadams New Member

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    Ive been dating this girl for about 4 Years now. Shes really nice and a great girl. I would say we were both raised completley different, Her family are Upper class, Money never an issue, college graduates, and thats all fine. My family are lower class, and like its just the way i was brought up, Anyway

    If im driving, she Freaks out and thinks im driving to fast, if i call out of work, Instead of being a normal girl and saying "OMGZZZ WE CAN HANG OUT", shel say why, you should have went, your not gonna be doing anything else. if i say i cant buy somthing because i dont have much left in the bank, shell say you should really start saving your money..


    She overreacts, Sometimes Shell give me an attitude and say somthing snotty, then when i reply snotty, she says she was just kidding, but its obvious she wasnt really kidding, so i get mad and shell say somthing like wow let it go. For instance she says You never tell me anything, theres so much stuff you dont tell me, and i reply and say I tell u everything i guess in a loud turn, she says wow i was just kidding, but its kinda obvious that thats not really a Kidding thing to say, you know?

    wtf
     
  2. john law

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    Should be a fun marriage :mamoru:
     
  3. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    some of that is BS, but other seems just like misguided advice.


    and ps, it's calling in. Not calling out.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I'm just here to give you the heads up-it's only going to get far worse.
     
  5. THoC

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    did you read the post... i think getting that right is the least of his grammar concerns :mamoru:


    TS. can you deal with it? it is not going to change. the further the RS goes (living together if you are not already, engagement, marriage) the worse it will get bc finances will become an even bigger concern of hers.
     
  6. GregFarz78

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    abandon ship captain
     
  7. liquidblue73

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    I don't see what the issue is. Those things that you mentioned that she does are things that may bother her and she's just offering some help. She may be too afraid to say somethign to you, she cares and it shows. Don't snap at her and listen for a change and you might learn something.
     
  8. GregFarz78

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    she's nagging him thats the issue she's his g/f not his mother
     
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    that's what happens when you date above your socio-economic-education level......she expects you're going to have values and a work ethic and be responsible, so when you do things like skip work or spend money you don't have, it spits in the face of how her family raised her.

    i'm surprised this lasted 4 years.
     
  10. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    Meh, the missing work and not having any money around could be seen as her honestly trying to help. Depends on how it was said.
     
  11. Ameter

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    sounds to me like she's mature and responsible and you aren't
     
  12. Ameter

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    none of that seemed like nagging to me. None of it seemed like acting like his mother.

    It seemed to me like she was trying to get him to grow up so that he'd be an actual partner
     
  13. BoomBoomBoy

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    Mommy syndrome.;)
     
  14. Dodger Blue

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    Well, I'm not an expert but I hear most of the time things like this gets worse.
     
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    she's probably on the verge of breaking up with him, but doesn't want to if he will actually grow up
     
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    Sounds like you need to stop skipping work and start saving money bro.

    Also girls exaggerate to make a point. All of them. Let it go.

    "You never talk to me!"
     
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    :rofl:

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  18. Japan Four

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    run for the hills
     
  19. blackbirdbeatle

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    From the first paragraph it seems like she was raised on how most people get rich. Hard work and saving. There are very few rich people nowadays relatively speaking that didn't get there through hard work and being thrifty when necessary. It seems like you don't share these values.

    The second paragraph it seems like you don't know how to talk to each other and you're both at fault. There are far more productive ways to handle your examples than reacting like you did.
     
  20. Lazy D.

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    maybe you're acting like a kid ?
     
  21. Yail Bloor

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    in general women tend to wait around for the man to do the breaking up, that way she gets sympathy and is the victim

    there are always exceptions of course
     
  22. Ameter

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    not always. In this case, I would suspect she likes him as a person but doesn't like his ethic
     
  23. CodeX

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    What are you whining about?

    Nothing you said is that big of a deal, if you find the stupidest reasons to leave someone, especially after investing 4 years in them, you can forget about marriage and children, not that that is necessarily a bad thing, but if you want that it requires a certain degree of commitment and willingness to work tiny shit like this out and not end the relationship over it.
     
  24. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Does the return of the old avatar mean you're now officially and permanently off the market, beer? :eek3:

    (sorry to thread-jack)
     
  25. GregFarz78

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    if i say i cant buy somthing because i dont have much left in the bank, shell say you should really start saving your money

    Sounds like he was trying to be responsible and not spend money he doesn't have :dunno: Its easy for someone with money to say you should really start saving when everything was handed to them on a silver platter. Usually dating above your economic class doesn't work out for this reason.
     

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