Girl..Pregnant UPDATE I just needed some advice. I've worked with this girl for about 2 years. We were always pretty good friends. She was engaged. I started having sex with her about a year ago. Said girl gets pregnant.. It's pretty much a 50/50% toss up on whose baby it is. The girl breaks up with her fiance and I am with her about 5-6 months. She was having a pretty hard time dealing with her being pregnant and leaving her bf of 5 years... When I was with her she asked me to be at the hospital during the birth and if I would help her if I could afterwards. I told her i would do what i can and of course I would come up to the hospital, afterall the kid could be mine. Well after all of this she is back with her ex-fiance. He does not want me at the hospital and i tmay not be a good idea if i do. Neither her or him want a paternity test now. I do want one to see if she is mine. I would like to be a part of her life if she is. Her and her fiance think that would hurt them too bad to let her do this. They whoever agree I do have that right they just don't want me too. So advice... should I get a lawyer now and get a paternity test AT the hospital if possible?? I would also like my last name on the birth certificate. Or should I wait until the baby is born and try to settle this? This is the first time I've dealt with any of this. It's a very messy situation. The reason he wants to keep it so hush hush is family knows nothing of it. So OT? any advice? UPDATE: Well I found out today she actually had the baby last thursday 4/3/08. She didn't even have the decency to tell me. I am BEYOND mad. I called her phone and her bf answers. He asked me why I was calling. I said I wanted to see about the baby. He said it was none of my business and to never call this number again or there would be consequences. I told him to fuck off. He hung up. 2nd Update: Her BF called the cops. The deputy called me and said that he said I was harassing him but he declined to press charges at this time. I'll admit I definately lost my temper when he told me it was none of my business. The deputy told me there was not much to do. She told me I might want to call and apologize and try to reason with them. But I'm not so sure that is going to work. I'm going to DHS tomorrow morning to get the subpoena rolling. Such a messy situation.