So I dated this girl for 4 years. I'm now 21 and I broke up with her. I talked to her about marriage about 2 years ago because I had really decided she was the girl I want to marry. I love everything about her except for the fact that she has basicly told me that she doesent feel the same. I completely understood that but I told her (after knowing this for the past 2 years) that I just couldent do it anymore because I didnt want to be with her until I was old and had a job and no way or time to date, basicly leaving me alone for the rest of my life. (not in so few words obviously) She seemed to except this for about a month. Now she is calling me, IMing me and texting me that she thinks I might be the one and maybe she was wrong but she still just isnt sure. She then proceeds to tell me that if I ever have sex with someone else she can't be with me again. This comes from the fact that we lost our virginity to each other and maintain that we have only had sex with each other. I understand what she is thinking and feeling but at the same time I don't know what to do. We are talking about being apart for years not a couple weeks while she figures things out. I am now kind of seeing this girl that lives next door and I'm not really sure how I feel about her. We have hooked up a few times but everytime we do, she wants me to have sex with her and I don't, but I really want to. I just think its really unfair that she is controlling me while we arent together. Am I out of line? Am I being un reasonable? help me please! (sorry for the ramble.) edit: also, I have no way of detaching myself from her completely because we have all of the exact same friends. She is at every party I go to and talks to me. I don't necessarily dislike it because as I said, I love her. But now I'm torn between loving her and liking this other girl. The other girl knows that I dated her and won't talk to me when shes around because she makes her uncomfortable. It also puts me in a very awkward situation everytime they are both around.