So I've been casually seeing this girl for a few months. We usually just hang out and it often eventually leads to sex. Nothing serious we just get together and eventually have sex. To go a week without talking to her is common. Anyways. Tonight we just got finished watching a movie and we start going at it. She always lacks energy in bed, and in general. She tells me she has "Chronic fatigue syndrome", and tries to explain it to me, but this is frustrating when we're having sex because she doesn't do jack shit. She usually just lays there. For example, tonight I'm going down on her in hopes she'll return the favor in some way. I spend a half an hour trying to get her off and she seems to be loving it, but it's clear I'm not doing something right (she never tells me what she likes or how so I improvise). I eventually give up because I'm tired and rather frustrated that she's not having orgasms. We sort of just lay there and I try to get her to be energetic. I shouldn't have to ask her to go down on me so I simply don't, but it's pretty clear here what's supposed to happen next. Especially because I have a harder time getting off than she does. She just lays there. So I'm thinking ...what the fuck. We're still messing around a bit more and I'm trying to get her to not fall asleep. Then she starts putting her clothes back on! So at this point I'm kind of pissed. After many failed attempts of walking away, getting a drink coming back, talking, trying again and again, etc. she's still just sitting there. So I'm like "Alright, time for us to get going", and she's ready to leave and we get in the car and head out. Now I'm clearly pissed and she definitely senses it. After some awkward silence I say, Me: "Any idea why I might be a little upset?" - she immediately gets emotional. I'm thinking...??? Her: Yeah Me: Enlighten me. Her: Enlighten you?! Me: If you know what's wrong then tell me... - She starts sobbing Me: Why are you crying? You're not making any sense. I'm the one who should be mad here not you. Her: something I dont remember over sobs Me: Look, if you think this is because you wouldn't let me have sex with you it's not that. I'm mostly mad because I spent like a half an hour going down on you, and you didn't do anything. You just layed there. Is this a one way relationship here, is that it? Her:You always say something everytime I'm with you that makes me upset. You always point out how tired I am and I just sit there. Me: Well that's because you do! That's exactly my point! Her: *distraught* Well it's maybe because I've just been told I dont have that long to live. The doctors don't know what's wrong with me, but they're saying that I probably wont make it another five years! Me: ... I had no idea what to say here. Me: Well why didn't I hear about this earlier, why didn't you tell me? Her: Because you're the first person I've told! (Her FAMILY doesn't even know) Me: Now I feel like an asshole. I'm sorry. Why haven't you told anyone? Her: Because I know how people look at people who are dying! I can't take that... Me: Well it's better to tell someone you'll feel a lot better. Did you honestly think I'm going to look at you differently? Fuck no. - I reached over and held her hand. I was completely . She was cold and just really upset the whole 20 minute ride back to her apartment. I didn't say much. It's been snowing hard and the roads were terrible so I had to focus on driving. I dropped her off. I told her to call me anytime if she wanted to talk (she never calls me and is usually pretty distant). Her face looked so sad and angry it sends chills up my spine. Why did she tell me. Her family doesn't even know. Shit. Could I have handled this better? What should I do? She completely broadsided me with this. I had to get this off my chest as it just happened. Thanks OT.