Girl I like has a bf, how do I wait this out?

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  1. Madwolf

    Madwolf New Member

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    So here's whats up, she was into this guy before we met. We started hitting it off, but she kept me a distance. I couldn't find out until she admitted to me something very major she had going on in her life. She even admitted to me that her now bf wasn't exactly her type right before they started dating. I would have dated her regardless, but I kind of felt like she might need some space, and laid off any talk of dating. She has basically admitted that she would date me after she started dating her bf.

    So here's my deal. I don't think she's going to be with this guy for very long, and I don't want to be anyway involved with them breaking up and me hurting her. So the question is, how do I approach this, talk and associate with her while she's with this guy?
     
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    I have been in this situation a couple times.

    If this girl really likes you more than this guy, you're probably going to be somehow involved in their breakup, not outright but at least in her head. If she's telling you the guy isn't her type then obviously something is up.

    If you want to be a nice guy, then be friendly and neutral as far as anything concerning her boyfriend goes but retain some classy flirtatiousness / innuendo. That is important so that you don't emerge as a friendzone candidate. Don't diss her boyfriend, but don't act interested whatsoever if she starts going on about how sweet he is. "Well that was nice of him" will suffice.

    I personally have had fine luck talking with the girl about her and her boyfriend's troubles and still getting the girl in the end, but I think some people would tell you that that is dangerous and a good way to get friendzoned. It all depends on the situation. If she wants you then just tread lightly, sit back and wait. Sucks ass that you didn't get her before this dude though. No telling what could happen with this relationship.

    Good luck bro.
     
  3. D7

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    were you in the guild Shadowguard?
     
  4. Madwolf

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    Thanks Seven. Definitely needed some advice on this one. Had something similar happen to be me a few years back when I was graduating high school and I don't want to screw it up again.
     
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    lol wut?
     
  7. D7

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    we played WoW together :mamoru: how could I forget Madwolf from KY?

    now don't derail his thread and give him your man advice ;)
     
  8. Madwolf

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    Cliffs: Stop playing WoW. :rofl:


    Okay, now that we have that out of our system, everyone focus. Stay with me here people. :squint:
     
  9. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    How long has this been going on?


    I think your wasting your time honestly. I don't think you should wait for her at all. If she really wanted to be with you then she wouldn't be dating him. And if she hasn't really been in to him from the start then she has no business being with him.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

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  11. Madwolf

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    Well, lets just say she is sick somehow, but looks to be recovering. Having a companion right now is something she really wants. I thought it would be a good idea to give her some space to kind of deal with the situation. We flirted and crap like that, but I didn't want to get friendzoned, and I didn't want to be that guy she's just dating because she was sick either.

    In hindsight I'm pretty sure I should have asked her out anyways, but this just an odd situation.
     
  12. ForgottenSpiral

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    Simple problem with a simple solution. Find a single girl.

    /thread
     
  13. giz

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    get a girlfriend that is hotter than her
    wait till jealousy surfaces
    dump hot girlfriend
    wait 4 days, let insecurity settle in
    date uglier girl
     
  14. ForgottenSpiral

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    TriPinTaZ !!!.!!!.!!!!.U.U.!!!!.U.! !!!! WTF?

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    Stop wasting your time.
     
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  19. Viper

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    I just want to post this:

    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=4260178

    to show you the clusterfuck that this is about to become. You won't get a satisfactory answer to this question. You're gonna have to figure it out on your own.

    I tell you how I handled it...I didn't make any kind of move back then and she went away. But I found her facebook and make random comments here and there whenever she posts shit. Aside from that, that's all I'm doing. Oh, and I moved the fuck on and am all the better for it, but the seed is planted and I toss a little water on it every now and again.

    Best you can do, homey.
     
  20. ForgottenSpiral

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    :rofl: Viper. So you're doing exactly what I told you to do in that thread. Not usually the guy to say this, but I told you so. :mamoru:
     
  21. Madwolf

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    Yea, I was reading your thread. :wiggle:
     
  22. Madwolf

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    Talking to some other chick right now. So kind of moving on, but I don't foresee this new deal lasting. So may be it will work out in the end.
     
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    TS is being strung along
     

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