SRS girl dilemma please help.. don't know which one to pick

Discussion in 'On Topic' started by Cobra Commander, Aug 3, 2005.

  1. ok well this is probably a relatively common question but i am torn between two girls that i like. one of them i just started seeing recently and we've kicked it off.. she likes me a lot and i like her but not sure how much i like her. i don't want to really break anything off with her because she is so nice and we've become so close but there is another girl.

    this other girl is from the past but i've liked her even when she got a boyfriend. she liked me before when i liked her only i was too much of a pussy to ask her out. well this was about 2 years ago and she's been going out with that guy for about 1 year and a few months but they recently took a "break". she started to call a lot lately and wants to "hang out"... and i know i still have feelings for her but i just don't know about the other girl. i have feelings for her too. its really hard to decide and i need to know how to go about this situation without breaking any of their hearts... i don't know if she'll be getting back together with her boyfriend but i'd sure like to start hanging out with her too. oh man :hs: i wish i was morman at times.
     
  2. Toasty

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    Well, it doesn't sound like you're committed to either one of them yet. Don't be a dick about it, but enjoy your time with both of them for now and let your heart decide the way. So long as you treat both of them respectfully, then there shouldn't be any guilt.
     
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    I have to agree with Toasty on that (with smile).
     
  4. the thing is one thinks i like her much more than i think i actually do.. but i do like her dont get me wrong. it's so weird. i really don't know which one to decide. tonight the girl that had the boyfriend said that she wants me to take her on a date... hmm lol :dunno:
     
  5. kaxfenix

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    You should go and think about this situation for a few hours. Go some where quiet where you will not be bothered. Think about the good and bad times with both of them, and eventually you will have a answer and it will be the most honest answer you can give yourself. From that point stick with that answer. DO NOT look back after that point, only move ahead.
     
  6. i shall do this but i don't want to hurt either of them
     
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    Well if you feel you absolutely must pick one....then pick whichever one makes you "happy".

    Even if on paper the other one looks better. I.e. better qualities, hotter, better this, better that. Forget all that and make use of your gut instinct.

    Which one makes you smile when you see her? Which one makes you laugh and feel happy?
     
  8. Ora

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    Dude go for the one youve wanted, you will feel accomplished
     
  9. Toasty

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    Don't feel pressured to have to "make a decision" yet if you're unable to. The tables have turned... let them chase you for a little bit.

    So long as you don't do anything you'd regret with either one of them during this period, you have nothing to feel guilty about. Just enjoy your time with them until you get that click in your head one day which one sings to your heart the loudest.
     
  10. itsjustme

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    Honestly I think the first option sounds better, hell you don't even know if it is officially off with the second girls boyfriend yet. However, I would probably just take them both out once maybe twice and see which one you are still hitting it off with best with and feel them out for their feelings towards you. Hope that helps. side note: Is the second girl just going out with you to make her boyfriend jealous (after all you said they were only on a break?
     
  11. lately i've stopped talking as much as i used to to the first girl and she is wondering what is going on.. asks me why i haven't been calling her. i guess if you do something when you first meet a girl (send her flowers.. call her all the time, etc) they expect it because its like she expects me to call her all the time and that's not how i am and she keeps asking me if something is wrong.. and is still calling me babe. i don't know how to tell her i am not interested really much anymore without hurting her feelings because she has an abusive background from family members and lives with her grandparents and wouldn't want her to hurt herself over it.

    i was thinking of maybe thinking somewhere along the lines of telling her "i'm not ready to have a girlfriend at this time but i still want to keep close" or something like that? not sure really...

    oh and a little update this other girl the one who had the boyfriend is jocking me hard right now and always wants me to call and stuff like how she was before she had her boyfriend and wanted me. :dunno:
     
  12. no they are definately broken up and have been for about a month and she really doesn't like him anymore. it's done she says for sure. i doubt she'd be using me because we both liked each other and confessed our feelings to each other a few months ago while she was still going out with him. i said i still liked her etc etc.. then girl #2 came into my life. we've made out on occasion (the new girl) i've never gotten physically close with the girl who had the boyfriend but a few nights ago at a party she was rubbin my quads so i dunno what to do.
     

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